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Who are you fantasizing about during sex?Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him at his website, GoodInBed.
Do taboo thoughts make their way into your most intimate real-life moments? If so, take a deep breath and relax. You’re not alone, in fact you’re probably in the majority. In one study published by The Journal of Sex Research, 98% of partnered men and 80% of partnered women said that they had fantasized about someone other than their partner during sex in the previous two months. Whew! CNNHealth's sex expert blogger Ian Kerner stops by to talk about the rise in women using porn on HLN's The Joy Behar Show, Thursday, 9 p.m. ET The truth is, a healthy fantasy life is one of the keys to a great sex life - even when your partner might not always play the leading role. Most people find that they are most sexually satisfied when they are intimate with one person with whom they feel completely comfortable. Along with this intimacy comes the freedom to let go and explore, including fantasizing about other people, places, and situations. In one study on sexual fantasy by noted expert Dr. Harold Leitenberg it was concluded that sexual fantasies occur most often in people with the highest sexual satisfaction and the healthiest sex lives. So your fantasies aren’t an indication that something is wrong, but rather that something is right. Fantasies play a valuable role in our sex-lives. First off, they fuel arousal: “Thoughts can create real physical changes in your body, and you can use this to your advantage,” writes sex educator Emily Nagoski in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms. “This is why people fantasize even while they’re having sex - the added juice of the fantasy heightens arousal when the physical sensations aren’t enough to get us where we want to go.” Fantasies also free the brain to explore secret, extraordinary realms without the obligations of everyday life. Kaye Wellings, a respected British biologist, puts it best in her book, "First Love, First Sex:" “Fantasies perform a valuable function. Most of us, most of the time, behave conservatively, sexually and otherwise. Our erotic experiences represent only the tip of the iceberg in terms of possibilities. Many possibilities only see the light of day through fantasies or dreams, seldom as reality.” And says Good in Bed expert Ann Potter, “I like to imagine that fantasizing is like putting training wheels on my desires - those desires that are maybe a little too 'out there' for me or my partner to get on board with acting out right away, or ever.” And when it comes to fantasies, adults do just fine with a permanent set of training wheels, and needn’t bother with graduating to a two-wheeler. The brain is the biggest sex organ and a little fantasizing goes a long way. So rather than resist your fantasies, let yourself enjoy them. Trying to suppress fantasies may end up doing more harm than good. In the mid-1980s, Dr. Daniel Wegner at the University of Virginia studied the menchanics of thought-suppression in an experiment known as the “white bear study.” Wegner sat people in a room with a tape recorder and told them to say whatever came to mind, with one exception: Don’t think about a white bear. No surprise, people mentioned the bear constantly. The more they tried not to think about it, the more they mentioned it. By suppressing a forbidden thought the brain never gets a chance to fully process that thought, and what could just be an innocent fantasy suddenly becomes a guilt-laden white bear that won’t go away. Most of the time it’s not our fantasies that are the problem, but rather our reactions to our fantasies - the feelings of shame and guilt, as well as our anxieties and fears about what those fantasies might really mean. But fantasies are meant to be enjoyed and if they weren’t taboo, well then they wouldn’t be fantasies to begin with. soundoff (1,793 Responses)« Previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 Next »Leave a Reply to 먹튀검증커뮤니티
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Tell the truth (or rather, think the truth): have you ever fantasized during sex about someone other than the person you’re actually having sex with? Perhaps there’s a particular celebrity that turns you on, or a former flame, or even (heaven forbid) a brother or sister-in-law?
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Oh, and for those of you that think passionate love is a slow thing...try grinding it out one time, fantasy style! if you don't break a sweat then you're not doing it right! 🙂
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I think of someone's EQ2 avatar from the EQ2Flames forum. She got a hot little cartoon butt
Guess what I'm thinking about?
Does it involve left turns or uhhhh beer?
Awww Bubba yer too sweet.
You are both wrong.
You were all thinking about my wife last night, weren't you?
Nobody ever fantasizes about me anymore.
I must say I'm disappointed that no one mentioned me. Brad, even I don't fantasize about you anymore.
Yeah, they even mentioned me, but not Angelina. Go figure.
Oh Brad, I still do!!!
I do, babe.
I think about Bubba when I close my eyes.
Ahh...so millions of gay guys are "nobody" now huh Mr. Pitt?
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Ladies, you know your men watch p @ rn, you've checked their browser history and on the occasions when he forgets to clear it you've learned what he's into. Get over yourselves and start giving it up and this fantasy thing will be a non-issue. It's not what's between your legs that counts...it's what you're willing to do with what's inbetween your legs that counts.
That works BOTH ways............so don't toot your horn honey...........................
Right on, bro, so many women who let themselves get uptight, frumpy and cold want to get by on "but you're supposed to accept me for me" and set themselves up for a rude awakening when their man says "enough of this lame cr@p." and makes like a tree. Ladies, if you just want a teddy bear, go to a toy store. That thang we got ain't meant to be a washcloth holder...
My bf has a fetish for inflated women (he has tons of pictures of naked women inflated, like that girl from the Willy Wonka film; not her, duh, but similar girls) yet he claims he's not into fat chicks (his last girlfriend was chubby, though, and the girl before that ex girlfriend; they all dumped him). I'm far from being fat, though. I'm watching my food now more than ever to make sure I don't end up like them because he loves white starch (I can't stand them; I'm all about whole grains) and lots of red meat (I prefer pork and chicken). Thank heavens for the George Foreman grill; that really cuts tons of fat and calories. But still, I watch what I eat with his big guy!
100% right brother
Alan Rickman....
Yaaaay!! Someone with taste! "Voice like s e x wrapped in chocolate"!! <3
Vida Guerra, Scarlett Johanssen and Lela Rochon, the three of them slightly drunk, together in my pool at 2:00 am...OOOOOHHHH, YEAAAAAAA.
Oh, Monica!
You might have to c hange it up now that she's lost weight.
The girls used to scream for me, but not any more. At least nobody mentioned Paul McCartney.
That guy gets ALL the girls. Never seen anything like it.
Jenna Haze & Lexi Belle
Hot twins making out
Brian Griffin....errr......I mean.........a....ummm....a really, you know, hot...uhhhhh.....chick. Yeah. Hot chick. Yep. That's what does it for me, soooo, you know, there you go.
Most My fantasies are now scenes at Naughty America. I may be the anomaly, but I only fantasize about things I can actually make happen though. So, for instance, I'd only fantasize about a famous athlete or model if I were dating him at the time.
I do with you Jennifer!!!!
Actually, one time when I was in my twenties and still living with my parents and my only sister and her fiance lived there too I was home in the afternoon and I took a hot dog from a package in the refrigerator and used it to mastrubate with. I was pretending that it was a man's penis. Years later my sister my sister took me to Applebees from my brithday and she made an allusion to "her hot dog that I ate". Completely out of the blue she said "that will teach you to eat my hot dog". I think that they have maybe been holding it as a grudge against me that they thought I opened a pakage of their hot dogs and ate one with out asking.
I'm thinking about Michelle Fritzsching
I usually start to feel more horney when things feel socially tense, like Satan is winning or something. I do not know why that is.
Good point Amanda.My "authority" would have huge hissy fits if I started in with the spray paint and probably would lock the stuff in the shed and take the key to work with him. Debbie(Quote)
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