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Supermom myth can make you miserable
August 20th, 2011
12:15 AM ET

Supermom myth can make you miserable

Working mothers are less likely to be depressed than stay-at-home moms, a new study suggests.

However, working moms who thought women should be able to do it all are at greater risk for depression at age 40 than those who had more realistic expectations before they had kids.

“Holding a job is likely to improve your overall mental health and well-being, which is ultimately a good thing for yourself and your family,” says Katrina Leupp, the University of Washington sociology graduate student who led the research.

But it’s not a bad idea to “accept that balancing work and family is difficult, rather than feeling guilty or unsuccessful if you can’t devote as much time as you would like to your job or your family,” she says.

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Leupp analyzed U.S. Department of Labor data, which included 1,600 married women who were approximately age 40 in 2006. The women had been surveyed in 1987, when they were around 20, about their thoughts regarding working moms.

The women who supported combining motherhood with a career had a greater risk of depression later in life than those who thought women should stay at home to raise kids.

In fact, the young women who were the least likely to support the idea of blending home and work life had the fewest depression symptoms when they were actually working moms at age 40.

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It’s not clear why, but women who expect to be a supermom may feel bad when they find it harder than they anticipated. And those who don’t may feel less guilty about making sacrifices such as leaving work early to pick up the kids, says Leupp.

“The current generation of employed young women are more likely to have been raised by employed mothers than were past generations,” says Leupp. “Having an employed mother might make one more aware of the difficulties in balancing work and family, but it also provides you with a role model demonstrating that balancing work and family is possible and rewarding.”

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Working moms shouldn’t feel guilty if they have to cut corners or take time for themselves. “Be gentle with yourself,” advises Leupp. “Time away from your kids on Friday might make you a happier and better parent on Saturday.”

In general, studies have shown that employment is beneficial for a woman’s mental health. The survey found that stay-at-home moms were more depressed at age 40 than working women, regardless of their viewpoints before they had kids.

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The study will be presented this week at the American Sociological Association’s annual meeting in Las Vegas.

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  1. Jeff

    PolishKnight: "No, you didn't choose to stay home. You CHOSE a man who earned enough money to ALLOW you to stay home."

    Bingo. The realities of the world always outweigh the idealized fantasy. There is no choice in this world when it comes to survival ladies. People do and continue to do what is nessecary. No rationalization or apology is needed. ...but does survival come at a cost to the children? Most defintely and it is immediatly obvious. It takes most people about a five minute conversation with an adult to figure out who the caretakers was or lack of one). Daddy issues, now more than ever, are widely abound.

    The idea of a supermom (working full time, playing mommy, playing daddy) is a myth and the mothers who try to do so (beyond simple survival) when given a choice are screwing their kid's lives moreso than most people would think. Try as you might, the mother can not be everything and something is going to give. ...generally speaking, it will be the child.

    August 23, 2011 at 14:54 | Report abuse | Reply
  2. tryecrot

    Yes there should realize the opportunity to RSS commentary, quite simply, CMS is another on the blog.

    August 27, 2011 at 07:26 | Report abuse | Reply
  3. D

    More info about the signs of depression and treatments can be found at the following url: http://theantidepressed.blogspot.com/

    September 6, 2011 at 18:31 | Report abuse | Reply
  4. Acfk

    I agree the grapes of wrath is an amzniag novel by John Steinbeck which was made into a movie. The book is great and it isn't inappropriate for 8th graders. Its about a family that has lost everything in the depression and about living on nothing to eat and in a home with a torn up family very sad tho

    October 12, 2012 at 03:32 | Report abuse | Reply
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