May 24th, 2010
12:38 PM ET

Libido booster for women to get FDA consideration

By John Bonifield
CNN Medical Producer

When men show up at the pharmacy to pick up prescription drugs for sex problems, they have several options. Viagra. Cialis. Levitra. That hasn’t been the case for women with similar problems. But a Food and Drug Administration panel next month will debate approving a pill that could bring on the demise of this double standard. The drug, called flibanserin, has been developed to boost women’s libido.

“The most common sexual problem for women is low desire,” says Sheryl Kingsberg, a clinical psychologist with University Hospitals in Cleveland, Ohio. “These women are really distressed by it.”

The German drug company Boehringer Ingelheim developed flibanserin as an antidepressant. The drug didn’t work as a treatment for depression, but it did produce a surprising libido-enhancing side effect in some women.

“There are millions of women who have a sexual life that is problematic for them,” says Michael Sand, the company’s director of clinical research on flibanserin.

According Sand, women taking flibanserin experience an increase in sexual desire and satisfying sexual activity and a decrease in emotional distress.

If the FDA approves flibanserin, Kingsberg says, the drug will be a game changer.

“If nothing else, it's going to open the door to women knowing that they're entitled to good quality sexual health. That it's not just for men anymore,” says Kingsberg, who has been a paid consultant for the company and for other developers of libido-enhancing drugs.

Boehringer Ingelheim plans to discuss its findings on flibanserin with the FDA on June 18.

Next week on CNN, Senior Medical Correspondent Elizabeth Cohen will explore female libido and what’s available now to help restore a lagging sex drive.

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  1. CS

    This is for the herd of housewives on here that are complaining. Not the hard working professional women that have legit sexual issues. Listen to me housewives. You sit at home all day and eat garbage while your waist grows exponentially. Your man would rather come home and watch TV then turn you on b/c you look nothing like you did when he married you. I know, I know you had kids and that is why you are fat. That does not mean you should be sedentary, eating bon-bons all afternoon. It is a vicious cycle. He works and relaxes when he gets home. You get mad and take it personal and say you have a low libido and that is why your sex lives are so bad. Instead of a pill that will end up getting you sick down the line, try eating right and exercising. Wake up in the morning and go run/walk or hit the gym. Why not? What else do you have to do? Oh you have kids? Take the little skip on a walk with you. Eat lean proteins, complex carbs, fruits and veggies. Stay active and move around. It will help your body over time but will help your MIND. The effects on your mind are almost immediate. You are basically dry as the sahara b/c your are sitting around depressed. Unless you change, that will not change. Mix it up, get after it and show yourself and your husband that you are sexy again and that you need/deserve a healthy sex life. Unless you are willing to look in the mirror and make changes to better your life nothing will change for you. No pill can cure lazyness and no pill can cure a useless, sedentary lifestyle. Quit your complaining, get active and start having the sex life you deserve. Until that happens, I have no sympathy for you b/c you are the root of the problem. This country is always looking for the quick fix, the quick money and the easy way out. There is no such thing. Honesty, hard work, dedication and commitment is the recipe to a happy life. If it sounds too good to be true it is and if you believe it gues what, someone sold you ocean front property in Arizona. Wake up America! Now please excuse me, I need to go fill a script for some Viagra so I can get down to business!

    May 24, 2010 at 18:25 | Report abuse | Reply
  2. Melissa

    To "on flibanserin", I think I must have got the placebo, I am also in the double blind study, I have seen no real change. But that's ok. A study isn't a study if everyone gets the medicine. Don't get me wrong, I wanted the medication! When I complete the study, I hope to be accepted to be able to take the actual medication for 6 months at no charge. So I am holding out hope! But I wanted to say congrats to you! I am so happy that something good has come out of this for you! Keep on keepin' on girl! AMEN!!!!!

    May 24, 2010 at 18:26 | Report abuse | Reply
  3. Paul

    I just wanted to apologize for the people who misinterpreted me; everyone deserves a "long and happy life" regardless of gender. Everyone should feel complete and everyone is equal. I am a virgin and just believe that sex is not important to make a happy person (woman or man). I would rather see our time and money invested in medications that save lives rather than satisfy unnecessary pleasures.

    May 24, 2010 at 18:35 | Report abuse | Reply
  4. CS

    Hey Vince-

    Ever heard of dolphins? Thats right, they would be another species that has sex for fun and not the purpose of procreation. Get your facts straight before making stupid comments. Thanks for playing. Oh yeah, just because women get older does not mean they should stop having/wanting sex. Plenty of the older gals still have some oil in the tank!!!

    May 24, 2010 at 18:35 | Report abuse | Reply
  5. steveo in kcmo

    typical American approach to everything; dont make me work, dont make me think, dont make me look at myself or my upbringing for questions to my behavior, just give a pill doc....and make sure its easy to swallow.
    and men dont have a pill for libido, they have a pill that relaxes muscle linings. if the desire isnt there, I doubt it's work.

    the big pharma pill pushers sure have this country by the sack (or the equivalent). selling drugs to these saps is like shooting fish in a barrel.

    and some of these comments are hysterical.......backs up my point.

    May 24, 2010 at 18:40 | Report abuse | Reply
  6. Gail

    I have had breast cancer treatment which has left me with lack of sensation with foreplay. It is painful also due to the lack of estrogen from taking Arimidex. My oncologist does not recommend the estrogen ring for obvious reasons since even a little estrogen could feed any cancer cells. My desire also has decreased after these treatments so I would welcome a treatment. I believe most people who love their spouse desire intimacy with their spouse. For those of you who are unable to discuss your concerns, you really should consider counselling to help your marriage. I don't disagree with the comments with the help and for sure cleanliness but I have been blessed with a very wonderful husband in all those areas. I don't believe there is a one size fits all answer here for everyone who has low libido. Each couple needs excellent medical help to determine what is best for their situation.

    May 24, 2010 at 18:41 | Report abuse | Reply
  7. Loren

    On the topic of anti-depressants. My wife took them for fourteen years. They were prescribed by her Doctor. After years of pleading, I said she had to have a psychiatric review of whether she needed them, along with a more detailed medical review or it was divorce. The result was that she had been misdiagnosed and went off anti-depressants immediately. The result was extraordinary. She's still learning how to be who she really is and not someone drugged, yet we are getting there. The bottom line is this, if you are taking anti-depressants make certain you have a proper psychiatric review. Lastly, research your doctors, they are not equally skilled.

    May 24, 2010 at 18:45 | Report abuse | Reply
  8. SparkyGump

    The love of my life lost her desire 10 years ago. I hope this works. I don't want a girlfriend, a concubine or fling. I want my wife.

    May 24, 2010 at 18:49 | Report abuse | Reply
  9. steveo in kcmo

    some of these comments are so funny.....
    for ex;

    thanks "O" for admitting your sexual problems are mental and not physical. you didnt mean it that way obviously, but the truth came out nonetheless.

    and all you greedy clowns who think I'm paying higher health insurance premiums for a woody pill for women or men better quit smoking what ever it is you're puffing on. bet you didnt have the insurance company pay for your 420 break.

    May 24, 2010 at 18:52 | Report abuse | Reply
  10. Brian

    People are confused about viagra, cialis, and other drugs for erections. Taking a viaga does not raise your sex drive. It merely flows the blood better throughout your body for erections. Yes you will be erect, but no, it won't make you horny. Testosterone shots or patches will raise your sex drive. For those of you on here (women) who are wanting more of a sex drive. What other drugs are you taking that could be causing this problem? I have several female friends who say they have no sex drive, yet they are taking antidepressants every day which are known to kill your sex drive. Sometimes you don't start with what can you take to fix your problem, but what can you stop taking that will fix your problem. Addition by subtraction.

    May 24, 2010 at 19:06 | Report abuse | Reply
  11. Jennifer

    Hmmm, interesting... Not quit sure what to think but looking at the trial details it appears that the mind over matter / placebo effect is huge in this study, at 30%. Then flibanserin helps with 20%. I don't know what they will that of 1 in 5 women being helped with it.

    May 24, 2010 at 19:08 | Report abuse | Reply
  12. William

    Throughout the animal world, males have strong sex drives, females do not. This is also true in primates (which we are).

    Women as a group have low libido. This not moral, not because men have suppressed them, and not due to how busy they are. Men are always busy, always stressed, but still make time for sex. It is important to men, not important to women. This is purely biological. It is just the way it is.

    All you women who claim to want increased libido: Think hard...is that really what you want? Isn't it really that you are afraid that because you can't get excited about your husband, you think he might cheat on you? Isn't that the real thing you are trying to address?

    If you want more sex, have more sex. Just wishing that men would create a drug which would help you want more sex is only going to feed your in-born resentment of men and make you complain more.

    And most men have enough of that.

    May 24, 2010 at 19:35 | Report abuse | Reply
  13. Amy

    I can't wait for the commercials for it. I hope they are as racy as the Cialis commercials just to show how hypocritical this country is. You know it'll cause an uproar if a woman has a line of men waiting to sit on her lap....or maybe stand next to her...lol

    May 24, 2010 at 20:14 | Report abuse | Reply
  14. rose

    The lower libido can be cured immeditely when men help with the children, homework and household chores. Women work three times more than men and at the end of the day they are tired.

    May 24, 2010 at 20:18 | Report abuse | Reply
  15. Jeff

    Kim, I promise you that if your man does all those things you ask for, your sex drive will not increase and you will have a new list of things he needs to do to put you more in the mood.

    May 24, 2010 at 20:54 | Report abuse | Reply
  16. crys

    I am happy that a medication has been "accidentally" found. Even though I enjoy being "sexless" sometimes. Having a libido does not just mean the urge to "do it" but it gives a sense of fulfillment, heightens positive moods. I have 5 children and have been married for 13 yrs. I also thought my lack of libido was part of a natural aging process for women but did find out from a visit to my doctor that it is a hormone deficit and can also be caused by depression. I had never given much thought to that. My husband would most likely enjoy these so-called side effects while I would feel more lively and more outgoing. I think it would be a win-win. I have tried some other "natural remedies" for mood/libido enhancers and all it did was throw money down the drain. It may not compare biologically to ED but it can be just as devastating to a woman's sexual health. Bravo FDA but hurry the heck up!!

    May 24, 2010 at 21:28 | Report abuse | Reply
  17. Forist

    Okay maybe this new drug will work for some and maybe save a marriage or two. What do you do for the wife who has no sexual desire and no desire to have desire. Worse she has no desire to even discuss the matter. Joke about getting a mistress or girl friend, on the bases that there is scientific evidence a healthy sex life supports longer life, and be prepared for three days in the ice age. Umm...mistress – girl friend. Maybe that's not a bad idea afterall.

    May 24, 2010 at 21:29 | Report abuse | Reply
  18. Yah

    Sounds good for women who are depressed and experience low sex drive after the birth of a child. I wonder if that could cut down on the cases of postpartum depression.

    May 24, 2010 at 21:30 | Report abuse | Reply
  19. Cyndi

    For those who think that that lack of desire in a women is rectified by foreplay and a man helping around the house is a slap in the face to those of us who truly suffer from this. I went from a strong sex drive to nothing in a matter of weeks. None of the normal explanations apply and this was during my engagement. No kids in the picture yet. And my husband (then fiancee) is the most supportive and loving person I have ever met.

    So yes, it may be that some work needs to be done the relationship, not all lack of desire in a female is solved by housework or foreplay. If those of us who suffer from this can finally be heard and get help, let us. Don't slap us in the face by saying it is not a real problem.

    May 24, 2010 at 21:43 | Report abuse | Reply
  20. B

    Lisa, how does fibromyalgia cause you to have "noise intolerance"??? There are many things both men & women can do to improve their sex lives, and I can hear everyone griping already about "CS"'s comments. The man has a point, though. If both *men* & *women* would exercise, care about how they looked, & make the effort, some things would improve on both ends. Can't complain about my husband gaining weight, since I did too, but I can sure make it better by daily exercise which I am now doing! And, after he saw me losing weight guess what? He's dropped about 40 lbs!!! But, saying all that, a libido drug would be good news for lots of us ladies, as long as the guys don't expect that every time they are interested we are ready, just like they might say *no* now & then, too. Wait, I might be psychotic, right? 🙂

    May 24, 2010 at 21:55 | Report abuse | Reply
  21. Anonymous

    Our culture is obsessed with sex. Decreased libido in women is natural after childbearing. The only evolutionary benefit to it is to keep your man around, since he naturally wants to procreate ad infinitum. So how about a pill to reduce the man's libido, and then we can focus on all of the other great things that make a relationship, and stop obsessing about sex. Think of the effect that would have on the kids who are bombarded with sexuality in the media and by peers at way too young an age.

    May 24, 2010 at 23:23 | Report abuse | Reply
  22. dave T

    there is something more to that 'if i have help around the house and with the kids then i would not be so tired and have the energy for sex' thing. when i 1st started going with my then girlfr she was staying up till 3am arguing with her abusive boyfr, worrying about her college marks and her house she owned with him and the next evening couldn't wait to 'do it' with me. now we're married + i do as much housework/kidwork as her (and day job) and it does not change my libido but she is just too tired at the end of the day. i'll say it's that women get tired of relationships too- it's the old 'attraction fades' thing. i'll bet 'starting with someone new' would put a damper on these women's "i'm too tired for sex" attitudes

    May 24, 2010 at 23:45 | Report abuse | Reply
  23. Juju

    I'm shocked at all these women saying they aren't bothered by their lack of sexual desire! I'd be horrified! This is good news to those of us who want to stay rowdy!

    May 24, 2010 at 23:50 | Report abuse | Reply
  24. Batman

    I really don't understand why the subject of womens sexuality always turns into full scale gender wars. I hope the ladies enjoy this product immensely. I hope their men enjoy it too. I hope that someday in the future a man might express an opinion regarding female sexuality and have the women treat it with a modicum of mutual respect for the other half and not as an indictment of her entire existance,,,,lighten up people!

    May 25, 2010 at 00:22 | Report abuse | Reply
  25. Gumby

    Leave it to a bunch of guys to invent something for women that they don't want. Your average American wife enjoys her bitching, complaining, "I'm pissed I'm not a princess", abstaining lifestyle. Women will embrace a drug that causes them to want more sex like they would a drug that causes total body hair loss and gigantic eyeball.

    May 25, 2010 at 00:39 | Report abuse | Reply
  26. night nurse

    I have to agree with alot of you that helping arround the house and letting a woman relax are definately good ways to help with mood. But for some it is way deeper than that and if there is something else out there that could help i say good, I just hope that it thouroughly tested for safety and that they don't find out later that the rush to market an obvious gold mine doesn't get short cutted. Women have a lot on there plate these days as well as men and finding time I think is more the issue along with depression and i wonder if this would work on a woman that isn't in need of a anti depressant in the first place or is just a better anti depressant that cures the underlying problem of depression in the first place. that would be a good thing as well as most anti dperessants on the market right now have the side effect of low lebido

    May 25, 2010 at 01:00 | Report abuse | Reply
  27. Diana

    Let me guess.....It will boost a womans libido....and I bet it makes her gain tons of weight and then no man wants her....Sad....everything for women makes you gain weight......

    May 25, 2010 at 01:50 | Report abuse | Reply
  28. flipper

    to CS: You really have no idea what the life of a stay-at-home mom is like

    May 25, 2010 at 02:19 | Report abuse | Reply
  29. Kaycee

    Why don't you people simply report the truth?

    Last sentence 1st paragraph:
    " The drug, called flibanserin, has been developed to boost women’s libido."

    Third paragraph:
    "The German drug company Boehringer Ingelheim developed flibanserin as an antidepressant. The drug didn’t work as a treatment for depression, but it did produce a surprising libido-enhancing side effect in some women."

    Reporting this as a "planned breakthrough development" for women is a blatant distortion of the truth.This drug was not developed, nor was it ever developed, to boost women's libido, it was developed as an antidepressant and failed. The side effects were stumbled upon, an ancillary benefit as the drug company's time/investment wasn't completely wasted.

    Though the truth was not buried as deeply or glossed over as quickly in this particular article, as it has been been in others Gupta's ever increasing distortions are disturbing.

    May 25, 2010 at 02:47 | Report abuse | Reply
  30. Can't Wait

    @cs You've got to be kidding me. I run 6-8 miles a day, 5-6 days per week and lift weights. Is that enough exercise for you? My libido is still low, I'm not as skinny as when we got married, and I seriously hope they approve this drug soon. I'll be first in line.

    I love my husband a lot, but my sex drive kicks in about once every two weeks. Which is probably better than nothing, but is seriously less than I'd like to be having sex. My husband deserves more, and I want more . . .but if the drive isn't there, it just isn't pleasurable.

    Low libido probably does stem from natural biology. I am 43 with my prime child bearing years behind me . . . so the sex drive doesn't serve a whole lot of purpose from a biological standpoint. So I "get" the problem, but I don't much care that it is normal . . .I want to have a great marriage, not just a ho hum one. If a drug can help, I'm all for it.

    May 25, 2010 at 09:22 | Report abuse | Reply
  31. On Flibanserin


    So sorry to hear that you probably got the placebo. But, like you said, not everyone can get it. I only have 6 weeks left in the trial. I just found out on my last visit that I will get the medicine for another 6 months. I will still have to do my monthly visits but no more diary. I think she said that everyone will get the real drug once they have completed the study. I don't know if this stuff will help everyone but I still can't believe the change it has made in me. My husband is just thrilled. And he was totally aganist me doing the trial in the beginning! My problem was causing him to become depressed over the situation. He really thought that something was wrong with HIM. I don't think anyone can understand unless they have the same problem. You can see that by reading some of the comments on here. I am so very thankful to find something to help me. Good luck to you Melissa. I hope you are getting close to the end so you can get the real deal.

    May 25, 2010 at 09:47 | Report abuse | Reply
  32. On Flibanserin

    I would also like to add that this has nothing to do with age. I started having low sex drive when I was 22 or 23. Before that, I couldn't keep my hands off the hubby. So no, it is not "natures way of telling woman of a "certain age" to just relax and forget about sex" And there is nothing wrong at all with a man wanting to have sex with his wife. That is actually normal.

    And to the post saying that if a woman has no desire that she is just with the wrong person. You also don't know what you are talking about. I am with the love of my life. As an added bonus, he is extremely attractive and just keeps getting better with age. But, that doesn't matter. The problem was always mine. There was never anything he could have done to change my problem. And believe me he tried. Sex hasn't exactly been wonderful for him either because he knew I was only doing it for him. He is a sensitive kind of man. He really cares how I feel. I am lucky for that.

    May 25, 2010 at 10:05 | Report abuse | Reply
  33. Jorge

    Paul May 24th, 2010 16:11 ET

    "Let's focus on making medications that will save lives (i.e. breast cancer, HIV) rather than give 'pleasure.' Staying alive is more important than having fun in bed...." Heck no dude, speak for yourself. Tell that to all the guys who've jumped out of bedroom windows with their clothes in their hand...

    May 25, 2010 at 10:59 | Report abuse | Reply
  34. FLcynic

    I was a nympomaniac from puberty until in my late 40's, when my sex drive began to taper off. Now, it's negligible, and I couldn't be more thrilled. There's no way in hell I'd ever take a pill to increase my libido. I'm finally free.

    May 25, 2010 at 11:11 | Report abuse | Reply
  35. jeremiah

    DEAR rpizzi:

    Low testosterone is usually attributed to waning sexual desire in men.

    May 25, 2010 at 11:40 | Report abuse | Reply
  36. Wayne

    I am the family cook, do dishes and laundry, cart the kids around, give my wife back and foot massages and am still the primary source of income for our family. My wife has minimal interest in sex until she is aroused and then she always enjoys it and always has an orgasm. However, it is difficult to even get her in the mood. This drug would certainly help us since we don't have relationship problems, just libido problems. Testosterone was being considered for women but I think the side effects would be excessive and it would be a health issue. This drug sounds more useful. Is this drug related to Wellbutrin which has some similar effects?

    May 25, 2010 at 11:43 | Report abuse | Reply
  37. davec

    I hear too much worry from many of you. This drug is not being forced on anyone. It will be taken voluntarily. We are adults and can decide for ourselves. The cup is half full.

    May 25, 2010 at 12:02 | Report abuse | Reply
  38. Mark

    As long as I don't have to look at old people sitting in bathtubs on the beach I'm happy!

    May 25, 2010 at 12:16 | Report abuse | Reply
  39. GJ

    For everybody hounding the FDA – just get off it; don't they already 'pass' enough dangerous drugs? They don't need any more pressure from anybody. Some people here are pushing it so much... if it gets approved and is unsafe... those same idiots will be first in line to sue for their resulting heart condition (when it is really their own fault). Personally, I'd wait for at least 5 years after any drug is approved... unless I'm willing to trade increased libido for a loss of 10-20 years of life – well the decision is in your hands and you're responsible.

    May 25, 2010 at 12:41 | Report abuse | Reply
  40. Xntrik

    There already is a male pill, it's called vasectomy. Labido and E.D. are two very unique issues, not related in any fashion. One would do well to stop using the terms interchangably, as if they are one and the same. Men should engage in the greater conversation of why women lack sexual desire, find a common ground and work toward compromise. No pill can do that.

    May 25, 2010 at 12:46 | Report abuse | Reply
  41. hippie power 69

    as a woman of 62 i would appreciate something like this. my husband who is 5 years younger then me has no problem with sex but i find that as the years have gone by i am not as interested as i once was and that i miss. we use to have great sex often, now we still have fantastic sex but not as often as we would both like. i love my husband very much and i know he feels the same about me and i know that the connection of sex between two people who love each other is needed and desired. i can't wait for this drug to be available. its about time.

    May 25, 2010 at 13:35 | Report abuse | Reply
  42. Chiq

    How many of the women here take or have taken birth control pills before having a low desire in sex? I started taking birth control pills in 2000 (before that, I had a high sex drive). My libido started to gradually diminish each year. Now, I have no sexual desire. I have a wonderful husband that helps me around the house and that love very much. I am mostly a housewife, but work 2 days a week for a company. I just had a baby (she is 5 months old), I am exercising at least 5 days a week. I have lost all but 5 pounds of my baby weight and need to lose an additional 10 pounds to be at my ideal weight. I am eating somewhat better. I was diagnosed with gluten intolerance in 2008 and cut out wheat, rye, and barley out of my diet. I have been racking my brain wondering why I lost my sexual desire. I have gone through all the problems everyone have been complaining about and the one thing I can think of is birth control pills. I noticed the difference after I started taking them. I was wondering if anyone else have noticed that too. Last year, I wanted to check if that was the case, but I got pregnant one month after getting off the pill. Haha!! I have to wait a little while longer. 😀

    May 25, 2010 at 13:38 | Report abuse | Reply
  43. Jo

    I disagree Michael...

    "For women, lack of interest isn't exactly a "dealbreaker". For men lack of erection certainly is."


    Its true that some times lack of interest CAN be from the typical life annoyances... ie.. hubby didn't take out the trash or the dogs, or didn't bother doing the dishes..

    but that isn't ALWAYS the case.

    I'm a 25 female.. who has a "lack of interest" which on all levels shouldn't be the case. This has been an issue for atleast 4 years .. if not longer.. and I'm not quite sure when it began.
    I'm lucky to have met my now hubby, who has already had 5 kids.. and doesn't thrive on sex alone.. HOWEVER.. he is still in the "mood" far more often than I am... which is seldom ever.

    A woman that "lacks interest" can have SERIOUS medical reasons for such.. and even more so.. can cause damage not only to the marriage, but also to both parties involved. Not being able to "be in the mood" is EXTREMELY stressful... and can make any woman feel useless.. threatened... insecure.. and the list continues.. It can also make the Man feel the same.... And i won't hear this mess about the woman being jealous and suspicious and thinkign her husband is getting it elsewhere.. THAT IS A TWO WAY STREET... a husband can have the SAME thoughts.. if his wife isn't interested ... ie. "is she seeing someone else?" "why aren't i attractive to her anymore"

    Lack of attraction soemtimes has nothing to do with it.. I love my husband VERY VERY much, and i think hes the most handsome man i know.. completely package. Hes wonderfully loving, hilarious, smart, and attractive.

    I for one am psyched that there may be a drug to help with my situation.. that could only enhance my marriage. We're only about 3 months in... but we've been together nearly 4 years.. hes wonderful and patient... but makign it even better ... How could that go wrong?

    May 25, 2010 at 14:17 | Report abuse | Reply
  44. Chiq

    I agree with On Flibanserin.
    I too was in my mid 20s when my decreased sexual desire started to occur. My friends would tell me... " Don't worry, your sexual peak will hit when you turn 30." I am 32 and nothing yet. When I got pregnant, others will tell me, Your sexual desire will come back during pregnancy, (No), a couple months after giving birth, (No), after breastfeeding (No). I also hear that a woman's sexual peak will hit in their 40s. I don't want to wait that long just to say (No, I didn't work for me). My luck would be, when I finally get my sexual desire back, that is when my husband has no desire anymore.

    May 25, 2010 at 14:32 | Report abuse | Reply
  45. Krista

    Wow... some of the things that some of the men have said here in comments are pretty unbelievable. If you're actually still married (doubtful) I feel sorry for your wives.

    Men who want sex with their partners will benefit from this, but it's really none of their business why women feel they need to take it. Also, viagra is taken by men who _want_ to have sex, otherwise they wouldn't care if they have an erection or not. If that's paid for by insurance (it is) then this pill for women certainly should be too.

    To the men who got on here to bash women, claiming that they 'enjoy' being 'frigid' and holding back sex as some sort of way to manipulate men in their marriage... I can only feel sorry for you. No decent woman is going to want to be with someone who generalizes about women that way.

    May 25, 2010 at 17:30 | Report abuse | Reply
  46. annie

    Chiq–and the othes–were you on birth control pills? if so, there have been recent studies that show the PILL can ruin one's sex drive or libido.

    May 25, 2010 at 18:00 | Report abuse | Reply
  47. wasntme4sho

    About time. Women deserve to be horny and happy. Especially the ones in committed relationships. Why let men have 4 hour erections and unable to do anything about it. Now women will not only be able to do something about it but enjoy it as well!!!

    May 25, 2010 at 19:06 | Report abuse | Reply
  48. Gene Richards

    This is great, but I've always had one question... with a woman's "drive" so much lower than a man's (and I DO believe this) then why is there a market for Viagra? Where are these men on Viagra finding women that are "in the mood"???

    May 25, 2010 at 21:48 | Report abuse | Reply
  49. DT

    I see lots of comments here on do the dishes, help etc... Being Male doesn't imply lazy sloth, maybe you picked one though... We're not all that way. Trust me, the person who this helps along doesn't need meds, they need to take a look at their relationship.

    As a guy who has been cleaning, washing clothes, 90% of the cooking, doing all the yard and most of the housework and being supportive with time, reassurance love and compliments.... Didn't do much to help anything. Bring on the pill, it would help us both, and any other couples in the same shoes would agree.

    May 25, 2010 at 22:13 | Report abuse | Reply
  50. David Ridge

    "Let's focus on making medications that will save lives (i.e. breast cancer, HIV) rather than give 'pleasure.' Staying alive is more important than having fun in bed...."

    I believe this topic has been in the closet way too long and most people haven't thought through all the ramifications of problems related to a womans low sex drive. How many divorces each year in the U.S. have sex problems at the root and how many families are broken up? What about the kids in these broken families? Have you ever stopped to consider how many young women are hired in this country each year to meet the sexual needs of unhappy married men in the porn, stripping and prostitution industries? It is young women in this country picking up the slack for "tired" married women. Of course those industries would flourish without married men whose wives suffer from FSD, but there is no doubt this group of men makes up a significant segment of this market. No one wants to talk about that.

    FSD is an important topic with many social ramifications.

    I appreciate reading all the comments from both sides of the fence. The one that makes me laugh the most is women who think they would have more sexual desire if their husbands did more around the house, yeah right. I run a small business working 10 hours a day, I shop, I cook, I get 3 kids up in the morning, make their lunches and get them off to school. What does my wife do? She sleeps in to about noon everyday and she NEVER wants sex. Her female friends think she's so lucky to have a husband who runs his own business and cooks. Doing more doesn't increase my wife's libido, she has a real problem and no matter what I do I can't fix her with my actions. She needs medical help.

    May 25, 2010 at 23:31 | Report abuse | Reply
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