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October 12th, 2012
07:39 AM ET
Please, make me be selfishPeople are inherently selfish. Research shows we're happier and our lives improve when we focus on ourselves. Makes sense, right? So why does research also show that we often put others first and fail to choose what will make us happy? The problem comes, researcher Jonathan Berman says, when we have to decide between spending the $20 we found on the ground on new shoes and donating it to charity. If you're walking by a shopping center when you pick up the money, you're more likely to freely spend it on yourself. But if you're walking by a homeless shelter, "suddenly spending $20 on yourself feels so different," Berman says. Berman and his colleague Deborah Small at the University of Pennsylvania hypothesized that forcing a person to be selfish would be liberating - allowing them to enjoy their self-interest pursuit without feeling selfish. Berman and Small conducted three separate studies with anywhere from 130 to 250 participants to test their theory. Their results were published this week in the journal Psychological Science. The first study In the first study, participants were told they either would receive $3 to spend on themselves or $3 to donate to the United Nations Children's Fund. One group was allowed to choose. Another group was given $3 to spend on themselves; a third group was simply given a receipt for their donation. The participants were then asked to rate on a scale of 1-7 how much they enjoyed receiving or donating the money and how satisfied they were. Approximately 40% chose to donate to charity. There was no difference in happiness between those who gave to charity and those who didn't. But participants who were given $3 to spend on themselves were happier than those in the choice group and happier than those forced to donate to charity. "People do enjoy receiving a lot," Berman says. "They enjoy it particularly because they have no choice." The second study In a following study, Berman and Small asked three groups to make a choice. One group had to choose between two gift cards to themselves, the other group had to choose between two gift cards for charity and the third had to choose between giving to themselves and giving to charity. Again, approximately 40% of participants in the choice group gave to charity, and neither choice resulted in more satisfaction. The group that reported being the happiest was the group that had to decide between the two gift cards. The third study In the last study, the researchers asked participants their preference, whether they would like to donate to charity or keep the money. They were then told a computer would decide what would happen. In reality, all participants received their preference. Once again, 40% donated to charity. Among those who kept the money, people who believed the computer had made the choice for them felt better about the outcome. Takeaway So what does all that show? "People gain happiness from doing what is in their self-interest," the study authors write. "Yet much research casts doubt on this basic assumption. We argue that one reason why people do not feel happier with self-interested behavior is that doing so sometimes involves sacrificing the well-being of others along the way, and individuals often feel uneasy about making this trade-off."
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This article doesn't even support its own thesis – and I had to read it twice to be sure because it is so poorly structured.
ayn randian bulls+/*x
Agreed! As I was reading this it seemed to veer more toward "people who can make a choice are happier" than having anything to do with selfishness. It seemed more that those who were given an actual choice in what to do felt more in control, and thus happier. But then, there really isn't enough info for any clear thesis to come out of the article, least of all th eone asserted in the beginning.
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I agree 100%. It was confusing. The first study I understood right off the bat. However, the second study I had to read three times before I understood it because of the way in which it was worded. I think the conclusion of this entire experiment is that people are most happy when they are acting in their own self-interest so long as they don't have to feel guilty about it.
Thats why the bible says its better to "give" than to "receive". But it also says to give with a "cheerful" heart. So that means we enjoy getting and giving and giving is only better when its not forced but its what you want to do.
Exactly. They don't even give the choice group a choice other than some faceless organization.
I agree with MCR. I too had to read twice lol!
Agreed.....please re-write.
These are poorly-designed experiments. Selfishness should not be gauged by whether or not someone would donate to charity or not. In this recession, people have family members who could use money so if I have an extra $20 and can afford my health insurance and the roof over my head, I would donate it to my family next. Am I selfish?
Nope, not a bit.
Yes, and truthfully one doesn't always know how money given to charity is going to be spent. One might just as easily decide to give it instead to one's own church. Or use the gift card to buy one's children clothing.
The main idea opened a door for examination, discussion and hopefully moving out of where you are to a healthier place with your awareness and then your body. Take it to deeper / higher levels and never get stuck in the obvious. Choose Awareness.
Oh, my. So, I should give in to my inner barbarian and take what I want, no matter the impact on the remainder of society?
Perhaps that will encourage some to release their inner barbarian and steal a few bucks from the till, or push an old lady off a bridge (after relieving her of her much-needed purse).
Sure, we can go with our most primitive impulses and be selfish – or we can try to make the world into a more civilized place.
A previous writer mentioned that this seemed to be an Ayn Rand-ish article. And I'd say that being selfish may also be the new tenet of the Republican Party. Too bad that many more moderate Republicans I know would totally disagree with this mindless reversion to impulse gratification.
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Way to miss the point of the article by thousands of miles.
cgire got the point of the article just fine. Well stated, cgire.
Nope, he missed it entirely. My comment stands.
Is this another one of those academic studies where the group(s) surveyed consist of young students, only? Any attempt to generalize findings with any confidence from such a "sample" to the heterogeneous, general population is simply ludicrous, and this happens all the time...
They aren't taking into account that society tries to teach people to feel guilty about not giving to charity and the like. I say,give to what YOU want to,IF you want to,and feel no shame about the rest. Someone is always collecting for this or that at our office,and it just gets ridiculous at times. But I will tell people straight up "thanks,but I'm not interested" if it really isn't something I wish to support. I don't go around collecting for this or that,so I'm not overly enthusiastic when other people do.
Liberals try and make people feel guilty, conservatives prefer people make their own choices. It's the main reason I have no respect for liberals.
No one can make you feel guilty. If you felt guilty that's all you. Someone else might not. Some people feel guilt for murder, others do not. In the end, it's all just your feeling.
Of course nobody can make me feel guilty, that does not stop liberals from trying to make people feel that way. It cannot be denied, there is evidence everywhere and weak minded people who fall for it.
Just taking a dollar and putting it in the offering plate, or giving a lost dollar to a shelter doesn't really bring about much satisfaction. But seeing where the dollar goes does contribute to a sense of wellbeing and meaningfulness. Organizations quite often take the money and spend it on themselves...so..the donation of time and things rather than just money is the key to happiness. The giver needs to be more involved and see results.
I do not agree with this author. You get real happiness and satisfaction whenever you are not selfish. Main goal of life is to do something for the society. Otherwise, life itself is useless.
Sorry 100% wrong, there is no main goal to life, period.
To Primal For Life....get back on your medication....ok?
LMAO at poor, ignorant, alex.
It's your life primal, it can be as meaningless as you want it to be.
It is my life, and it's far from meaningless. Best part, I am the only one who gets to decide. Everyone else has nothing to say to me that matters.
I got over the guilt thing one day when I discovered that the American Cancer Society, for which I had hit the pavement in the hot sun so many times collecting donations as a teenager, had "administrative costs" of over 70% and a reputation for embezzlement (!!!!) and at one time had been associated with a psychopathic bigot who performed Mengele-style cancer experiments on Puerto Ricans like my mother and father (!!!!!!!!!) I was so p!ssed and felt so stupid that I bit my lip bloody and punched through the wall, but I've been cured of naive and selfless ever since...
...wow.
Different charities have different admin costs. Look them up, their information is all on public record. Choose the charity you prefer which doesn't waste a lot of its income.
According to charitynavigator dot org, the American Cancer Society spends 7.2% of its costs on admin expenses. Jorge, I must call BS on your post. It would seem that you prefer not to give and you use a lame@$$ claim to support your desire not to give.
Guilt, LMAO I don't even know the meaning of the word.
You get one life and one life only people, you cannot save the world, don't waste it trying.
And no doubt people treat you with the same regard once they realize youre just out for yourself anyways.
Nope, I have many great friends who I always stand by.
Article desperately needs an editor.
As to "found money", I always donate it - it wasn't mine to begin with, it was someone else's. If I can't find the owner, then it goes to the universe of "someone else". - often a local food bank or library.
Lol I love finding money... found a $20 once... but I've never donated it and never felt guilty about it lol.. It wasn't mine to begin with but... finders keepers!
Article must have been written by a CNN intern or someone in a high school english class. This is what we have come to accept from CNN...Like Ted Turner said when they asked him how he felt about CNN these days...he responded...."They destroyed my baby...look what they have done to my baby."
"Studies" like this make me crazy. Where are the controls? What is happy? Does the amount of money involved make a difference? Who exactly were the participants (rich, poor, black, white, educated, and so on)? And how can blanket statements be made about the entire human population based on 30 people? I am sure I could go on but I couldn't bring myself to read the article twice!!
doesn't matter as long as it's in the news 😉
Giving to yourself without guilt, that sounds great. Too bad that we rarely get that opportunity. We are bombarded with guilt from a very early age. From religion to relatives, we are guilted into doing things we would rather not do. Sure, some of it is in our best interest in the long haul, but really, we are set up for a life where we do nothing but sacrifice.
You do not have to accept that, I don't.
Yeah, there is sacrifice involved in maintaining the society we enjoy. And hearing an American saying anything about a "life of sacrifice" is pretty dumbfounding.
There are plenty of selfish people in the world already. We don't need to promote it.
Please make her speak English. That would be a start...
total ayn randian garbage. this kind of thinking is what the devil would sell....if there were such a thing.
“Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
“Jesus replied, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
Bold move sto...i like it. Our generation has become so blinded by pride, greed, and selfishness that we believe we can mold reality into our desired selfish lifestyle rather than conforming our desires to fit reality.
I read the article because I thought it might mean to be "selfish" when it comes to your health. While guilt" can be damaging, so can risky behavior. One thing I can say is: I used to be one of those who put everyone else first. Now, that I'm older and live alone, I've learned to put MY needs first if I want to continue to do so. Necessity can override guilt!
This is an interesting study, but it does not seem to differentiate between short-term happiness (i.e., instant gratification) and long-term happiness. Even if short-term happiness is greater in those who are "forced" to be selfish for an immediate reward, I wonder if that really equates to long-term happiness with one's life choices. People may misread this study into suggesting that they should always be selfish, and that this will lead to long-term contentment.
Troll science.
Interesting study but incomplete
The reality is we are individually selfish as evolution dictates
The stickler is it doesn't work well and doesn't most of the time
Because we all belong to the BIG FAMILY that cares about each and everyone of us . Not always evident though
Watch a flock of birds, they fly as a unit , individually are Vulnerable as a unit they seem daunting to predators . Price equated it perfectly.
Money is an object of impermanance and cannot be linked to happiness.
Some in the 1st group may have been unhappy not because the money went to charity in general, but specifically because it went to anything run by the United Nations.
The UN's not a charity, idjit. Read a book.
I am selfish, does that mean I am happier than most? no I may not be but I don't care. I choose how I want to feel.
FYI my statement is deeper than you think, It was double meaning. Study that!
I disagree completely with the first point the article tries to make. I'm so much happier when I am in the service of others. That doesn't mean I neglect myself at all but that I remember that to make my life fulfilling I have to think of the true needs of those around me and not just my own. I teach third grade and wouldn't do this job if I didn't believe this way of thinking. When I become obsessed with my own wants I become depressed. Then I look at how much I am able to help people around me and life doesn't seem so bad.
Very true
As someone else mentioned, the very concept of found money probably skews the outcome of the study. Further, there is no third option of what to do with the money. I would probably put an extra $20 in savings!
As for selfishness and giving, I think there's a gray area in the middle that is not discussed. What if you spent that $20 on something that was renewing, something that gave you more energy to give to others? For example, you spend the $20 on a yoga session, consequently going home with more energy and enthusiasm for helping your child through their homework. Even though you've spent the money on yourself, doing something for yourself that makes you MORE able to give to others isn't a selfish act in my book. I find it unfortunate that the concept of giving vs. selfishness is limited to the material nature of money. Many of the best ways of giving selflessly have nothing to do with money.
And this is why I believe happiness is over rated. Pain, sadness, and sacrifice are part of what makes us human, and part of what makes those moments of happiness feel all the sweeter.
Beyond basic needs gaining possessions for yourself brings much smaller increments of happiness.
Do what evolution designed us to do, contribute part of what you have to help pull others up.
As long as it is not mandated, it is fine to give to charity.
It thoroughly disgusts me that I pay more in taxes because religious organizations have exemptions. There is NO inherent benefit from a religiously-affiliated organization "doing good works" versus a non-religious organization "doing good works". Tax breaks should be EXACTLY the same regardless of whether religion is involved – zero unless you CLEARLY can show that profit is NOT being made.
My dad's priest drives a Land Rover and a Beemer. Is that what religious tax breaks do for us?
Maybe the author has been listening to the Smiths song "Please, Please, Please Let Me Get What I Want."
Good times for a change
see, the luck I've had
can make a good man
turn bad
So please please please
let me, let me, let me
let me get what I want
this time
Haven't had a dream in a long time
see, the life I've had
can make a good man bad
So for once in my life
let me get what I want
Lord knows it would be the first time
Lord knows it would be the first time
Selfishness is OK to a certain point, but pure selfishness is not conducive to civilization. That said, the research cited is completely useless.
In order to be purely selfish and NOT a bane to civilization, you have to be educated.
A baby is purely selfish, but it also has NO idea what is in its best interest. It would crap on the floor, eat it, bite the b00b that feeds it, etc. etc. etc.
The only way selfishness becomes a virtue is through enough education to realize that a) yes, you are the most important person to please on this planet, but also b) taking care of your progeny and your loved ones IS in your best interest because they either did or do or will take care of you, and finally c) taking care of your fellow man IS in your best interest (for example, offering health care and education for illegal immigrants) because YOU are protecting yourself from them in terms of avoiding THEM infringing on you.
Anyone who says "I am an altruist" is clearly a liar, because there is no such thing. It is NOT in anyone's best interest to do things without any hope or thought of recompense, even Mother Theresa and various martyrs of various religions "did it" because THEY felt it was important – it was not about the people they were saving or dying for, it was about THEIR feelings.
It doesn't pay to be selfish. It doesn't pay to be greedy. It does pay to be giving and as it does pay to be forgiving.
With that said, don't be selfish and don't be greedy. Give the most that you can, and it has nothing to do with money and give people a second chance.
If anyone thinks they are destined to be selfish, think again because that's why the word options is in the dictionary.
Thats why the bible says its better to "give" than to "receive". But it also says to give with a "cheerful" heart. So that means we enjoy getting and giving and giving is only better when its not forced but its what you want to do
This assumes no one gets joy out of giving. We don't need to change from being selfish. We just need to change what makes us feel good. I feel good when I do ethical things.
The researchers missed a very important point....the main point of giving to others isn't to feel good about our selves and our own happiness but to help those in need simply because it is the right thing to do. Think where we would be if all those who fought to free others in WWII would have first asked them selves "is this going to make me happier?"
Selfishness & benevolence are learned behaviors. A selfish person will be happier when he does something selfish. A benevolent person will be happier when he does something for others.
I'll stick to the understanding of an actual anthropological researcher who used multiple data sets from numerous different world populations and social structures to come up with his understanding of altruism vs. selfishness and what about this understanding could be considered a human universal and what isn't...
His name to his students at UCSB was Chag... And just the fact that most of his colegues hated his guts but could never prove him wrong made me listen VERY carefully at his lectures... This "Study" is garbage... Like most of the "Studies" that actually make news these days. sheesh.
Some people get a good feeling from helping others- which is "selfish" too. If you're doing something that makes YOU feel good, then you're being "Selfish". There's no such thing as "happy altruism". Our society determines social power by how much guilt someone can incur in another.
There's something very wrong with the first study... "But participants who were given $3 to spend on themselves were happier than those in the choice group and happier than those forced to donate to charity."
So you called someone in, used your own funds to donate to charity, and gave them a receipt for it. And they're supposed to care why?
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