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To each his own: Men and fetishes
July 21st, 2011
07:17 AM ET

To each his own: Men and fetishes

Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him at his website, GoodInBed.

As a sexuality counselor and author, I’m often asked, “What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever dealt with?”

I wish I could tell them something really juicy, like naked clowns wrestling in Jell-O, for example, but the truth is that most sexual complaints tend to be rather common: sex ruts, mismatched libidos, erectile disorder and premature ejaculation in men, and orgasm problems and painful sex for women.

What people really want to know about are the unusual sexual fetishes of others (also known clinically as paraphilias), which affect a much smaller percentage of people.

Interestingly enough, most of those people happen to be men. That’s not to say that women lack their own unique turn-ons and turn-offs, their kinks and squicks (sexual repulsions), but when it comes to, say, having a favorite fantasy versus having an obsession in which all sexual pleasure is almost exclusively derived from a single object, body part or sex practice, more men seem to fall in the latter category.

In their compelling new book "A Billion Wicked Thoughts," (also discussed in this blog) neuroscientists Ogi Ogas, Ph.D. and Sai Gaddam, Ph.D., analyzed more than a billion Internet searches in order to learn about the differences between male and female sexual preferences, as well as what those differences tell us about how our brains are wired, and why, for example, men are more predisposed to have fetishes:

“The male sexual software is what a computer engineer would call an 'OR gate.' It is instantly aroused by any single cue. The male brain is turned on by deep décolletage or sashaying hips or the whisper of a sultry voice or two Applebee’s waitresses kissing. The female sexual brain is what a computer engineer would call an 'AND gate.' It requires input from multiple cues simultaneously to surpass a combined threshold of activation before arousal occurs. … Though for most men the OR gate can be triggered by any one of a variety of sexual cues, for some men one specific cue is essential. This necessary cue is a fetish.”

Although fetishes have been well-documented since the mid-19th century, and could easily fill an encyclopedia with thousands, if not tens of thousands, of entries (from agalmatophilia to zoophilia), the underlying mechanics of fetishes remain something of a mystery.

And while the American Psychiatry Association recognizes fetishes in its clinical bible, the "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders," there’s much professional dissent about how to treat fetishes and whether treatment can even be effective when a fetish is deeply ingrained in a person.

Freud believed (no surprise) that fetishes stem from issues such as a man’s universal fear of castration or his unconscious fear of his mother’s genitals, while many psychologists continue to believe that some sort of “sexual imprinting” must occur in the early childhood of the fetishist for sexual excitement and the fetish object to become so intricately enmeshed.

Today, fetishes are often treated with a combination of psychoanalysis (the search for deep unconscious meaning behind a fetish), cognitive behavior therapy (in which the fetishist’s thoughts are viewed as irrational ones that can be reversed with conscious mindfulness) and/or psychiatry, which seeks to alter the brain chemistry of the fetishist through drugs.

Even in our own expert-forum at Good in Bed, fetishes are a source of speculation. Recently, for example, a young woman complained of her boyfriend’s “freeze fetish” - his sexual propensity for immobility, statues and wax figures.

While her boyfriend didn’t seem to be exclusively turned on by the fetish, she nonetheless was confused and anxious. Our experts weighed in: “Fetishes don’t usually go away, but they can morph a little,” writes Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, author of "A Woman’s Guide to Men and Their Penis Problems."

“If people are disturbed by them, they could explore what the unconscious interpretation of the fetish is for them. Then they can experiment with another representation of that meaning that they can then assign erotic feelings.”

“The best way to treat fetishes is to identify the nonsexual meanings of the fetish and crack the erotic code by identifying what he is looking for unconsciously through the fetish,” adds psychotherapist Dr. Joe Kort. “Perhaps he was afraid of mannequins in retail stores or impressed with them or aroused by them as a child and now they have become part of this arousal template, or maybe he saw a movie or video about this as a child which caused it to become locked into his mind and now is eroticized.  Whatever the case it could be helpful to understand the origins for both of you.”

Luckily, many people who would normally be distressed by a fetish are now finding like-minded peers via the Internet and/or some form of erotic stimulation (such as specialty porn) that caters to their specific interests.

Or they are fortunate enough to have sexual partners who, in the words of columnist Dan Savage, are sexually GGG (“good, giving and game”) and are willing to stretch their definition of the taboo and incorporate their partner’s fetish into their sex-play.

One single woman I know even joked that she’d love to meet a foot fetishist: At this point in her life, a good foot massage sounded better than sex. Perhaps the greatest goal for couples dealing with a partner who has a fetish is to decide how that fetish fits into their relationship.

“If a man is able to have healthy and hot sex with his partner and have his fetish fantasies without her and enjoy them,” asks Kort, "What’s wrong with that?”

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soundoff (463 Responses)
  1. Ozzi

    momma needs new boots

    July 21, 2011 at 12:02 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Richard von Krafft-Ebing

      The 'made for walking' kind?

      July 21, 2011 at 12:38 | Report abuse |
  2. Pegasus

    This is the best comment thread on CNN, ever.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:03 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Greg

      Not to me. I'm gettin' reamed today. Help me.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:23 | Report abuse |
    • Gay People

      Bend over and take it, Greg.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:42 | Report abuse |
  3. Norm

    Nothing like a beautiful set of girl toes.
    Lose the boots baby...

    July 21, 2011 at 12:06 | Report abuse | Reply
    • fuyuko

      no proof that isn't a man wearing those boots, though.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:21 | Report abuse |
    • Logan

      exactly. A nice set of painted toes always makes my day.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:34 | Report abuse |
  4. cageordie

    Most of the people I know who are in to fetishes are women. I am not. Many other issues come in to play here. Using Internet searches to establish evidence is relying on an unrepresentative population. The women I know wouldn't seek treatment for something they enjoy either. I don't think they are interested in being cured of BDSM. They call them kinks rather than fetishes though. The actions are the same but without the stigma of presumed fault.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:10 | Report abuse | Reply
  5. johninmemphis

    I had a Greg once.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:11 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Black Oak Arkansas

      You had a Greg Once !

      Hope you got treatment.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:22 | Report abuse |
  6. Chucky

    But what about SCAT??

    July 21, 2011 at 12:12 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Greg

      Let him get his own fetish.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:24 | Report abuse |
    • ladeebugg

      Everything including golden showers is on the table except SCAT and BEASTILITY!

      July 21, 2011 at 12:59 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      Isn't SCAT when Cab Calloway makes beat box noises in the Blues Brothers movies?

      July 21, 2011 at 12:59 | Report abuse |
    • Cab Calloway

      You got to kick the gong to get along with me.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:06 | Report abuse |
  7. sardukar

    Well as a physicians I like my wife to dress as nurse....also we talk about diagnoses and clinical management during the act... 😉

    July 21, 2011 at 12:15 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Baron von Frootloop

      Do you keep her waiting in the waiting room for an hour first as foreplay?

      July 21, 2011 at 12:51 | Report abuse |
    • Beth

      @Baron von Frootloop

      Awesome 🙂

      July 21, 2011 at 12:58 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      @ Baron – (Benny bows to you)

      July 21, 2011 at 13:00 | Report abuse |
    • Baron von Frootloop

      Thank you, thank you.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:07 | Report abuse |
    • TW

      @ Baron – one of the best comments I've ever read...ever

      July 21, 2011 at 13:39 | Report abuse |
    • Dave

      Baron Von Frootloop,

      too funny!

      July 21, 2011 at 14:31 | Report abuse |
    • King

      Baron, I kneel before you.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:56 | Report abuse |
    • pacman357

      The problem is, they spend an hour arguing over Goofus and Gallant, and pretty soon, the babysitter's time is up.

      July 23, 2011 at 04:19 | Report abuse |
    • merlinblack

      @barron – you are awesome.

      August 4, 2011 at 13:20 | Report abuse |
  8. Garth V

    I have a fetish for feet. but coupled with that is my tendency to want to wear nail polish and female sandals. Of course i tend to do this when i am traveling alone or just away from the house is this normal

    July 21, 2011 at 12:17 | Report abuse | Reply
    • CSher

      As long as you are just headed to Wal-Mart – you'll fit right in! 😉

      July 21, 2011 at 13:05 | Report abuse |
    • pacman357

      Shoot, I have enough trouble trying to find MEN's shoes in my own size (14). Can't imagine trying to find women's shoes to fit me! As for the polish, if I could still reach my toes, I wouldn't need a woman to help with the other thing.

      July 23, 2011 at 04:21 | Report abuse |
  9. erich2112x

    ow, ow, ow, ow..........

    July 21, 2011 at 12:18 | Report abuse | Reply
  10. bonita boy

    Lets save the nation..ALL Fetsihes should be taxed according to oddity. Let Barry Obama lead the movement and we will rescue the nation overnight.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:18 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Rae

      Oh, this is rich! Bravo!

      July 21, 2011 at 14:22 | Report abuse |
  11. Waltham

    Its a fetish to use a feather, a perversion to use the whole chicken...

    July 21, 2011 at 12:19 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Black Oak Arkansas

      Waltham Mass ?

      I was born and raised on Charles Street.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:20 | Report abuse |
    • Chicken

      Oh God, use me! Use me!

      July 21, 2011 at 12:20 | Report abuse |
  12. Black Oak Arkansas

    After listening to Greg,
    I am going to date myself,
    Its safer.

    Go Jim Dandy !

    July 21, 2011 at 12:19 | Report abuse | Reply
    • TXmom

      LOL! Love the Jim Dandy reference. Used to sneak into my brother's room and listen to that 8-track tape.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:12 | Report abuse |
    • Sami

      How funny, I was just singing that song this morning acting the fool. Great reference!

      July 21, 2011 at 14:24 | Report abuse |
    • Isaac Asimov

      Clone yourself:
      O give me a clone
      of my own flesh and bone
      with its Y chromosome
      changed to X,
      and when it is grown
      my own little clone
      will be of the opposite s ex;
      Clone, clone of my own,
      with its Y chromosome
      changed to X,
      and when I'm alone
      with my own little clone
      we will both think of nothing but s ex
      (sung to the tune of Home on the Range)

      July 21, 2011 at 14:33 | Report abuse |
    • pacman357

      Isn't it strange
      Feels like I'm lookin' in the mirror
      What would people say
      If only they knew that I was

      Part of some geneticist's plan (plan-plan-plan)
      Born to be a carbon copy man (man-man-man)
      There in a petri dish late one night
      They took a donor's body cell and fertilized a human egg and so I say

      I think I'm a clone now
      There's always two of me just a-hangin' around
      I think I'm a clone now
      'Cause every chromosome is a hand-me-down

      Look at the way
      We go out walking close together
      I guess you could say
      I'm really beside myself

      I still remember how it began (gan-gan-gan)
      They produced a carbon copy man (man-man-man)
      Born in a science lab late one night
      Without a mother or a father, just a test tube and a womb with a view

      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      There's always two of me just a-hangin' around
      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      'Cause every chromosome is a hand-me-down

      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      And I can stay at home while I'm out of town
      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      'Cause every pair of genes is a hand-me-down

      Signing autographs for my fans
      Come and meet the carbon copy man
      Livin' in stereo, it's all right
      Well I can be my own best friend and I can send myself for pizza so I say

      I think I'm a clone now
      Another one of me's always hangin' around
      I think I'm a clone now
      'Cause every chromosome is a hand-me-down

      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      I've been on Oprah Winfrey – I'm world renowned
      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      And every pair of genes is a hand-me-down

      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      That's my genetic twin always hangin' around
      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)
      'Cause every chromosome is a hand-me-down

      I think I'm a clone now (a clone now)

      July 23, 2011 at 04:30 | Report abuse |
  13. johninmemphis

    You anywhere near memphis? 😉

    July 21, 2011 at 12:23 | Report abuse | Reply
  14. Black Oak Arkansas

    Smock.
    I like the word smock.
    smock smock smock smock smock smock smock smock.
    Aaaaahhhh, thats better.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:24 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Baron von Frootloop

      Don't make me smock you up side the head.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:30 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      I'm supprised no one has "smock"ed you more!

      July 21, 2011 at 13:02 | Report abuse |
    • GreatGooglyMoogly

      Stop smocking around.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:09 | Report abuse |
    • Melly

      Someone, please smock me! And hard! LOL

      July 21, 2011 at 14:28 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      Factoid: A good "smocking" requires not one but two (2) tongues.

      Thought you should know...

      July 21, 2011 at 14:40 | Report abuse |
  15. Greg

    Does she have a sister?

    July 21, 2011 at 12:29 | Report abuse | Reply
  16. George B

    So does this help explain the obsession with cutting taxes for the rich while cutting services for the poor and elderly?

    July 21, 2011 at 12:30 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Baron von Frootloop

      No, but it explains trickle-down economics in disgusting detail.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:11 | Report abuse |
  17. Jacob

    Wow, this entire article was engulfed by hetero-normative ideals. Way to continue acting like LGBT don't even exist CNN...

    July 21, 2011 at 12:31 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Greg

      Help! Jacob is under my bed with an enema, I mean an agenda!

      July 21, 2011 at 12:41 | Report abuse |
    • oooty

      I'm with you – I won't be happy until we live in a normless society!!! That's the whole point of a "society", right? There should be no norms, no standards, no rules, no rulers. I want to do WHATEVER I want, and if you don't like it, YOU'RE A HATER!

      July 21, 2011 at 12:52 | Report abuse |
    • fran glass

      this entire country is engulfed by hetero-normative ideals... seemingly.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:04 | Report abuse |
    • Anon amus

      Hi. My name is Anon, and I'm hetero-normative.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:16 | Report abuse |
    • melvinslizard

      Open your mind (and squeeze your cheeks) to the hetero-normative

      July 21, 2011 at 16:47 | Report abuse |
  18. Observer

    Fortunately for Christian h0m0phobes, these are not abominations in the Bible.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:33 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Sassy

      You are clearly in the wrong forum. Move along now.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:06 | Report abuse |
    • Candy

      No, he's in the right forum. 'Phobes still have an opinion, remember us? The others have their own forums. It is YOU who is in the wrong forum.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:35 | Report abuse |
  19. Richard von Krafft-Ebing

    Hmmm . . . although they appear at first to be women, a closer inspection reveals, um, AAAAHH!! MY EYES! IT BURNS, IT BURNS, OH WHY DID i LOOK? AAAAHHH! GOD HELP ME, IT BURNS!"

    July 21, 2011 at 12:40 | Report abuse | Reply
  20. Lorraine

    OMG This is some hysterical reading. Love the chicken comments.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:43 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Chicken

      It's just a rumor that I come first, baby.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:48 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      LMAO – Just tooo Funny!

      July 21, 2011 at 13:53 | Report abuse |
  21. greg ogle

    this is actually interesting

    July 21, 2011 at 12:43 | Report abuse | Reply
  22. David in Corpus

    Leg man myself. A girl/woman can be ugly in the face, no boobs, etc. etc., but if her legs are slammin', I am game.
    Also ladies, if you have nice legs, wearin' a knee length or shorter squirt w/ at least 3 inch heels (especially the strappy ones that show plenty of foot flesh) you might as well be completely naked as far as I am concerned.
    I love going to work at my office. The women wear nothing but heels and skirts. It is like going to a strip club and not having to pay cover or buy anyone a drink.
    Also, older ladies who are still hot, ditch the panty hose, that is so 50's and also in the south it is just stupid. Why are you trying to keep your legs that warm? And do you purposefully want to look frumpy? The covered toes with nylon makes me want to throw up. Don't even get me started on cankles and tree trunk legs.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:50 | Report abuse | Reply
    • The Women in David's Office

      We know you look at us, David, and it makes us feel creepy. We carry Mace© and are not afraid to use it.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:54 | Report abuse |
    • Chicken

      I like women like RuPaul

      July 21, 2011 at 13:01 | Report abuse |
    • The Women in David's Office(2)

      And the truth is... Well... Most of us have pen1ses... Guess you're gonna come out of the closet after all...

      July 21, 2011 at 13:06 | Report abuse |
    • Thor

      No mace, no harm!

      July 21, 2011 at 14:23 | Report abuse |
    • David in Corpus

      Well Lady in my office, at least I don't wack off all over the 6th floor bathroom stall like some other guy does. I will kill him if I ever find out who he is.
      Mace, been there, done that, wrote the book, and bought the t-shirt.
      You will need a taser to take me down. I have actually gotten to liking mace somewhat. Amusing to see the look on their face when they realize it isn't working on me even a lil'.

      Cheers Ladies!

      July 21, 2011 at 17:40 | Report abuse |
    • D

      Are you okay with white legs. Some of us are awfully white-and stay that way.

      July 21, 2011 at 21:19 | Report abuse |
  23. Lila

    Only if the AND gate multiple sources are a gorgeous face with nice abs, tight behind and smells good. Then we are talking. But if it's the same s3xist silliness, um no.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:51 | Report abuse | Reply
  24. Ann

    Fluggaenkoecchicebolsen is the Safety Word!

    July 21, 2011 at 12:57 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Ayatollah ben Dover

      I used to use "Aargh" but we had to stop all the time.

      July 21, 2011 at 12:59 | Report abuse |
  25. oooty

    Poor Greg. He's going to have a stroke.

    July 21, 2011 at 12:58 | Report abuse | Reply
    • oooty

      Yeah! A stroke. Get it?

      July 21, 2011 at 13:02 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      Just one? Figured he was at least a 3 stroker...

      July 21, 2011 at 13:07 | Report abuse |
  26. ladeebugg

    Now that's a turn on!

    July 21, 2011 at 13:00 | Report abuse | Reply
  27. Benny

    How big?

    July 21, 2011 at 13:01 | Report abuse | Reply
  28. Benny

    Look again... they are just strap ons...

    July 21, 2011 at 13:03 | Report abuse | Reply
  29. Benny

    HAHA! Fooled You!

    July 21, 2011 at 13:04 | Report abuse | Reply
  30. miner

    the picture is of greg in his girly boots. probably thought is was a good looking pic so once he was done offing another male he dicided to step in the speciem and snap a photo

    July 21, 2011 at 13:07 | Report abuse | Reply
  31. oooty

    Which one of us is the real Greg? We BOTH are!

    July 21, 2011 at 13:09 | Report abuse | Reply
    • oooty

      Hey ootoy, stop using my tag. get your own

      July 21, 2011 at 13:13 | Report abuse |
    • oooty

      Everyone here is named oooty, except Greg.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:22 | Report abuse |
    • Greg

      Wait, I thought I was oooty? Who am I now?

      July 21, 2011 at 13:23 | Report abuse |
    • Greg

      On the internet, no one can tell if you are Gregarious.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:58 | Report abuse |
  32. David in Corpus

    You fkn people are all so sick the collective head. I love you all.

    July 21, 2011 at 13:09 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Greg

      Don't you dare touch me!

      July 21, 2011 at 13:12 | Report abuse |
    • oooty

      you're a real sicko yourself. MF

      July 21, 2011 at 13:15 | Report abuse |
    • SkirtBurner

      I'm only wearing pants to the office now

      July 21, 2011 at 13:43 | Report abuse |
    • Richard von Krafft-Ebing

      'Collective head' is a new paraphilia that will also be described in my next book.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:03 | Report abuse |
    • Blue Õyster Cult

      "Collective Head" will be the name of our new CD.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:05 | Report abuse |
    • Anon amus

      I actually like to remove my pants once I'm in the office. It's only been close once or twice.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:22 | Report abuse |
  33. Benny

    I'm 100% positive that 100% certain that a 100% proven fact just isn't enough information. I require more!

    July 21, 2011 at 13:09 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Benny

      Pics or it ain't real!

      July 21, 2011 at 13:20 | Report abuse |
    • Kim Kardashian

      Do X-Rays count?

      July 21, 2011 at 13:22 | Report abuse |
  34. Benny

    Well... Here goes nothing. I have fetish but it isn't s3xual.

    I love midgets! I think they look fun. Don't want to do anything s3xual with them. Just want to play with them. Juggle them. Use them as lawn darts. Make them amuse me in general. Make them roll around in a bath of cheetos and lick the crumbs off their fingers and toes and necks and knees and ears and bellybuttons. Ok.. Maybe it is a little s3xual, but the cheetos are just cause I love cheetos too!

    Is that wrong?

    July 21, 2011 at 13:14 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Midgets

      We tell our kids that if they aren't good, Benny will get them.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:21 | Report abuse |
    • Chester Cheetos

      You have cured my add!ction Benny. Thank you and damn you. I no longer hunger for my cheesy snack.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:43 | Report abuse |
    • Frito-Lay

      Unfortunately, due to Benny's dangerous fetish we at Frito-Lay must now publicly state that our Cheetos are not intended to be consumed off the bodies of the Little People. Notices, similar to McDonald's "Contents are hot" lables, will be put on all further Frito-Lay products. All Frito-Lay liscenced products have officially stoped production until the updated bags can be aquired.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:47 | Report abuse |
    • Mint

      GAWD, this is funny!

      July 21, 2011 at 14:40 | Report abuse |
  35. Chris

    I'm a guy and I love angora sweaters! I must have bought my girlfriend about 80 of them. Just discovered the girlfriend now has a fur fetish. Life is fluffy and good 🙂

    July 21, 2011 at 13:15 | Report abuse | Reply
    • oooty

      Are you really Bill Clinton?

      July 21, 2011 at 13:16 | Report abuse |
    • Monica

      Bill, is that you?

      July 21, 2011 at 13:19 | Report abuse |
    • Ayatollah ben Dover

      'Fake fur's is sold by the yard at some fabric outlets. Try covering your bed with it.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:20 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      @Ayatollah ben Dover – LMAO – Are you trying to electrocute them? Do you have any idea how much static electricity could build up from rubbing fur on angora sweaters? Would make one he!! of a headline though.

      "Couple Electric in Bed" – "Shocking Reports from Angora Sweater Girl" – "Electric Chairs are for Puzies"

      July 21, 2011 at 13:26 | Report abuse |
    • pacman357

      That's not a fetish, that's just good taste. I had a g.f. years ago who had 38DDs and liked to wear angora sweaters. Makes me feel like singing "Thank Heaven for Little Girls" just thinking about her!

      July 23, 2011 at 04:35 | Report abuse |
  36. Monica

    Bill, I still have the dress.

    July 21, 2011 at 13:22 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Hillary

      You little tramp!

      July 21, 2011 at 13:23 | Report abuse |
  37. John

    "two Applebees waitresses kissing"

    Thanks a lot for that one, now I have another freaking fetish.
    ;p

    July 21, 2011 at 13:23 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Hillary

      Ooh! I like two wiatresses kissing too. I MIGHT even tip one of them if they use their , , ,

      July 21, 2011 at 13:25 | Report abuse |
    • Richard von Krafft-Ebing

      I would have liked to hear more about that instead of the rest of the article. Are they roommates? Is it the first time?

      July 21, 2011 at 13:26 | Report abuse |
    • Katy Perry

      "Two Applebee's Waitresses Kissing" is the name of my next CD.

      July 21, 2011 at 15:00 | Report abuse |
    • Pin Up

      Sounds like they were wearing plenty of flare 🙂

      July 21, 2011 at 16:27 | Report abuse |
  38. Spaceman

    Just a simple pair of black horn rimmed glasses on a nice girl does it for me, simple pleasures, well and the stilettos

    July 21, 2011 at 13:29 | Report abuse | Reply
    • pacman357

      I hate to break this to you, but you actually want to bang Bill Gates.

      July 23, 2011 at 04:39 | Report abuse |
  39. Jane

    Hmmm. I did a paper on paraphilia once. Apparently, alot of what psychologist call fetishes stems from childhood.
    If anyone is interested i think on National Geographic channel there is a show called "Taboo" which dives into the world of fetishsm. I think its quite facsinating. 🙂

    July 21, 2011 at 13:29 | Report abuse | Reply
  40. Charly(_x_)

    I'm curious to what SCAT is from Ladybugg?◦ladeebugg
    Everything including golden showers is on the table except SCAT and BEASTILITY!

    July 21, 2011 at 12:59 | Report abuse |

    July 21, 2011 at 13:33 | Report abuse | Reply
    • I have Goat Heads

      poo

      July 21, 2011 at 13:53 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      Ladybug SCAT is just really small...

      July 21, 2011 at 14:41 | Report abuse |
  41. Loopman

    It's been stated before but it warrants repeating, You people are some of the sickest puppies I have ever heard of.... but I love you all for it!!

    July 21, 2011 at 13:37 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Richard von Krafft-Ebing

      I will classify that as a new paraphilia in my next book.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:51 | Report abuse |
    • pacman357

      His real name is Poopman.

      July 23, 2011 at 04:41 | Report abuse |
  42. luvsfuzzysweaters

    Nothing on the largest male fetish? those Soft fuzzy sweaters? You know the ones too magical to touch. Ed Wood . This fetish has the largest online presence going on all over the world.

    July 21, 2011 at 13:40 | Report abuse | Reply
  43. Tom Brady

    I used to have a confetti fetish. I quit it cold turkey and have been confetti free for the last few years.

    July 21, 2011 at 13:45 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Confetti

      Really, Tom? Then why do you call me late and night and hang up before I can answer? And don't think I don't know it's you, Tom.

      July 21, 2011 at 13:52 | Report abuse |
  44. bolderdash

    As long as the folks involved give informed consent it's no one else's business what fetishes they indulge in.

    July 21, 2011 at 13:59 | Report abuse | Reply
    • bolderdash's pimp

      As long as I gets my money, that's right.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:14 | Report abuse |
  45. Strange White Stain

    Please Help!

    WTH is that stuff on Greg's boots? It's terribly distracting! Not the reflection on the "heals". It's between the "heel" and the toes.

    July 21, 2011 at 14:01 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Blue Õyster Cult

      It's called santorum.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:06 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      @ Blue Oyster Cult – You mistook the white stain for the former United States Senator from Pennsylvania, Rick Santorum. Completely understandable really. I too confuse Republicans for stains as well. Come to think of it, I confuse most politicians for white stains, except Obama. He's a black stain. (Sorry. I know. Poor taste)

      Seriously. I too want to know what it is!

      July 21, 2011 at 14:20 | Report abuse |
  46. nope

    As long as the folks involved give informed consent it's no one else's business what they indulge in.

    July 21, 2011 at 14:01 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Monica

      I agree with you! What a consulting president and a consulting 21 year old unpaid intern do in Oral Oriface is no one's business. Especially that shrew Hil ~

      July 21, 2011 at 14:10 | Report abuse |
  47. YourOut, or in?

    Must have a nice Strike Zone. You know, top of the knees to the chest. Doesn't hurt if you can squish that into some nice shiny spandex

    July 21, 2011 at 14:07 | Report abuse | Reply
  48. Captain Crunch

    I especially love a pretty woman's hands. I guess because we do so many things our hands. Am I alone?

    July 21, 2011 at 14:09 | Report abuse | Reply
    • BJ Clinton

      Hands are OK. But a mouth is better.

      July 21, 2011 at 14:12 | Report abuse |
  49. Anon amus

    Wait, that' s not a fetish – is it?

    July 21, 2011 at 14:12 | Report abuse | Reply
  50. Lady Elizabeth

    My hubby/subby likes leather, so we have an entire closet full of patent leather clothing... for him and for me, from head to toe including gloves with claws ala catwoman. I wear the boots, and he goes barefoot. It establishes the correct order of things in our home. He's a pretty happy guy. And I'm cherished. It's worked for us for over 20 yrs.

    July 21, 2011 at 14:13 | Report abuse | Reply
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