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Do women like porn as much as men?
April 28th, 2011
08:48 AM ET

Do women like porn as much as men?

Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him at his website, GoodInBed.

If you’d asked me this question a couple of years ago, I would have said “no.” But the times they are a-changing: just as female infidelity is on the rise, women are catching up to the guys in other ways, too - including a propensity for porn.

As a sex therapist and founder of the website Good in Bed, here’s what I’m observing:

- More couples are enjoying porn together, with women often taking the lead in choosing the material.

- More women are using porn to get themselves in the mood for sex or to enjoy their sexuality on their own.

- More women are using porn to learn new sexual techniques or to explore sexually adventurous situations.

- More women are using porn to satisfy a general curiosity about sex overall, and

- More women are comfortable and confident in asserting their opinions on the subject.

In short, women are increasingly using porn for pretty much the same reasons (and pleasures) as men. Meanwhile, guys are increasingly surprised to discover that their female partners are interested in porn - and tend to be even more surprised to discover what they’re watching (I’ll get to that in a moment).

So what’s going on? Why the apparent change? To be honest, I’d always been of the mind that men and women are somewhat different when it comes to porn, for both biological and sociological reasons:

On the biological side, I’ve often said female sexual desire is more complex than male desire, and that porn rather clearly illustrates that difference: In men, visual stimulation leads quickly to sexual arousal, and with that chain of arousal often comes a desire to be stimulated to orgasm. In that sense, arousal and desire are very closely related, and it’s one of the reasons that Viagra has been so successful with men: Give a guy an erection and he basically wants to use it. In men, porn initiates the “sexual-circuit” very quickly.

That’s not to say that women don’t respond to visual stimulation either, or that that stimulation doesn’t lead to genital arousal, but that arousal doesn’t always trigger desire in women the way that it does with men.

When I talk to guys about their porn use, many describe a lack of pre-meditation. For example, a guy could be hanging out on his computer, checking out his favorite sports site, when up pops an ad with a sexy woman in a bikini and, bang, next thing he knows he’s trawling porn sites in search of sexual release.

With women, however, the use of porn or the desire/decision to have an orgasm is often less opportunistic. A woman may see something super-sexy, and recognize it as sexy, and even arousing, but that doesn’t mean she’s necessarily going to stop what she’s doing to stimulate herself to orgasm. (By the way, if you don’t agree with any of this, please chime in below in the comments - sexual desire is by no means a one size fits all model: everyone is different and topic of women and porn is a highly debated one.)

On a more sociological level, generations of women have been told that porn is evil: that it exploits, objectifies, and degrades women, and that a woman who enjoys porn is a betrayer of Women. Some may still feel this is true, (and there are plenty of women who feel uncomfortable with porn), but there are also plenty of women who would beg to disagree and look at porn as a fairly innocuous form of erotic escapism that’s a personal choice and not a big deal.

Additionally, many women have contended that porn, until fairly recently, was never really created with female customers in mind; that porn was designed to appeal to men and lacked elements that were more organic to female sexuality, such as foreplay, intimacy and erotic storylines.

Well, today there are many porn sites geared toward women. In fact, there’s even a regular Feminist Porn Awards that recognizes erotic entertainment that is smart, sexy, and appreciates women as viewers.

Combine a recognition of a female audience with the rapid proliferation of easily accessible Internet porn, and it only makes sense that more women are enjoying porn. (By the way, if you’re a woman and you’re interested in dipping a toe - or perhaps nose-diving - into the world of porn, I suggest checking out the work of Violet Blue and her book, "The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn." Or if porn isn’t your thing, but you’re interested in some hot erotic literature, take a look at the anthologies that are edited by Rachel Kramer Bussell.)

As it turns our women may be able to enjoy porn with less guilt, or at least with less grief from their male partners. In my experience, women tend to worry a lot more about their man’s porn habits and what it means to their relationship, whereas many of the men I’ve spoken with tend to be intrigued by the idea of women and porn - especially since women are much more likely to enjoy porn that does not directly reflect their sexual orientation.

One study at Northwestern University, for example, examined the effects of porn on genital arousal and concluded that men responded more intensely to porn that correlated to their particular sexual orientation, whereas women tended to be genitally aroused by a much broader spectrum of erotic material. Who knows –- perhaps the enormous variety of material offered by the Internet will end up playing more to the spectrum of female desire than male desire in the long run?

For the moment, it would seem that women are not watching porn nearly as much as men. Recently, a researcher from the University of Montreal set out to study whether pornography had an impact on guys’ sex lives. He searched for men in their 20s who'd never consumed porn, and guess what? He couldn't find a single one. I can still show you plenty of women who have never looked at porn - but perhaps not for long.

So do women like porn as much as men? You tell me.


soundoff (487 Responses)
  1. Rubyroo

    P0RN OR NO P0RN WE ALL ENJOY F&%KING! AM I RIGHT OR AM I WRONG? AND WHY? BECAUSE SUBCONSCIOUSLY WE ARE PROGRAMMED TO PROCREATE. IT IS NATURAL, IT'S OUR MEANS TO SURVIVAL IN THIS PLANET, IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW WE LOOK AT IT, WHETHER YOU HAVE HIGH OR LOW SELF ESTEEM, OR IF IT'S REALLY A PERVERSION, GUESS WHAT WE ALL ENJOY IT! IT CREATES A MOOD THAT FOLLOWS WITH A NATURAL EFFECT S3X, MAKING LOVE, F%&KING WHATEVER YOU CALL IT. I SEE IT AS IT CREATES THE MOOD TO CREATE LIFE, AT LEAST SUBCONSCIOUSLY THAT'S WHY WE DO IT.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:24 | Report abuse | Reply
  2. Me again

    WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

    April 28, 2011 at 13:24 | Report abuse | Reply
  3. Ricote

    Am I permanently censored?

    April 28, 2011 at 13:25 | Report abuse | Reply
    • David in Corpus

      I am on Fox News. They even sent me an email.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:34 | Report abuse |
    • Tom

      The other 50 percent are completely fridgid, and think entirely about shoes during tha act of love making and smiile.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:45 | Report abuse |
    • Answer

      just get a new e-mail account from hotmail or google and create a new account. Use your old avatar so that people can see who you are. If your like me, they blocked by ISP acount, until I changed it. just tone it down a little bit, find a way to share your antics, and its just as much fun. People will know what your talking about.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:32 | Report abuse |
  4. jkl

    I would like to hear what Dr. Kerner has to say about making your own video with your partner and then watching it together.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:25 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Peyton Manning

      Studying film is a great way to improve your technique.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:31 | Report abuse |
    • Thinks2010

      I don't know what doctor Kerner would say about it, but I would recommend against it in this age of computers. You run the risk of it getting posted on the internet for all eternity if your relationship ends. I both partners don't care if their friends, business associates, potential employers, children and other family members see it; by all means make one and enjoy it together. However, if you wouldn't want others to view it, just don't make a video.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:35 | Report abuse |
    • abbey butch

      I saw the video that you made, and you should be ashamed of yourselves. I also forwarded a copy to your parents, and I am sure they won't be too impressed either. You need to go see ABDULLAH THE BUTCHER for some advice on how to best deal with the mess you have created by thinking with the incorrect head.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:11 | Report abuse |
    • Amy

      Done that. And it was my idea. Highly recommended.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:17 | Report abuse |
    • John Stone

      I've just talked to "ABDULLAH THE BUTCHER" and he's damn upset with everyone and says to cut it out or else !!!

      April 28, 2011 at 14:27 | Report abuse |
    • iAmorous

      think2010 is probably ugly

      April 28, 2011 at 14:46 | Report abuse |
    • Lanfear

      Been there, done that. I wouldn't recommend it though, because you never know where it might turn up. Unless you delete it right after. My ex still jerks off to our old videos and tells me about it. When I've gone to his house to pack my shiit etc., he will put the video on and watch it right there in front of me. He even whips his willy out and starts jerking off! And he knows I have a BF! So I can only imagine what he's doing with those vids and I can only hope he doesn't show his friends. And one day when I'm famous (lol) I hope to god they aren't leaked on the internet! 😉

      April 28, 2011 at 14:50 | Report abuse |
    • Thinks2010

      lAmorous–I'm not saying that couples films wouldn't be fun to make or to watch, I'm just saying you need to think about the possibility that it could go public very easily these days. If you don't care about that, by all means go ahead and do it and enjoy it. I am old and ugly now (that wasn't always the case), but I don't see what that has to do with my comment. It was just meant as a word to the wise to those who may not have thought about it.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:03 | Report abuse |
  5. lila

    The question was do women enjoy it as much as men-yes they do, now do all men and women need it- no they don't. If you take a couple who is happy confident in the bedroom and wire up their brains and put a movie in, both brains will light up. The men vs women stuff is just simply outdated and silly. There are differences between men and women but not in the bedroom. Nature did not make a mistake. Women have been shamed and controlled for thousands of years, many of the differences we see have been socially created not natural. Anytime you think you know women, keep in mind the male unit is one the largest in the animal kingdom compared to the size of their bodies. The only way that happened was because women CHOSE those men and those genes carried on. The men with the super small ones didn't make it.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:27 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Dave

      +100.

      Where's the Like button when I need it?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:36 | Report abuse |
    • lila

      oops not animal kingdom meant Primates

      April 28, 2011 at 13:36 | Report abuse |
    • realist

      lets get real – choice is directly correlated to size and strength. genders aside and morals aside, the stronger and more powerful made the choices, which in general terms, meant women did not chose. not saying its right or wrong, but seriously...lets get real

      April 28, 2011 at 13:46 | Report abuse |
    • wow

      yeah, I doubt that women chose dudes on their member size, but it is true, compared to our body sizes, our $3Xu@L organs are much larger than most animals compared to body sizes, meaning that we are generally a $3xu.al species. They also did a study in monkeys, a female has intercourse with several males, and the sp3rm cell count is higher in more dominant males, so it has a greater chance of fertilizing the egg. They did a study in humans, and a male that is with his wife, every other day, has lower sp3.rm cell counts, but if he goes away from his wife and comes back, even though the time period between intercourse is the same, his sp3.rm count is much higher, so in case his wife happened to fool around it would be his cells that are more likely to fertilize the egg..

      just face it, we are a $exu.al species

      April 28, 2011 at 14:01 | Report abuse |
    • Philip Young

      So you say the super small ones don't make it? Hahaha. Don't you know that there are over 1 billion Chinese people and only 300 million Americans? Blacks are hung, but there are a hell of a lot more Asians in the world than blacks. So your theory just got trashed.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:02 | Report abuse |
    • lila

      Of course women choose. Even if you visit tribes today who have changed very little in thousands of years in the Amazon it's the men who have to prove themselves to women. Same as the way we live today in the states.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:09 | Report abuse |
    • Holmes Diggler

      You know, size does have its limits. It doesn't pay to have a large suit case if all you have to drive is a smart car or a mini cooper. And yet they sell pretty well.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:23 | Report abuse |
    • lila

      BTW it's not my theory. Scientists have been studying it for years. Also they are comparing it to the fact there are flat chested women. In theory, all women should have DDs if men had all the choice and power.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:25 | Report abuse |
    • 100Dollars

      In most tribes that "haven't changed in thousands of years" you don't have to prove crap to the women... Its the womens father you have to impress and then he will allow you to marry his daughter. Daughters are considered property and are traded as such in the "tribes that haven't changed in thousands of years."

      April 28, 2011 at 14:27 | Report abuse |
    • 100Dollars

      BTW thats not theory. Thats scientific fact.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:29 | Report abuse |
    • lila

      wrong. just like teenage boys who wrestle and do things to show off in front of girls, men in tribes do the same. They show off their fighting and hunting skills to prove themselves.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:38 | Report abuse |
    • Chris

      "wrong. just like teenage boys who wrestle and do things to show off in front of girls, men in tribes do the same. They show off their fighting and hunting skills to prove themselves."

      Sure, people in every culture throughout history have wanted to prove themselves to other people, especially men.

      However, to start your comment with disrespectful, misguided assertions like "wrong," in pathetic grammar, does not make your argument very impressive.

      Not to mention the point you brought up is completely unrelated to what you were responding to. Men have tried to prove themselves to women for a very long time, but that has nothing to do with the fact that throughout most of history women had ZERO influence in deciding their husband.

      In short, it is far, FAR more likely that males evolved with abnormally large equipment because men in ancient tribes saw it as some sign of strength or virility, and chose to marry their daughters to such.

      Furthermore, there are no tribes that "have not changed for thousands of years." That is a pipe dream. An extremely obvious one at that.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:03 | Report abuse |
    • lila

      Well grammar cop, this may upset you, but yes you are wrong. Google tribes on the Brazilian-Peruvian border in the Amazon. Many attack outsiders when they try to contact them. There is a cool picture of a helicopter getting pummeled with arrows from two years ago. Some other tribes do allow outsiders in and they haven't changed in thousands of years, not to mention there are many others on different continents that have also maintained their way of life. It is closed minded to use our culture only to define what men and women are. Some traditions are oppressive to women some are not, but they give clues to who we are as s3xu@l beings. Furthermore, my original comment was from an evolutionary standpoint, it seemed obvious to me when I wrote it because I was comparing human males to other animals. For example a gorilla is larger than a human male but its unit is the size of a pencil. I was not comparing humans to humans. Unfortunately when people respond they tend to jump on one thing and go all over the place with it. That is why some things do not make sense.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:33 | Report abuse |
  6. Wherearerealmen?

    Where are the real men who will stop just caring about themselves and fulfilling their selfish desires and actually treat women with respect and dignity?

    April 28, 2011 at 13:31 | Report abuse | Reply
    • sedna

      where are the real b!ches who don't play mind games with men who are interested in them

      April 28, 2011 at 13:33 | Report abuse |
    • real real

      well if you read close its talking about doing it together, or her taking the lead its not about how you treat a woman

      April 28, 2011 at 13:35 | Report abuse |
    • Wherearerealmen?

      Sedna, I'm a man too, assuming that you are a man, no offense meant in that statement, but grow up and take your responsibilities of being a man.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:38 | Report abuse |
    • David in Corpus

      It is a two way street homie. If my wife died I would never remarry. Modern day women (on average) are too selfish, lazy, fat, poor, and needy. I want a partner in life, not a princess to be lorded over by.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:40 | Report abuse |
    • RezPause

      Staying away from you, apparently

      April 28, 2011 at 13:40 | Report abuse |
    • Wherearerealmen?

      David In Corpus explain a little further what you mean by your statement if you don't mind.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:42 | Report abuse |
    • Wherearerealmen?

      Real real, I know the article is not specifically about that, but I'm fed up with this culture just reducing this issue down to mere biological instinct as the basis for a relationship.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse |
    • normanne

      Yikes! I'll bet you're a bundle of joy in the sack.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse |
    • azanon

      girly men like that are everywhere, unfortunately

      April 28, 2011 at 13:57 | Report abuse |
    • HaHaGuy

      With women who don't see themselves as some type of fairy princess who deserves everything handed to her with no effort on her part.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:03 | Report abuse |
  7. HoustonSteve

    What a half-a$$ed news organization CNN is. Totally amazing. They post an article in which the author ACTUALLY ASKS FOR COMMENTS on the subject she's writing about, p0rn, and they have censorship filters in place that prevent discussion about the topic. Are you f*&cking kidding me? Why do they have censorship filters at all? I think I'm done reading the CNN webpage....forever this time.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:32 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Dave

      She's writing about? I think the writer is a man.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:17 | Report abuse |
  8. Skooter915

    It amazes me how people automatically assume that p0rn is not good for healthy relationships. What is the definition of a healthy relationship? Maybe my wife and I enjoy watching it together maybe we don't, Who are you to tell me that I do not have a healthy relationship simply because we watch P0rn together. It is the 21st Century. I understand that some people are more conservative than others, more power to you, but just because we enjoy differances in our personal lives doesn't make us "cavemen."

    April 28, 2011 at 13:33 | Report abuse | Reply
    • kikii

      Yeah–MAYBE you and your wife have a healthy relationship and maybe she's with someone else right now!! If you have a wife who is totally devoted to you–then DEVOTE yourself TOTALLY to her!

      April 28, 2011 at 15:39 | Report abuse |
  9. Goodness Gracious

    Of course women like it too. Most of us have grown up with the idea that women are not supposed to like s3x as much as men. Because of that women are not supposed to like p0rn. Get over yourselves.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:35 | Report abuse | Reply
  10. ItalyFL

    Heyyy...Im also an italian girl who loves small ones. My boyfriend is filipino and he is thee best I have ever had. He can make me see stars!! Sometimes I even black out. I can't even explain to you how it feels. Its much better than a 9 incher. I think those are just nasty looking. NOT even cute. Anyways...I just wanted to let everyone know they should definitely get with the small guys. You WONT regret it. I love you Tim!

    April 28, 2011 at 13:35 | Report abuse | Reply
    • DaBear

      I've had 2 to 11 inches... and saw stars with the guys I really loved in all sizes. Maybe you're just in looooove girl Lol

      April 28, 2011 at 14:23 | Report abuse |
    • Edthe4th

      (Guessing you're a small guy incognito)

      April 28, 2011 at 14:51 | Report abuse |
    • Chest Rockwell

      more than a mouthful is wasted

      April 28, 2011 at 14:59 | Report abuse |
    • Roller Girl

      A mouthful of which kind?

      April 28, 2011 at 15:37 | Report abuse |
    • Mike

      To: ItalyFL: Sounds like you're trying to justify your lovers shortcomings. Or, 'Tim' is the real author of the comment. If the former, it sounds like you've never been with a well endowed man who knows what he is doing. Now that will rock your world!!

      April 28, 2011 at 15:12 | Report abuse |
    • Candace

      notice how it is a man saying this – you guys need to get over it – stop letting size matter so much to you – it sure doesnt to us!

      April 28, 2011 at 18:43 | Report abuse |
    • Candace

      Oh...btw...this was in response to Mike being concerned about mens shortcomings :/

      April 28, 2011 at 18:45 | Report abuse |
    • jimmynog

      You sound like a couple of Filipino ladyboys to me 😉

      April 28, 2011 at 15:47 | Report abuse |
    • Tim

      Thanks babe!! But let's leave that between us, ok?

      May 9, 2011 at 16:07 | Report abuse |
    • 4horsman

      @ ItalyFL
      I think this is a guy with a small unit, pretending to be a girl.

      June 2, 2011 at 10:47 | Report abuse |
  11. Ricote

    qorn is good

    April 28, 2011 at 13:35 | Report abuse | Reply
  12. David in Corpus

    Try that argument with an american girl. Also try to sell her on the uncut models, see how far that gets you.
    Everyone knows that women don't like receiving oral either. Oh, and the sky is not actually blue, you are just high.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:36 | Report abuse | Reply
  13. nom deplume

    I encourage all who responded here to engage in any activity they like with any species. Just promise none of you will procreate.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:37 | Report abuse | Reply
    • John Stone

      ...or tell us about it......

      April 28, 2011 at 14:34 | Report abuse |
  14. Timothy A Gigliotti

    This is not new.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:38 | Report abuse | Reply
  15. Tomas

    I was going to respond, but the pic at the top of the article got me aroused now. Be back later..... 🙂

    April 28, 2011 at 13:39 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Chef Sun

      Great idea.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:11 | Report abuse |
    • Dave

      LOL. I thought that too. I'm sure that was his intent! To prove the point of the article and of course to get people to click the link. Advertising 101.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:35 | Report abuse |
  16. otmane

    Men just seeing the picture plays with my mind, wonder is this fast for women too lol

    April 28, 2011 at 13:39 | Report abuse | Reply
  17. Guest

    I'm a happily married 27 year old woman and do occasionally enjoy looking at p0rn. It's rare, maybe a few times a year, but when I do I love it. About once or twice a year my husband and I will watch p0rn0graphy together as well. It has absolutely nothing to do with low self-esteem or my husband pressuring me to watch it. We have a healthy s3x life and do not rely on p0rn0graphy as a staple, but every once in a blue moon we decide to switch things up. It's different and fun.

    I also agree that many women use it as a tool to learn new techniques. I had friends in high school and college who watched to see how to do things well. I think that women are very visually stimulated with one catch, a storyline usually has to accompany it. It's the storyline in combination with what you're watching that makes it so exciting. I have a theory about what exactly excites women when watching p0rn0graphy (and this is a generalization I know...many could feel differently). I think it is watching what is happening to the woman in the story, not the man, that produces excitement. Because women are identifying with the woman and what is happening to her. I think women focus less on the man and much more on the woman.

    To each their own.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:40 | Report abuse | Reply
    • geeeno

      where can i find ρоrη with a storyline? website please.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:54 | Report abuse |
    • David Grant

      Sounds like being a lesbian to me. No offense, but I would rather watch a woman's reaction than a man's (Eeww)

      April 28, 2011 at 14:13 | Report abuse |
    • Heidi

      Guest – your theory is exactly right. I'm focusing on what the woman is experiencing and THAT is what gets me off.......

      April 28, 2011 at 14:33 | Report abuse |
    • Glossy

      @David Grant –

      It's not "being a lesbian" It's identifying with what's happening and thinking about the feelings associated with the acts performed. When you watch a scene where a woman is S'ing a guys D, do you think about how good it feels to be S'ed, or how good it feels like to have d.ck in your mouth? That is where the line is. Most women watching p.rn where a woman is being pleasured down there, they are thinking about how good it feels to have that, and that helps with the arousal and achieving O. I'm pretty sure when you watch a p.rn with a man and woman, David, you aren't thinking about what it feels like to S a D or be F'ed in the A. Unless you like that sort of thing, or are bi/gay.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:39 | Report abuse |
    • Guest

      @Heidi, exactly! And @Glossy, I couldn't have said it better myself 🙂

      April 28, 2011 at 14:48 | Report abuse |
    • Cindy Crawford

      Well all I can say is that this didn't work for me!

      April 28, 2011 at 15:12 | Report abuse |
    • Dawn

      I am also going to confirm your theory (and word my response carefully as my last one got censored) When I view movies made for adults, I am far more focused on the female role. It is not out of any $3xual attraction to her, but the excitement of the act itself. I will rarely focus on the male. Interestingly, if I am fantasizing about my own partner, it will typically involve him and other women, even though that is not something I would ever want to take place in real life. When he is the male involved in my mind, my focus will be on him and his pleasure. Women operate differently mentally, however we are indeed excited greatly by visuals. Most of us have just learned to hide our use of visuals and self satisfaction out of fear of being judged. There would be a lot less infidelity on both ends if we could find a way to allow women to feel more comfortable with their $3xuality.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:32 | Report abuse |
  18. CT

    Men, if you're girlfriend won't sit with you during a viewing, get another one.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:41 | Report abuse | Reply
  19. Ricote

    Ok mr censor, you win, this debate obiusly is bull if you can not even say the main words in the article. I am moving to more serious press.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:41 | Report abuse | Reply
  20. geeeno

    It's "Ғџсқing", not F&%KING.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:42 | Report abuse | Reply
  21. Benny

    LMAO

    34/M/Single/NJ
    Blond Hair / Blue Eye / 297lbs / Army Vet

    LF Any woman to watch with me...

    April 28, 2011 at 13:43 | Report abuse | Reply
  22. Keksi

    Women LOVE po rn,especially if it pays well.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:43 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Heidi

      Ha!!

      April 28, 2011 at 14:34 | Report abuse |
    • dude..

      Now that is just desperate man...

      April 28, 2011 at 14:48 | Report abuse |
  23. T

    I give up trying to post!!!

    April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Ricote

      Me too, I have a civic answer, and I just can go to the filter, even using qorn, s3x, etc...

      April 28, 2011 at 13:51 | Report abuse |
  24. jon

    They block those sites at my work 😦

    April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse | Reply
  25. Julia

    great, I wrote a response but it never got posted. How can you respond to the article about p0rn without even using the word??

    April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse | Reply
  26. smokin11

    GOD BLESS WOMEN

    April 28, 2011 at 13:45 | Report abuse | Reply
  27. Lanfear

    Yes, we do.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:45 | Report abuse | Reply
  28. Wow!! OMG!!

    I would like to know how many women like watching videos of themselfs

    April 28, 2011 at 13:46 | Report abuse | Reply
  29. Ricote

    Religion bad, qorn is good.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:48 | Report abuse | Reply
  30. justme

    watching the crap is how the dysfunction gets started, dude.....hello addiction?

    April 28, 2011 at 13:51 | Report abuse | Reply
    • kikii

      Good comment! ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION caused by watching! It's real guys!

      April 28, 2011 at 15:46 | Report abuse |
  31. Alejandro de la Vega

    How about we make sweet love to our wives rather than waste time discussing this impossible issue. Amen?

    April 28, 2011 at 13:54 | Report abuse | Reply
    • kikii

      Alejandro!!! Yes!!! Your wife's a lucky lady!

      April 28, 2011 at 15:46 | Report abuse |
  32. Benny

    Now thats funny...

    April 28, 2011 at 13:55 | Report abuse | Reply
  33. Greg

    I believe you have a typo:

    "As it turns our women may.." maybe should read: "As it turns OUT women may..."

    April 28, 2011 at 13:57 | Report abuse | Reply
  34. MXD

    btw – the girl on the bed in that pic is VERY hot. I'm gonna watch some ...

    SEEE how easy it is??

    April 28, 2011 at 13:58 | Report abuse | Reply
  35. C

    "Women take longer to achieve the Big O. Men want to fall asleep after their "O", while women are just getting start" Not upset, but this is another generalization. Read around, not necessarily true. I think more women are figuring out how they work. Some women, ahem, are quicker. And some men don't want to fall asleep. But I understand that it is typical and understand the mechanisms somewhat.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:04 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Lanfear

      I could achieve O in record time before I started taking anti-depressants (i am a female). You could almost say I had trouble holding it in ha ha. Unfortunately it's much harder when you're on medication. Perhaps I need to wean myself off this brain poison 😦

      April 28, 2011 at 15:12 | Report abuse |
    • Anon

      Good luck on going off the meds. Go off gradually if you can. My wife had the same problem, just the though of intercourse made her sick when she was taking meds. She went off cold turkey because the doctor prescribed them after childbirth without telling her side effects (like no happiness to go along with no sadness). Either way, good luck and be strong.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:28 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Anon– good helpful comment!! P* is not the fix people!! Turn away from it and back to each other! Let's look at the paths of destruction it has left– TIGER WOODS, CHARLIE SHEEN, DAVID DUCHOVNY, CHRISTIE BRINKLEY'S EX HUSBAND(not Billy Joel)–the list goes on and on....and YES-MICHAEL JACKSON!!! They were destroyed by it leaving a path of children and women destroyed as well.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:32 | Report abuse |
    • frank

      lol you're not very good at thinking, are you?

      April 28, 2011 at 17:31 | Report abuse |
    • geoz

      Sounds like a tough scenario. I hope you consult before making the change. Good luck.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:58 | Report abuse |
    • Anon

      Depression meds: There are many reasons why this can be an issue. One of them is dehydration. Try a large glass of water or two and see if you notice a change.

      April 29, 2011 at 00:36 | Report abuse |
    • Jake

      Get off the meds babe!!! They're no good.

      May 9, 2011 at 16:26 | Report abuse |
    • Candace

      I tend to be wide awake for about 20 mins after....then I crash hard...lol....and yes, quicker is better when you are tired after a long day of hard work and then dealing with kids.

      April 28, 2011 at 18:40 | Report abuse |
  36. E-bok

    Everyone needs to read "Se* at Dawn." It'll turn what you think about our past on its head.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:04 | Report abuse | Reply
  37. FTTC

    I'll say one thing – I'm often amazed at the QUALITY of women that appear in p00rn these days. Many of them are VERY hot and some are STUNNING. The only problem with that is, for me, it's not realistic. I don't believe I'd ever be able to get – in real life – a woman that hot, or that she'd be that into me. If it's not believeable it doesn't work for me. What works best for me, what makes p00rn great, is if the woman REALLY, GENUINELY seems to LOVE what she's doing. She doesn't even need to be that "hot". In most of the p00rn vids the woman is pretty much going through the motions. I think that's why amateur p00rn has taken-off so, because it's more realistic.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:05 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Heidi

      Nobody wants to watch fat people having se x.....

      April 28, 2011 at 14:36 | Report abuse |
  38. normanne

    Hilarious!

    April 28, 2011 at 14:07 | Report abuse | Reply
  39. ladyslikeprontoo

    Guilty since I hit puberty. Any girl who says she doesn't like p.orn has never actually watched p.orn. However, it is pretty difficult to find videos that cater to women, e.i. have attractive men at are just as much a focus as the woman, female getting pleased via mouth

    April 28, 2011 at 14:07 | Report abuse | Reply
  40. Bestiality4Life

    Bestiality, Midget, Coprophilia, Ladyboys, Amputees, Gagging, Chocking, Eproctophilia (my favorite), Rimming, @$$ Licking, Golden Showers, Pregnant, etc. etc. etc. are the best forms of p0rh. The more deviant, the more taboo, the harder you come and spray the walls. If it isn't gross and appalling, it isn't interesting.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:09 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Heidi

      Eproctophilia!!! just looked that up.....good one.

      What the heck is "chocking"?! Couldn't find a definition (except for chocking tires for safety). Do you mean CHOKING????

      April 28, 2011 at 14:42 | Report abuse |
    • Mary

      rimming and ass licking is as far as I can concur with you....lol

      April 28, 2011 at 15:33 | Report abuse |
  41. steddie

    honestly i think women do what they think men would like

    April 28, 2011 at 14:15 | Report abuse | Reply
  42. Thinks2010

    If you are frustrated by the CNN censorship program, you can contact CNN at http://www.cnn.com/feedback/ to let them know how you feel. I just left them a detailed message about their overly sensitive censor. If we can get a write-in campaign asking them to review their censorship parameters to make them more realistic and allow for mature discussion of topics, maybe they will make some changes.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:15 | Report abuse | Reply
  43. Glossy

    I never had a problem with it and i am a female. I used to watch. Until it started becoming negative. My SO, he would watch like any other guy. The watching and pictures turned into watching and looking at amateur stuff, real people. Which turned into watching live webcams. Which turned into talking to people. Chats, video chats, adult friend making accounts. hiding things and deleting history, private windows 24/7. It made me sick. I could no longer watch p.rn myself because it just made me think of all of that and being hurt. My stomach turns when I see GGW commercials and adult shows on HBO etc. And to those that are going to say "you probably drove him to it"- i was nothing but good, willing and down for anything he wanted to do. Whenever. I was being turned down, im tired, cold shoulder etc. and when we did i wasnt demanding that I 'got mine' out of it either. I dont mind the videos in moderation, but for some people, it turns into something more than just watching. I wish we could be able to watch together, or go back before all that but we are past that. if you have to hide, delete or clean it out you know its wrong. theres nothing wrong with it, but it can go bad.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:16 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Me2

      My sentiments exactly, and I'm a man! I ended up divorcing her in the end cuz she always had to stay up all night instead of coming to bed

      April 28, 2011 at 14:57 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      So many are now dealing with this, Glossy. I'msorry. Look at the path of destruction–TIGER WOODS, CHARLIE SHEEN, DAVID DUCHOVNY– Christie Brinkley's ex– it's all fun and games till someone puts their eye out!!

      April 28, 2011 at 15:50 | Report abuse |
  44. Joe

    what ??? I always thought that there's a p orn section in the Queran

    April 28, 2011 at 14:19 | Report abuse | Reply
  45. Bethie

    So my last comment didn't post! Way to drop the ball CNN! My husband and I watch p o r n together or by our selves. I'm not a sl ut like one of these people said, I'm just my hubby's sl ut! I love po rn

    April 28, 2011 at 14:19 | Report abuse | Reply
    • kikii

      Your hubby watches it by himself every time you leave the house-- soon he might not be able to get it up for you– and then you'll be watching it alone, too. It's sad really.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:51 | Report abuse |
  46. HRPufnstuf

    So what's my wife saying, the last time we're getting it on? "Blue. I think I'll paint the ceiling blue."

    April 28, 2011 at 14:19 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Me2

      huh?

      April 28, 2011 at 14:58 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      HRPOufnstuf, maybe if you'd stop watching it she'd be more into you. Turn the stuff off- step away from it and go to your wife. Fix it–while she's still some what there.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:52 | Report abuse |
  47. ct

    I'm a woman, love it, all kinds; great way to get in the mood alone or together. @david in corpus love clubbing, lap dances and private rooms

    April 28, 2011 at 14:21 | Report abuse | Reply
    • kikii

      Beware the women who post things like this!! Looking for an ego stroke much??

      April 28, 2011 at 15:53 | Report abuse |
  48. Bob C.

    Romance novels are the #1 genre in literature. And most of the readers are women. That's just p0rh with a story line but without pictures, with some of the descriptions pretty graphic. It's p0rh designed for women.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:21 | Report abuse | Reply
  49. montreal

    AS for the study done in montreal, they chose the wrong city... the is a strip club on every 2nd block... this is why so many amercian college kids from the northeast come here...

    April 28, 2011 at 14:22 | Report abuse | Reply
  50. Benny

    Please! For the love of everything holey! At what point did a discussion on watching movies with your partner turn into a slugfest.

    It's simple. Everyone is different. You don't have to agree or even like it but we are all different. Some of us require more "stimulation" to finish. Some of us require more "stimulation" just to bring some life in an otherwise unfulfilling relationship. Some of us even require more "stimulation" in the form of multiple partners.

    Feel free to judge. Feel free to hate. Some of you might hate because of jealousy or some rediculous moral code.

    The truth is simply that this has been going on since we started walking upright. If you believe it started with Adam and Eve, how could it not have happened then as well? A population of over 7 billion doesn't spawn from 2 people without a little extra stimulation...

    We have drives that make us who we are. I don't know about you, but I ENJOY s e. x. I can't get enough. Does that make me less of a man because I know my desires and act on them?

    Those of you who judge should first look in the mirror and decide WHY you are judging in the first place.

    April 28, 2011 at 14:26 | Report abuse | Reply
    • D

      If you can not get it up in a BRAND NEW relationship, you may have a problem.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:44 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      If you require that much stimulation you probably have erectile dysfunction brought on possibly by watching and handling yourself– sorry trying to get around the censors..

      April 28, 2011 at 15:55 | Report abuse |
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