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March 8th, 2012
11:40 AM ET
Why women moan during sexIan Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex weekly on The Chart. Read more from him on his website, GoodInBed.
From "When Harry Met Sally" to "Sex and the City" to your basic porn film, women in the throes of passion aren’t just shouting their ecstasy from the rooftops - they’re moaning with pleasure. Loudly. But is this just cinematic license, or is there really something to noisy sex? Experts wondered the same thing. Last year, Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds published their research on the topic - technically known as “copulatory vocalization” - in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. In the study, they asked 71 sexually active heterosexual women between ages 18 and 48 for more details about vocalization during sex. The researchers found that many of the women did make noise, but not necessarily while they were having an orgasm. Instead, 66% said that they moaned to speed up their partner’s climax, and 87% stated that they vocalized during sex to boost his self-esteem. Are female orgasms really just a 'bonus'? “While female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalizations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation,” write the researchers. Women also reported making noise to relieve boredom, fatigue and pain/discomfort during sex. So is female vocalization during sex just a performance for a guy’s benefit? (After all, Meg Ryan’s over-the-top moans were meant to prove a point to “Harry” that men are easily duped by a fake orgasm.) “There isn’t a lot of research in this area,” says Kristen Mark, a sexuality researcher at Indiana University, “but we’re bombarded with images through mainstream media that tell us moaning is associated with orgasm and sexual pleasure. So it would be a fairly wise faking strategy to moan since men already tend to associate moaning with orgasm.” Of course, there’s nothing smart about faking it. “If you’re faking an orgasm, you are signaling to your partner that he is doing everything right, when in fact he isn’t,” says sex educator and author Patty Brisben. “Use moaning as a way of signaling that you are excited and things really are feeling good, not as a way to hide that they aren’t.” Fake or not, women aren’t the only primates who vocalize during sex. Research in the animal kingdom reveals that female baboons, for example, have a variety of copulation calls, which appear to relate to their fertility: The vocalizations tend to become more complex when the females are closer to ovulation, and also vary when a female is mating with a higher-ranked male baboon. And female macaque monkeys give a shout to help trigger their mates’ orgasm, too. Performances and primatologists aside, vocalizing during sex can actually be a great tool to help women get what they want in bed. As I discussed in my column a couple of weeks ago on the topic of talking about sex, it isn’t always easy to translate sexual thought into action, so a little strategic moaning can definitely help get the point across. “Women are learning to take responsibility for their own sexual needs and wants in the bedroom,” explains Brisben. “We need to take this one step further and give ourselves permission to become teachers. Use vocalization to teach your partner what feels good. It can help you say, 'stop, go, yes, more please' - without sounding like a traffic cop.” And when it comes to noise, “partner benefit isn’t the only piece of the puzzle,” says Kristen Mark. “Perhaps making noise turns some women on and helps them experience pleasure.” Brisben concurs: “I think there are many women who need to be vocal to help themselves achieve orgasm - it helps move them and their orgasm along. There are certainly phases. As a woman gets into it, she may become extremely vocal, and then move into a period of quiet as she is on the verge.” So do what feels right to you. Any other benefits are just a great bonus. And when it comes to “copulatory vocalization,” perhaps men should take a lesson from the ladies. “Women understand that moaning is a turn-on for guys, and many women ultimately enjoy it because they’ve made an effort to push a little beyond what comes naturally," says Logan Levkoff, a sex educator and author of a guide for men entitled "How To Get Your Wife to Have Sex With You." "But sexual self-esteem is a two-way street, and, for their part during sex, guys should aim for more than a single grunt at the end. It’s not about faking or doing something you don’t want to, but more about being sexually present and in sync with each other.” So let’s all make some noise.
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All you have to do is watch nearly any depiction of female orgasm on screen to get an idea of how a woman is “supposed” to react during sex.
"66% said that they moaned to speed up their partner’s climax, and 87% stated that they vocalized during sex to boost his self-esteem."
So... 66-87% of women are sneaky liars? I think that figure is fairly close, but still understated!!!
What about those women who moan because she is being pleasured? If I have to fake it, then I don't need ya.
Agreed!
I know, right? This isn't 1956.
Why can't people just do whatever they like with their partner...why do we have to analyze it? And if sounds excite a man coming from his woman – all the better for us both.....because when he is excited about whatever he is doing...i am excited because he is doing whatever he is doing..everybody wins.
Women get reciprocal excitement by the same means that men do when they think that a women is in ecstasy. So they are really moaning for themselves buy building exciement in their partners. Sheesh!
Yeah i spelled by and excitement wrong, Guess that makes me stupid.....
I moan and complain because I can't get any sex. Its been that way for 45 years.
If you want to know how many women moan, don't ask women, ask a guy who gets laid a lot? Also, ask him how many he thinks lied? When I was young, I had lovers who were moaners and some who weren't. Personally, I liked the ones who made some noise, but didn't shake the house. That was aggravating and definitely not a turn on.
There is also appropriate vocalization and inappropriate. For instance, if a woman made "over the top" noise when I knew I wasn't giving her that much stimulation, I knew she wasn't "telling the truth". If a woman is going to lie, she has to be in sync with the man.
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If this article has any validity whatsoever I will blow my supervisor on Thursday. First off, where did these so called "facts" come from? No women I know! As a woman who loves sex with my partner and who engages in copulatory vocalizations DURING orgasm and not to please my man's "ego"...hahaha...I get the sense that this article was either written by someone who was burnt by a woman or has never been with one.
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I'm usually pretty quiet until my first big "O". After that, t's like my moaning flood-gates open up. Every thrust elicits a moan.
And no, I can't help it
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OK. every single penny for this research was borrowed. The deficit today is 16 trillion. It is pure insanity to allow these universities be a participant in bankrupting this nation. Oh, that shrimp on a treadmill was a dandy. so was the millions spent on pig poop odor. This makes me so angry.
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I find this hilarious; I'm sorry.
Anyways, why do we have to analyze it? I mean, if I can make my girlfriend moan out of pleasure during sexual intercourse, then I'm doing something right at least. Some men can't, some men do; no one has to make a big deal out of it unless the female complains about it to the point of frustration for the male.
At first, I don't really moan that much. After a few thrusts (I'm really sensitive), I start moaning with every breath lol. my boyfriend loves it and he lovessss my facial expressions. I think they get him off more than moans, honestly.. and I'm not squinching and O-facing on purpose.. It's nothing I actually think about. But when I get close to an O, my moaning stops and I just tense up. We've been together long enough, he knows what it means.
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I've read many articles like this and they all seem to neglect the fact that a lot of times women moan because they feel good.
Sometimes I think the feminists may be on to something...
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When my husband and i have sex we go into great ectasy and he makes me feel so good that i cannot help myself and need to yell. i cannot control the moan it controls me. i have to yell and pout with great excitement. believe me there is no acting or pain in our pleasure. i am sure other females are the same. we are monogomous heterosexuals in our mid 40's and never ever have had sexual problems.
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