Docs: Same-sex marriage benefits kids
March 21st, 2013
12:01 AM ET

Docs: Same-sex marriage benefits kids

Children raised by gay or lesbian couples benefit when their parents are allowed to marry, America’s top pediatrics group said Thursday in support of same-sex marriage.

“If a child has two living and capable parents who choose to create a permanent bond by way of civil marriage, it is in the best interest of their child(ren) that legal and social institutions allow and support them to do so, irrespective of their sexual orientation,” the American Academy of Pediatrics said in a policy statement.

Dr. Ellen Perrin, co-author of the policy statement, says marriage gives children of same-sex couples the same advantages of any married couple’s children.

“Marriage provides permanence and security for children, and those are extremely important for children’s well-being,” said Perrin, a professor at Tufts University School of Medicine who specializes in the developmental behavior of children. “(Marriage) allows them to grow up in an environment in which they’re confident of the solidity of their family and the fact that their family is just like every other family of kids they know in school.”

Almost 2 million children are being raised by gay and lesbian parents, according to the AAP. Only nine states and the District of Columbia currently allow same-sex couples to legally marry.

The policy statement comes as the U.S. Supreme Court is poised to consider two same-sex marriage cases next week. One involves the federal Defense of Marriage Act, which defines marriage as between a man and a woman. The other involves a California law banning gay marriage.

Critics of same-sex marriage have argued it hurts children, citing research that claims children do better when both a mother and a father are in the home.

In a 2009 story, Dale O'Leary, author of the book "One Man, One Woman: A Catholic's Guide to Defending Marriage," said being raised by a same-sex couple damaged children. All children have a natural desire for a parent of each gender, she says, and children of same-sex couples are forced to repress that desire because their parents won't accept it.

In a 2010 opinion piece, Bishop Harry R. Jackson Jr., senior pastor of Hope Christian Church in Beltsville, Maryland, said “An eight-year study of girls and their families showed that a father's presence in the home, with appropriate involvement in his children's lives, contributed to daughters' reaching puberty at a later age."

Although Jackson did not provide specifics on the study, Perrin dismisses such concerns and says virtually all the studies evaluating the benefit of having both a mother and a father in the home compare the situation to a one-parent family, typically the mother alone—not to two parents of the same sex.

“This is something that people are often concerned about, but in reality it just isn’t really a problem for these families,” she said. “It’s very clear that other people in the child’s family environment can substitute for a male or a female influence.”

In reaching its conclusion, the American Academy of Pediatrics authors reviewed more than 30 years of scientific research evaluating children raised by gay and lesbian parents.

“There’s no relationship between parents' gender or sexual orientation and their children's well-being,” Perrin said. “Our conclusion is based in the fact that there’s no evidence at all that same-sex marriage harms children in any way.”

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  1. naywooo

    “They won't listen. Do you know why? Because they have certain fixed notions about the past. Any change would be blasphemy in their eyes, even if it were the truth. They don't want the truth; they want their traditions.”
    ― Isaac Asimov, Pebble in the Sky

    March 22, 2013 at 10:51 | Report abuse | Reply
  2. naywooo

    “Imagine the people who believe such things and who are not ashamed to ignore, totally, all the patient findings of thinking minds through all the centuries since the Bible was written. And it is these ignorant people, the most uneducated, the most unimaginative, the most unthinking among us, who would make themselves the guides and leaders of us all; who would force their feeble and childish beliefs on us; who would invade our schools and libraries and homes. I personally resent it bitterly.”
    ― Isaac Asimov

    March 22, 2013 at 10:52 | Report abuse | Reply
  3. naywooo

    “There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that "my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.”
    ― Isaac Asimov

    March 22, 2013 at 10:52 | Report abuse | Reply
    • JFCanton

      That could just as easily apply to opponents of religion as well.

      The Clarke quote could ring true, but what's the alternative? Religion has proven to be the only way that morality (or ethics, to be more accurate) is effectively transmitted over time. We could lose the mysticism and end up with something like the purer forms of Buddhism, but it's still a "religion," and the mystical components still hold the bulk of the meaning for the large majority of its adherents.

      March 22, 2013 at 12:06 | Report abuse |
    • anon

      And yet, their are footprints on the moon?!?!? Fascinating.

      March 25, 2013 at 12:32 | Report abuse |
    • anon

      And yet there are footprints on the moon.

      In a span of less then two centuries, this country managed to rise to unprecedented heights. That strain is, or WAS, obviously not worth mentioning. Apparently it has grown quite powerful over the last several decades. Why? What changed?

      March 25, 2013 at 12:35 | Report abuse |
  4. naywooo

    And finally:

    "The greatest tragedy in mankind's entire history may be the hijacking of morality by religion." – Arthur C. Clarke

    March 22, 2013 at 10:53 | Report abuse | Reply
  5. Whit

    How does this benefit them!

    March 22, 2013 at 11:03 | Report abuse | Reply
    • TC

      The same way married parents benefit any children

      March 22, 2013 at 16:20 | Report abuse |
  6. treblemaker

    To Opposing View: Stick to your principles! The traditional marriage of the biological mother and father should really be the only way, but unfortunately in this world it won't be. That's because divorce is so easy to obtain through irreconcilable differences. It's the easy way out now for people who really don't care to work on a marriage, because that's what marriage is–love plus a lot of HARD WORK to keep it strong. When you bring a child into the world, all of a sudden your life is not about you or your career-it's about their well-being first. I don't care how loving and stable the article is trying to show how gay couples can be, it's still not the same as having a mom and a dad. All parents make mistakes with their kids. But at some point a person has to stop blaming their parents for their problems in their life and start growing up and take responsibility for their own life.

    March 22, 2013 at 11:12 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Scholar

      The marriage contract is the only one that creates next-of-kin, the person who supplants all others under law. With a couple who are married who have children, those children benefit from the marriage contract as each of their married parents then have all the parental rights to care for the children.

      It is a horrible experience to be denied the right to care for one's partner of two decades because the hospital administrators say you are not next-of-kin nor family.

      March 22, 2013 at 11:48 | Report abuse |
    • TC

      Same sex couples will raise kids – that's NOT the debate. No laws are changing, there – this is only about marriage. The only debate is whether or not those kids will be better off with married parents. If you believe that chidlren are worse off if their parents are legally married, please tell us why.

      March 22, 2013 at 15:51 | Report abuse |
  7. jennygirl

    once it becomes legal, they won't be in such a hurry to marry.

    March 22, 2013 at 11:13 | Report abuse | Reply
    • 1of2moms

      @jennygirl: Actually, once it becomes legal, lots of us will indeed marry. But that's just the point – it should be our choice to marry or not. It shouldn't be up to the government (or you for that matter) to determine that we're denied 1100+ federal rights that straight couples are afforded. Many of those rights are even extended to "commonlaw marriages" between 2 straight people who have co-habitated for a certain length of time. Do some research, ask a few intelligent questions. You'll get it one day...

      And for those who are tired of having the gay marriage debate, we are too. Legalize it and it ends. Continue to support discrimination and we'll have to keep talking about it. It's that simple.

      March 22, 2013 at 15:52 | Report abuse |
    • erin

      It's been legal here for almost 10 years. You're wrong.

      March 23, 2013 at 17:31 | Report abuse |
    • farside6262

      Jenny, don't you have homework to do?

      March 24, 2013 at 17:14 | Report abuse |
    • Fleur

      But people should have the choice. If 2 people love each other and want to marry they should be able to. They should have the same rights (regarding tax, inheritance etc.) as straight people.
      Children need loving adults to raise them. I cannot see why it matters whether they are a man and a woman, 2 women or 2 men.

      March 25, 2013 at 13:53 | Report abuse |
  8. RW

    I'm tired of hearing about gay marriage. Marriage in it's current state is an absolute failure. The nation's laws do not uphold traditional marriage, but the nation seems to want same-sex marriage also. Really what is the benefit besides health insurance and a tax break? At any time one of the couple can decide to anull the marriage for no just reason. That's not building a stable environment for kids, it's being used as a scheme to pick pockets of working americans. Half of the lawyers in the U.S. would be out of business if divorce wasn't an option. Why are higher ups now pushing for same sex marriage...simple...if John and Jack get married and John decides to leave...then Attorney Jill makes a truckload of money off of John and Jack. John and Jack both lose, the kids lose, and Jill wins. At the 50% divorce rate for traditional marriage the Attorney Jills of America are lining up to take cases already. Let's add gay marriage to the broken system and allow all of the Attorney Jills to double their business.

    March 22, 2013 at 11:15 | Report abuse | Reply
    • JFCanton

      More likely it would be Jill and Jane who would be breaking up. Gay men probably don't form exclusive relationships as often (you know, given that lack of exclusivity has practically been a positive value for the gay male community), but women are more likely to initiate divorce.

      Once people get over initial euphoria, we will almost certainly find that gay couples are MUCH less likely to marry than straight ones. In the most recent year available for Canada, only 0.5% of marriages were same-s-x.

      March 22, 2013 at 11:42 | Report abuse |
    • geggyg

      I think you mean divorce , not annul . Divorce is the dissolution of a marriage , but the records show you were married
      Annuling a marriage means the marriage never happened and official civil records show you weren't married at all. With civil annulments its generally reserved for 2 basic reasons-
      1- Marriage wasn't consummated -as in drunken quickie Las Vegas marriages.
      2- One person was lied to and tricked into marriage .
      For a religious annulment they use those resons and some others as well as other reasons ( usually money ). The couple still needs either a civil annulment but more often a civil divorce , in the catholic church couples often need an annulment (marriage never existed) to get remarried in a catholic church as the church does not support divorcees get remarried . Newt Gingrich got a religious annulment so he could marry I think it was wife number 2

      March 22, 2013 at 11:57 | Report abuse |
    • rosethornne

      You answered your own question, at least in part: health insurance and a tax break.
      Along with numerous other benefits such as inheritance, the right to hospital visitation, the provision of a stable home environment to children,and all the other reasons people might decide to get married.
      From your post, you don't want to get married. That is your choice. Now allow others to have their own choice.

      March 25, 2013 at 01:03 | Report abuse |
    • Mike

      " and the fact that their family is just like every other family of kids they know in school."

      I would be very interested in "hearing" how that works as the simple FACT is that they are not. Not even close.

      Once again, pure poo being perpetrated on the people for the purpose of achieving a desired outcome. Small wonder this place is called the "Communist News Network".

      March 25, 2013 at 18:37 | Report abuse |
  9. JFCanton

    If stability is the main driver here, don't we have to devalue the same-sex couples who acquire their children in the "usual" way, which is by breaking up the relationships in which the children were conceived? It's less damage than moving them to an entirely different set of two parents, but it's still not "ideal."

    March 22, 2013 at 11:34 | Report abuse | Reply
  10. Julie

    My resentment is not toward not the "gay" person – it is against those who support same sex marriage and making it appear or trying their best to make christians are hateful because they disagree with same sex marriage – I am totally against it and don't apologize because of my beliefs and those beliefs come from the bible – there is no getting around it for me – one who truly believes in obeying the Word must not support a union that God does not acknowledge – there is nowhere in the Word where marriage between same sex occurred. It is not picking on gays at all – it is not hateful – it is truth to me – that won't change – So who is really being hateful? If I chose to say it is just fine I would by lying – so those who do support this will have to hate ME but that is ok – love the sinner but hate the sin

    March 22, 2013 at 11:36 | Report abuse | Reply
    • watergirl

      It is because Christians such as yourself pick and choose which portions of the bible they will follow to support their bigoted beliefs.

      It is very, very rare that I meet an actual Christian who lives within the confines of the religion of their religion.

      Besides, there is a seperation of church and state and your bible does not rule the nation, thank the Gods.

      March 22, 2013 at 11:43 | Report abuse |
    • TC

      Marriage and loving families are not "sin".

      March 22, 2013 at 11:45 | Report abuse |
    • Scholar

      Marriage being a legal contract, the law dismisses, rightfully so, all religious organizations' views under law.

      References to the Bible in discussions of same gender marriage are bootless noise ignored by law.

      March 22, 2013 at 11:53 | Report abuse |
    • alex

      You are more than welcome to believe whatever it is that you want. It is a free country and I support that. However, just because you don't like it doesn't mean they shouldn't have the right to do it. If you don't believe it is in line with your faith then don't let them get married in your church. I'm jewish and eating pork is against my religion and guess what I won't try to stop you from eating as much bacon as you want.

      March 22, 2013 at 11:54 | Report abuse |
    • Fletcher

      I agree with Julie. My holy book endorses, and encourages, slavery. Thus, slavery cannot be evil or hateful. I have nothing against slaves, I am simply following the infallible, unassailable Word of God – it is truth to me! Gay marriage is like an ox of a moron.

      March 22, 2013 at 21:11 | Report abuse |
    • footfalls

      A response to watergirl:

      "It is very, very rare that I meet an actual Christian who lives within the confines of the religion of their religion."

      Christians aren't perfect, just forgiven. Many, many serious Christians I know are trying their best to live out their faith. This is what I see and know. The core belief of Christianity is that we are ALL sinners and that Christ died for that very reason. Many of the heroes of the faith found in the Bible did not live perfect lives. But they loved God and were committed to Him. Grace is a large part of our faith, but it is not cheap grace – that is, that we can willifully sin just because we will be forgiven. Rather, if we love God, much like we might love our parents, because we love Him, we do our best not to willifully sin but to live a life of obedience. When we fall, we are forgiven. That is the Good News, one of the core messages of The Gospel.

      March 23, 2013 at 16:01 | Report abuse |
    • rlk4s

      Jenny: your argument is an interesting one. It's the same one people have used to justify slavery, it's the same one countless historical tyrants used to justify their power, and it's the same one you are using today to explain your moral dumbfounding (see Jon Haidt's work on moral foundations, you might learn something about why you have a belief that has absolutely no evidence to support it).

      It would be great it we could take this conversation up to a level of non-ignorance: has anyone taken the time to read the countless scientific papers (not just a single church leader's opinion, but well-controlled, unbiased samples from across the country with proper controls) that addresses many of the concerns people raise?

      March 24, 2013 at 19:36 | Report abuse |
    • right.

      sodomy is a disgusting act which has not produced one child in the history of humankind. it is gross. sick .weird. and no amount of saying LOUDLY 'this is how we show our love' can make it NORMAL. sorry, but you're not fooling anyone. yes, the emperor is naked.

      March 24, 2013 at 22:57 | Report abuse |
    • Cynthia

      I agree.

      March 25, 2013 at 00:17 | Report abuse |
    • rosethornne

      "Hate hate hatey hate hate."

      – christians talking about anyone who is not exactly like themselves –

      March 25, 2013 at 01:06 | Report abuse |
    • Steverino

      And it is that simple. Amen!

      March 25, 2013 at 09:09 | Report abuse |
    • Larry

      "sodomy is a disgusting act which has not produced one child in the history of humankind. it is gross. sick .weird. and no amount of saying LOUDLY 'this is how we show our love' can make it NORMAL"

      Wow, it must be fun being married to you. I bet your wife is getting her sodomy on with your pool boy.

      March 25, 2013 at 14:56 | Report abuse |
    • deb

      Julie, the fact that you believe in the "bible" has nothing to do with letting people who are gay get married. Millions of Americans do NOT believe in your bible. What makes your bible the "be all and end all"??? Do you get that there are millions, yes, millions of people who do not believe in your bible. I happen to be agnostic but tend to "believe" there is some higher power...maybe only because I was indoctrinated just as you apparently were from an early age, but I have absolutely NO PROBLEM with gays getting married. Who are you to say who can and cannot get married??? If anything, it will be better for not only gays to have that commitment that everyone else has, but it seals/legitimizes things for their children. Do you not care that children are affected? This whole thing just seems so mean spirited. Gays getting married will NOT affect heterosexual marriages (half of which end in divorce anyway!!!!) in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM. Get over it. There are millions of gay people all over the world and they are not going away. By the way, I'm a straight 61 year old woman who has been married for almost 35 years. Why wouldn't I want others to have the same rights/opportunities??? Have some compassion for your FELLOW HUMANS. We are all in this world together. Try being understanding and inclusive. It's the only way.

      March 25, 2013 at 20:28 | Report abuse |
    • pliglee

      Oh yeah, I forgot that Jesus preached supression and persecution!

      March 26, 2013 at 09:58 | Report abuse |
    • amy

      How do you feel about divorce, so strictly forbidden in the bible? Or eating pork? There's nothing wrong with your beliefs, of course, as long as you are consistent in literal interpretation of the bible and not cherry-picking to suit any underlying prejudices. If you believe in a church-state based on biblical principles, outlawing divorce would be a good start and consistent with outlawing marriage for same-sex couples.

      March 26, 2013 at 15:28 | Report abuse |
  11. Peter

    I would be concerned about two gay men wanting to adopt a young boy.

    Just look at what happened in the catholic church. Until the 70's many gay men were afraid to reveal their lifestyle and decided to become priests to hide it from their friends and families. And because of that there was a huge scandal. Now that being gay is socially accepted, you don't see it any more because the church has weeded out all of the gay priests and gay men don't have to enter the priesthood to hid it.

    March 22, 2013 at 11:42 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Scholar

      Far more girls are molested by adult males than boys by adult priests or adult males. That is what statistics tell us. It is simply wrong for any adult to abuse children in any way.

      March 22, 2013 at 11:57 | Report abuse |
    • Marcus

      @ Peter- Are you for real?

      March 23, 2013 at 15:49 | Report abuse |
    • deb

      OMG! Your ignorance is astounding. Gays are NO MORE OR LESS liable to be pedophiles than straight men!

      March 25, 2013 at 21:00 | Report abuse |
  12. Pepe

    Gay civil union (marriage is defined as between a man and a woman so term should not be used) cannot have children. Children have to be adopted from other couples, get a surrogate womb or, if by lesbians, through one of them being fertilized by mail or artificially. Nature does not provide same sex couples with parenthood solutions except the ones listed before. So I would say, as always, nature knows better. I have heard the argument that different sex couples sometimes cannot have children, so that is the same problem. I don't think it is. Different sex couples cannot have children because of an illness, a defect or a problem, that is, an unwanted physical impairment that prevents them from having children. I do not believe that same sex copules are ill, have a defect or a problem.

    March 22, 2013 at 11:48 | Report abuse | Reply
  13. makdjalali

    lets check all these doctors back grounds and figure out why the are in such opinion.

    March 22, 2013 at 12:50 | Report abuse | Reply
  14. Mat D

    The expected responses are hilarious. I would counter why there needs to be a marriage at all? Marriage means nothing to the child. Sure the more support a child gets often the better. But marriage isn't the only answer. Family comes is all shapes, sizes, and variations. Why do you all have to live in the box of marriage?

    March 22, 2013 at 13:12 | Report abuse | Reply
    • 1of2moms

      @MatD – the "box" of marriage is only inconsequential to those who are allowed to enter and exit the box as they so choose. For those who are locked out of the box, it's a big deal. And it's a big deal for our kids, too. Why should their parents' (who have been together far longer than many of their friends' parents) marriage be deemed any different from that of their classmates' parents? It's part of teaching our children about fairness and equality.

      March 22, 2013 at 15:07 | Report abuse |
    • deb

      Matd – Marriage means a lot to children. It legitimizes their parents' union and makes them feel more secure. It also gives partners the right to make decisions that unmarried people do not have regarding the health issues of their spouses. It gives people access to their spouse's social security and pensions. THIS is a BIG DEAL. Maybe you are young and haven't thought about your future as a retired/elderly person but it will catch up to you eventually.

      March 25, 2013 at 21:11 | Report abuse |
  15. 1of2moms

    My son, who has two moms, is surrounded by wonderful men who make great role models for him. I was raised by a single mother who ensured the same for me. And just to clear a few things up: we're BOTH his mom, no – neither of us is called (or acts like) Daddy, and when we talk about our "lifestyle" we're referring to the things we do in our spare time – not our bedroom. In the 10 years we waited to start our family, we watched a dozen straight couples in our families/social circle get married, have children, and get divorced. If everyone else had to give the level of careful thought and legal/financial/emotional planning that gay couples devote to the decision to become parents, the world would be a very different place.

    March 22, 2013 at 15:01 | Report abuse | Reply
  16. Fern

    Gay couples are simply an aberration of nature.

    March 22, 2013 at 15:44 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Marcus

      @ Fern, What a sad, sad, sad person you are to make such a statement. I feel sorry for your family. Hope to God you do not have a gay relative.

      March 23, 2013 at 15:55 | Report abuse |
    • right.

      I agree, fern. same sex couples cannot naturally, biologically reproduce. that ought to tell us something is wrong here. bring on the bashing, rainbow people.

      March 24, 2013 at 22:52 | Report abuse |
    • Bill

      "I agree, fern. same sex couples cannot naturally, biologically reproduce. that ought to tell us something is wrong here"

      So you are proposing we restrict marriage rights for people with low sperm counts?

      March 25, 2013 at 14:42 | Report abuse |
  17. TC

    This is not a debate about gay folks having or raising kids. They already can, and do, and no laws are being proposed to stop that.

    This is only about whether or not their kids can have married parents, and if having parents who are legally married provides added security and protections to children. If you believe it doesn't, prove why.

    March 22, 2013 at 15:54 | Report abuse | Reply
    • 1of2moms

      Actually, there are lots of laws preventing us from adopting or having children. In GA, where my wife and I live and raise our son, we had to cross our fingers for an open-minded judge who was willing to approve our adoption case. There is no legal protection for adoption by same-sex couples here and in many states there are laws against it. This means that even if one half of the couple is a biological parent, the other stands to lose parental rights to his/her own child.

      March 22, 2013 at 16:13 | Report abuse |
  18. Ann Mody Lewis Ph.D.

    Same sex parents being able to marry legitimizes their relationship, and blessing extends to their child. "It says we are like every one else." Adrienne Rich used the term: 'compulsive hetrosexualism' that is the core of DOMA, but love cannot be owned. I praise the professional who took this brave stand because that's the kind of leadership this world needs on its quest for equality.

    March 22, 2013 at 18:17 | Report abuse | Reply
  19. SadHearted

    2 momies and 2 daddys are not parents by nature. right side and left side thinking will not allow it. This report by these Dr. are but a smoke screen for the gay movement agenda. Anyone that accepts any justification for gay marriage is blinded to the real purpose of life (and it's not so mankind can be happy). It is understandable that the world who adhere to satans teachings accept this vile doctrine, but sad, Oh! so sad when people whe claim to be followers of the teachings of Jesus Christ accept satans teachings orer Christ's.The world know who they follow. Why don't Christians know who they follow?

    March 22, 2013 at 20:29 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Bill

      "It is understandable that the world who adhere to satans teachings accept this vile doctrine"

      Oooohhhh, the big scary horned evil beast.

      I'm so afraid.

      March 25, 2013 at 14:51 | Report abuse |
  20. Jerry Okamura

    Would they benefit more living with a gay couple, or would they benefit more living with a heterosexual couple?

    March 22, 2013 at 21:41 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Bill

      They would surely be better off with g a y parents than most of the idiot straight parents I witness nearly every day.

      March 25, 2013 at 14:49 | Report abuse |
  21. Paul in Atl

    You have every right to believe and practice whatever religion you choose, but once again I see more of you loving Christians trying to force feed us your religious beliefs and then claiming to be persecuted when we refuse to give in. I have more than 40 years of experience with members of conservative Christian sects trying take away the jobs of gay people, (Anita Bryant) suggesting that gay people deserve to die of AIDS, (Jerry Falwell) and blaming us for the abuse of children while they were busy hiding the abusers (our friends at the Vatican). If it seems that I'm anti-Christian, perhaps there's a reason for that. Before you attempt to tell me how to live based on your interpretation of the Bible, please sell your daughters into slavery (Leviticus) ensure that slaves obey their masters (the Apostle Paul) and ensure your wives and daughters understand that they are property. (the Ten Commandments). This is all part of the inspired word of God, so you must live it. If you think the Bible has something important to say, live it in your life and stop trying to force it into mine. My experience in growing up in evangelicalism is that most of you don't really know what the Bible really says and are busy behaving more like the Pharisees than Christ. BTW, I think there might be a moot in your eye!

    March 23, 2013 at 10:02 | Report abuse | Reply
  22. Maria Woo

    All things being equal– two loving parents of same gender or two loving parents of different gender– which is BEST for the child? Why are the doctors missing that point? A family member to step in and provide a male or female "role model" is just not at all the same as having a FATHER and a MOTHER. Children will always want to know where they came from and find security and safety in being involved with and experiencing love from their mother and father. Most of the emotional/relational problems that adults have can be attributed to something that was lacking in their mother/child or father/child relationship. Just like the sexual revolution and divorce law changes in past decades were unchartered waters that have led to an array of negative societal trends today, so we shall see societal consequences resulting from validating this change in family structure which goes directly against our biological design.

    March 23, 2013 at 21:39 | Report abuse | Reply
    • farside6262

      @ Maria Woo...
      You clearly consider yourself clever and articulate so please be advised that the term is "uncharted waters", not "unchartered waters". We can all employ spell-check and the thesaurus. However, someone who just doesn't grasp the finer points, simply cannot disguise the fact.

      March 24, 2013 at 17:34 | Report abuse |
    • deb

      Maria, your view is flawed. Is it better for children to live in "group homes" or foster homes where people many only foster to get the money rather than LOVE THE CHILD??? Is it better to live in an orphanage than to be adopted by two gay people who will rear you in a loving, caring home??? Gays do not have sex in front of their children. Why do so many people think that? There are many straight unions where the children are sexually molested. Straight or gay...it doesn't matter. LOVE AND STABILITY MATTERS. Kids will not care if their parents are straight or gay...ESPECIALLY IF THE REST OF THE WORLD ACCEPTS THEIR LIVES AS NORMAL.

      March 25, 2013 at 21:28 | Report abuse |
  23. Joshua

    life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness

    March 24, 2013 at 01:21 | Report abuse | Reply
  24. Christy

    This is the best quote coming from a child on the matter: "Which parent don't I need? A mom or a dad?"

    March 24, 2013 at 02:51 | Report abuse | Reply
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    March 24, 2013 at 13:04 | Report abuse | Reply
  26. Chip

    What makes you think it's any different than if they had an attraction for young girls?

    March 24, 2013 at 13:10 | Report abuse | Reply
  27. akmac65

    Pepe...... "Nature" causes miscarriages and birth defects, not to mention a host of diseases. Your OPINION, is not fact, no matter how much you believe it.

    March 24, 2013 at 15:37 | Report abuse | Reply
  28. rlk4s

    You mean like in the Catholic church?

    March 24, 2013 at 19:37 | Report abuse | Reply
  29. Dee

    look at the mess it causes when gay couples get divorced. Its much more confusing for children. Oh you have two mothers? ok now you have a mother and another mother, but your 1 mother is remarried. GEEZ!!! talk about the breakdown of society. No wonder we are so screwed up. Nobody believes in God.

    March 25, 2013 at 10:19 | Report abuse | Reply
    • anon

      The exact same kind of nastiness happens with heterosexual marriages dissolving everyday. Sometimes it's downright unavoidable, but mostly it's just about a nation of narcissists. Either way, It's a vile business what we are willing to put our children through for the sake of our own jollies, and we as a nation should be ashamed of ourselves.

      March 25, 2013 at 12:54 | Report abuse |
    • Amber

      The lack of belief in a deity is not the problem. It's irrelevant to this conversation, we do not live in a theocracy. We are discussing the benefits of same-sex marriage and how it benefits children. If you have empirical data that shows is detrimental to children, by all means share it with us.

      March 26, 2013 at 06:22 | Report abuse |
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  31. comeon

    But it's just a piece of paper.

    March 25, 2013 at 12:51 | Report abuse | Reply
  32. JustaGuy

    An absolute crock of B.S. The fact that Gays are allowed to have / adopt any kid is a blatant tragedy! I pity the kids!!!!

    March 25, 2013 at 12:57 | Report abuse | Reply
  33. anon

    Kids need TWO parents now? Doesn't even matter what gender as long as there are TWO? Okay, so are the "experts" now saying that Murphy Brown and a generation of single mother parenting being perfectly okay was actually full of it?

    Way too much pride to ever admit that Dan Quayle could be right on ANYTHING huh?

    Oh and on a side note: The media never admitted it, but he spelled potato correctly. The "e" is added when potato is spelled in the plural.

    March 25, 2013 at 13:11 | Report abuse | Reply
  34. Coyote

    Isn't the purpose to EQUATE same-sex unions to heterosexual marriage? Marriage is the Lord's blessing of the union between a man and a woman. If you are so hell-bent (excuse the pun) to separate church and state...why not legally push for the state to equate civil union to marriage . That would provide all the "rights" i.e. visitation, inheritance, distribution of property that are really the driving forces behind the movement. Just don't equate same-sex unions to the 33 years that I have devoted to my wife and children. The harm that comes to children of same sex unions happens on the playgrounds.

    March 25, 2013 at 14:27 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Rose

      Coyote – exactly what I think is logical. Civil Union is for same-sex relationships legally and marriage remains under the eyes of God and his words meant for man and woman. Seems like a win-win situation so why hasn't anybody put this on the table out there??

      March 25, 2013 at 17:06 | Report abuse |
  35. Coyote

    Just learn to agree that the lifestyles are DIFFERENT. Therefore the term marriage can not be the same. This way you do not insult my religious belief and I don't have to equate our lifestyles. Quit with the abhorrent talk. Judgement will come soon enough. Just don't try walking down the aisle of a Christian church that you seem to despise to join hands in a union that you feel is sure to fail. I feel that a two parent family IS better than a single parent arrangement. Adoption takes alot of time effort pain and strain. Oh...so does keeping a marriage together. I come from a divorced household. I turned out just fine.

    March 25, 2013 at 14:43 | Report abuse | Reply
  36. Bill

    Are you too stupid to understand the difference between pedo philia and orientation?

    March 25, 2013 at 14:44 | Report abuse | Reply
  37. Coyote

    Congratulations on your marriage, Siani. You were raised well. It's not 50% divorce rate. That's a media-driven lie. Will you be raising your children in faith? Is your husband of the same faith? Did you promise to raise your children to love God as is declared in the ceremony? Not judging...just confused.

    March 25, 2013 at 15:06 | Report abuse | Reply
  38. Coyote

    Why do doctors get into politicalarenas anyway? Oh, yeah...they think they're God. They love proving how politically correct they are.

    March 25, 2013 at 15:15 | Report abuse | Reply
  39. SmellsFishy

    The gay way is a conundrum for kids especially once you get outside of urban areas where it is much less accepted. They are susceptable to more bullying and of course have to wonder why does everyone else have a mom and a dad? In another 10 years this will have all worked itself out even in the most backward@ss places. In the end having two loving parents is way more important that what sex they are.. two many kids suffer through dead beat parents and end up flipping sliders or in prison as adults.

    March 25, 2013 at 15:46 | Report abuse | Reply
  40. Dafish

    Does anyone really listen to doctors?

    March 26, 2013 at 08:26 | Report abuse | Reply
  41. yashca

    Two women together or two men together can not make a baby. One of the things you should have learned in school was that you need 1 egg and 1 sperm to make a baby. At some point someone of another sex has to be involved in the process. Until two people of the same sex can produce a baby together they shouldn't have any children because naturally it can not occur.
    You can love, respect and be committed to a person without being married. People do it all the time. Can a same sex couple love and cherish a child? Sure they can but is it normal and like everybody else as the article would have you believe. No it's not. You shouldn't try to make it seem like it is the same.

    March 26, 2013 at 11:18 | Report abuse | Reply
  42. Gadflie

    What's wrong with having two dads? Jesus did!

    March 26, 2013 at 23:20 | Report abuse | Reply
  43. Brian

    Alright, i am ok with gay couples having the same benefits as straight couples.
    My question is why do we have to call it marriage? Marriage is a biblical principle.
    Why can't we just call it civil-union or something like that?

    March 30, 2013 at 21:18 | Report abuse | Reply
  44. PRS0693

    My daughter is gay, she is who she is, end of story. She deserves every freedom and liberty afforded to anyone else. People want to say same sex parenting is bad for kids, but I've seen plenty of opposite sex parents completely destroy children. Being a good parent is not defined by your sexual orientation, it's defined by whether or not you are a good human being.

    April 2, 2013 at 16:22 | Report abuse | Reply
  45. audrey

    I am the child of gay parents .They have been together for 14 years , I have friends in school who wish their parents were like mine. being raised by a gay couple os no more different then how people I know that are raised by heterosexual parents. the stability is comforting and I am loved and supported by my parents in everything I do . we are a family . who decided what the term traditional upbringing is? jesus ? everyone raises their family differently . I dont see anybody bashing on the people who are crackheads and raising kids, but its cool because their heterosexual right ?

    April 27, 2013 at 20:28 | Report abuse | Reply
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  48. David

    I think its really sad to see the decline of traditional marriage in our country. Children need a father figure and a mother figure in their lives. I don't care if you don't believe in God. That is the way nature designed life to come about: a man and a woman – not two women or two men. This is only furthering the moral decline in our country in regards to weakening traditional marriage, the value of life, the value of family. We are not headed in a good direction by allowing people just to adopt and do whatever they want.

    August 9, 2013 at 12:40 | Report abuse | Reply
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