 |
|
|
|
June 29th, 2012
01:37 PM ET
Are men 'sexually fluid'?Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex weekly on The Chart. Read more from him on his website, GoodInBed.
Can a gay man who is sexually attracted to women still be gay? And what about straight men who get turned on by other men? Are men “sexually fluid”? Female sexual fluidity - the capacity to move from romantic relationships with men to those with women, and vice versa - is well established, as I’ve previously discussed. Male sexual fluidity is less clear, yet it seems to be on the minds of many men and women. In fact, I’m often approached by women who are worried because they’ve caught their husbands or boyfriends looking at gay porn. “Many straight men are just curious about gay sex and how it works... or are turned on by gay male porn but have no desire to actually have sex with a man,” he explains. In other cases, straight men may be just looking for an anatomy lesson. “In our data, fewer than 2% of straight men searched for both gay porn and straight porn,” says neuroscientist Dr. Ogi Ogas, who, as coauthor of the book "A Billion Wicked Thoughts," analyzed a billion Internet searches and other sources of sexual data. “Yet straight men do search for images of penises - especially large penises - almost as often as they search for vaginas.” So it’s possible that these men aren’t necessarily interested in sex with other men, but are simply comparing their own anatomy to that of other guys. A man could also be looking for new fantasies: If he’s a heavy porn user, a straight man may peruse gay porn as his ability to become aroused by straight porn ebbs and his tolerance to sexual imagery increases. Some guys say they surf porn the way they surf TV channels, and what they stop on depends on their mood or the interest level of the content itself. It’s this tendency to focus on sex acts themselves, rather than gender, that partly helps explain male sexual fluidity, says Kort. “Straight men may go to Craigslist and get turned on by the descriptions of sexual acts with other men, but aren’t actually turned on by the men themselves,” he explains. “This is what separates ‘mostly’ straight men from gay men.” One thing is clear, though: Society is a lot less accepting of male sexual fluidity. Elisabeth Loyd, an affiliated faculty scholar at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction reports that many men themselves say they find their potential for sexual fluidity “very threatening.” And Kort tells me that he’s been criticized by some in the gay community for his view on male sexual fluidity because the concept of sexual fluidity implies that sexual orientation may be more a matter of choice than genetics. Sadly, it seems that women are freer to explore sexual fluidity - either in fantasy or reality. “Women have more permission to be sexually fluid, or even to just be physically loving and affectionate with female friends,” says Kort. “Men do not have these permissions without being labeled as forever ‘gay’.” Indeed, we seem to feel the need to force men to define their sexuality as “gay” or “straight”. The results of a recent study in the journal Biological Psychology may help change that. The study demonstrated that some men who say they’re “bisexual” actually do get aroused by both men and women - a big change from an earlier study found no proof that male bisexuality exists. And some research suggests that acceptance of both male and female sexual fluidity may increase with younger generations: According to Cornell University psychologist Ritch Savin-Williams more teenagers and young adults are avoiding such labels as “gay,” “lesbian” or “bisexual” altogether or are inventing new descriptions, such as “mostly straight.” And living life, rather than focusing on labels, is a large part of what sexual fluidity is all about. The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Ian Kerner. soundoff (1,330 Responses)« Previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 Next »Leave a Reply to felixelgato1954@att.net
Next entry »'Love for Alyssa': Examining arthrogryposis
« Previous entryChild birth like you've NEVER seen it
|
  About this blog
Get a behind-the-scenes look at the latest stories from CNN Chief Medical Correspondent, Dr. Sanjay Gupta, Senior Medical Correspondent Elizabeth Cohen and the CNN Medical Unit producers. They'll share news and views on health and medical trends - info that will help you take better care of yourself and the people you love.
 |
|
|
|
In a new critically-acclaimed 
https://kloviagrli.com/ – is viagra funded by government https://vigedon.com/ – online pharmacy ezzz viagra https://llecialisjaw.com/ – adderall and cialis https://jwcialislrt.com/ – adderall and cialis https://jecialisbn.com/ – cialis free trial
http://essaywriteris.com/ – automatic essay writer the essay writer buy essay online cheap how to write my college essay
https://ljcialishe.com/ – order cialis https://cialisvja.com/ – cialis no prescription https://viagraonlinejc.com/ – how fast does viagra work https://viagratx.com/ – purple viagra https://buycialisxz.com/ – how to buy cialis online
https://dissertationahelp.com/ – dissertation help service dissertation writing assistance examples of dissertation best dissertation editing services
https://thesisacloud.com/ – how to write a phd thesis master thesis writing service what is thesis in writing phd thesis help
Oh my goodness! Incredible article dude! Thanks, However I am going through troubles with your RSS. I don’t know why I am unable to join it. Is there anybody else having the same RSS problems? Anybody who knows the answer will you kindly respond? Thanks!!
https://extraproxies.com/buy-proxies/500-proxy-pack
You made some really good points there. I checked on the internet to learn more about the issue and found most people will go along with your views on this website.
https://extraproxies.com/buy-proxies/2000-proxy-pack/
Heya i am for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It truly useful & it helped me out
a lot. I hope to give something back and aid others like you aided me.
cheap zithromax pills: generic zithromax average cost of generic zithromax
http://zithromaxproff.com/# zithromax for sale us
Everything is very open with a clear clarification of the issues. It was really informative. Your website is useful. Many thanks for sharing!
https://extraproxies.com/tag/querystring/
You're so cool! I don't suppose I've truly read through anything like that before. So wonderful to find another person with a few original thoughts on this subject matter. Seriously.. thanks for starting this up. This site is something that is needed on the web, someone with a bit of originality!
https://extraproxies.com/make-the-sorting-and-recursion-fastest/
https://thesisacloud.com/ – writing a thesis paragraph thesis proposals thesis topics in education phd thesis writing
Hello! It's a best vodeo downloader online – FastFrom, allows to save all videos from internet to
you mobile or PC!
https://thesiswritingtob.com/ – thesis consultant online thesis thesis statistics help business thesis topics
Thanks, this is a great list. I’m now following around half the folks I’ve commented on – so for me this has been a double win – the comment and the further reading material that helps me and my blog!
https://shikasharma.com
tadalis sx https://elitadalafill.com/ tadalafil generic
Thanks again for sharing a wonderful list. I was wondering u did not mention the most sought after terminology used in all the blog commenting articles.
https://shikasharma.com
sildenafil paypal https://eunicesildenafilcitrate.com/ purchase sildenafil 20 mg
I guess the most important thing is to steer clear away from spam moderators by putting comment that actually MATTER. Anyways, I’ll be using these blogs. Thank you so much!
https://shikasharma.com
Thanks again for sharing a wonderful list. I was wondering u did not mention the most sought after terminology used in all the blog commenting articles.
https://shikasharma.com
alprostadil drug guide nursing implication https://alprostadildrugs.com/ alprostadil injection demonstration
edex (alprostadil) https://alprostadildrugs.com/ alprostadil penile injection
generic vardenafil 20mg india https://vegavardenafil.com/ vardenafil cost
vardenafil sublingual generic https://vegavardenafil.com/ vardenafil how to take
tadalafil dosage https://elitadalafill.com/ buy tadalafil
sildenafil soft tablets https://eunicesildenafilcitrate.com/ sildenafil 50 mg tablet price in india
https://thesisacloud.com/ – thesisacloud.com thesis writing assistance thesisacloud.com writing a doctoral thesis
https://thesiswritingtob.com/ – thesiswritingtob.com phd thesis database thesiswritingtob.com thesis publishing
viagra pills order https://eunicesildenafilcitrate.com/ sildenafil 20 mg price
vardenafil prices india https://vegavardenafil.com/ side effects for vardenafil
z pak indications https://zithromaxes.com/ azithromycin drugs
cialis viagra combination canadian pharmacy https://canadacialisstore.com/ canadian pharmacy cialis without prescription
I like what you guys are usually up too.
Such clever work and coverage! Keep up the superb works guys
I've included you guys to my blogroll.
tadalafil online https://elitadalafill.com/ tadalafil 40 mg daily
620406 844214Thank you for the sensible critique. Me and my neighbor were just preparing to do some research on this. We got a grab a book from our area library but I believe I learned far more clear from this post. Im quite glad to see such superb data being shared freely out there. 71362
best erectile dysfunction medicine https://canadaerectiledysfunctionpills.com/ best erectile dysfunction medication
My programmer is trying to persuade me to move to .net from PHP. I have always disliked the idea because of the expenses. But he's tryiong none the less. I've been using Movable-type on various websites for about a year and am concerned about switching to another platform. I have heard good things about blogengine.net. Is there a way I can transfer all my wordpress posts into it? Any help would be greatly appreciated!
https://extraproxies.com/
Wow, awesome weblog structure! How lengthy have you been blogging for?
you make blogging look easy. The overall look of your web
site is excellent, as smartly as the content!
Great post. I used to be checking constantly this weblog and I'm impressed!
Very helpful information specifically the last phase 🙂 I take
care of such info a lot. I used to be looking for this certain information for a very lengthy time.
Thank you and best of luck.
staxyn (vardenafil) https://vegavardenafil.com/ vardenafil prices india
tadalis sx https://elitadalafill.com/ buy tadalafil
sildenafil 120 mg https://eunicesildenafilcitrate.com/ sildenafil drug prices
My brother recommended I might like this blog.
He was totally right. This post truly made my day.
You can not imagine just how much time I had spent for this info!
Thanks!
Hello there, I discovered your site by the use of Google whilst searching for a related matter, your website came up, it appears good.
I've bookmarked it in my google bookmarks.
Hello there, just become aware of your blog thru Google, and located that it is really informative.
I'm gonna be careful for brussels. I'll be grateful if you
proceed this in future. Lots of folks will probably be benefited from your writing.
Cheers!
how to buy teva sob for viagra in canada https://canadaviagrastore.com/ viagra canada purchase
buy cialis overnight delivery http://asciled.com/ genaric cialis
cialis viagra combination canadian pharmacy https://canadacialisstore.com/ do you need prescription for canadian perscribition of cialis in usa
how much is alprostadil https://alprostadildrugs.com/ alprostadil injection demonstration video
viagra with alcohol https://gensitecil.com/ best online pharmacy for viagra
cialis tablets tadalafil https://boxtadafil.com/ centurion laboratories tadalafil