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Do women like porn as much as men?
April 28th, 2011
08:48 AM ET

Do women like porn as much as men?

Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him at his website, GoodInBed.

If you’d asked me this question a couple of years ago, I would have said “no.” But the times they are a-changing: just as female infidelity is on the rise, women are catching up to the guys in other ways, too - including a propensity for porn.

As a sex therapist and founder of the website Good in Bed, here’s what I’m observing:

- More couples are enjoying porn together, with women often taking the lead in choosing the material.

- More women are using porn to get themselves in the mood for sex or to enjoy their sexuality on their own.

- More women are using porn to learn new sexual techniques or to explore sexually adventurous situations.

- More women are using porn to satisfy a general curiosity about sex overall, and

- More women are comfortable and confident in asserting their opinions on the subject.

In short, women are increasingly using porn for pretty much the same reasons (and pleasures) as men. Meanwhile, guys are increasingly surprised to discover that their female partners are interested in porn - and tend to be even more surprised to discover what they’re watching (I’ll get to that in a moment).

So what’s going on? Why the apparent change? To be honest, I’d always been of the mind that men and women are somewhat different when it comes to porn, for both biological and sociological reasons:

On the biological side, I’ve often said female sexual desire is more complex than male desire, and that porn rather clearly illustrates that difference: In men, visual stimulation leads quickly to sexual arousal, and with that chain of arousal often comes a desire to be stimulated to orgasm. In that sense, arousal and desire are very closely related, and it’s one of the reasons that Viagra has been so successful with men: Give a guy an erection and he basically wants to use it. In men, porn initiates the “sexual-circuit” very quickly.

That’s not to say that women don’t respond to visual stimulation either, or that that stimulation doesn’t lead to genital arousal, but that arousal doesn’t always trigger desire in women the way that it does with men.

When I talk to guys about their porn use, many describe a lack of pre-meditation. For example, a guy could be hanging out on his computer, checking out his favorite sports site, when up pops an ad with a sexy woman in a bikini and, bang, next thing he knows he’s trawling porn sites in search of sexual release.

With women, however, the use of porn or the desire/decision to have an orgasm is often less opportunistic. A woman may see something super-sexy, and recognize it as sexy, and even arousing, but that doesn’t mean she’s necessarily going to stop what she’s doing to stimulate herself to orgasm. (By the way, if you don’t agree with any of this, please chime in below in the comments - sexual desire is by no means a one size fits all model: everyone is different and topic of women and porn is a highly debated one.)

On a more sociological level, generations of women have been told that porn is evil: that it exploits, objectifies, and degrades women, and that a woman who enjoys porn is a betrayer of Women. Some may still feel this is true, (and there are plenty of women who feel uncomfortable with porn), but there are also plenty of women who would beg to disagree and look at porn as a fairly innocuous form of erotic escapism that’s a personal choice and not a big deal.

Additionally, many women have contended that porn, until fairly recently, was never really created with female customers in mind; that porn was designed to appeal to men and lacked elements that were more organic to female sexuality, such as foreplay, intimacy and erotic storylines.

Well, today there are many porn sites geared toward women. In fact, there’s even a regular Feminist Porn Awards that recognizes erotic entertainment that is smart, sexy, and appreciates women as viewers.

Combine a recognition of a female audience with the rapid proliferation of easily accessible Internet porn, and it only makes sense that more women are enjoying porn. (By the way, if you’re a woman and you’re interested in dipping a toe - or perhaps nose-diving - into the world of porn, I suggest checking out the work of Violet Blue and her book, "The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn." Or if porn isn’t your thing, but you’re interested in some hot erotic literature, take a look at the anthologies that are edited by Rachel Kramer Bussell.)

As it turns our women may be able to enjoy porn with less guilt, or at least with less grief from their male partners. In my experience, women tend to worry a lot more about their man’s porn habits and what it means to their relationship, whereas many of the men I’ve spoken with tend to be intrigued by the idea of women and porn - especially since women are much more likely to enjoy porn that does not directly reflect their sexual orientation.

One study at Northwestern University, for example, examined the effects of porn on genital arousal and concluded that men responded more intensely to porn that correlated to their particular sexual orientation, whereas women tended to be genitally aroused by a much broader spectrum of erotic material. Who knows –- perhaps the enormous variety of material offered by the Internet will end up playing more to the spectrum of female desire than male desire in the long run?

For the moment, it would seem that women are not watching porn nearly as much as men. Recently, a researcher from the University of Montreal set out to study whether pornography had an impact on guys’ sex lives. He searched for men in their 20s who'd never consumed porn, and guess what? He couldn't find a single one. I can still show you plenty of women who have never looked at porn - but perhaps not for long.

So do women like porn as much as men? You tell me.


soundoff (487 Responses)
  1. Rob

    No responses huh? Guess the CNN readers don't have strong feelings either way.

    April 28, 2011 at 09:06 | Report abuse | Reply
    • DG

      They're hands are all to busy.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:32 | Report abuse |
    • I like p0rn

      I would comment but CNN won't let me.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:44 | Report abuse |
    • Marv

      I wish my ex liked the stuff. Could have saved the relationship. Although, I do know many girls who do enjoy.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:53 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Go to w w w . yourbrainonp o r n .com

      April 28, 2011 at 18:53 | Report abuse |
  2. Ted

    Yawn...

    April 28, 2011 at 09:14 | Report abuse | Reply
  3. Mijan

    Someone care to explain why it's impossible to post comments on this article? Seriously, are the word filters so sensitive that all the "naughty words" relating to the topic of the article are CENSORED? If you want comments about this topic, check the profanity filters. How can we discuss the topic without... ya know... discussing the topic?

    April 28, 2011 at 09:39 | Report abuse | Reply
    • djs

      Why do you need profanity to discuss the topic? The author wrote the entire article without using profanity, are you unable to say a few reasonable words without it? Try getting an education.

      April 28, 2011 at 11:39 | Report abuse |
    • Good Times

      @djs.....you can't even use the word p0rn. That is not profanity.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:47 | Report abuse |
    • Dant

      @djs maybe you should get an education: the CNN word filter filters things like "s3xuality" and other non-swears.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:48 | Report abuse |
    • Mitch

      @djs – The sad fact is that it does not even have to include profanity. The main word in the article (hint: it rhymes with CORN) is often times blocked in the CNN filters. So simply stating that word will get you censored. Mijan never mentioned profanity at all. They only mentioned you cannot discuss the topic (again that CORN rhyming word) without MENTIONING the topic. No actual "bad words". Just reusing some of the words in the actual article will get you blocked.

      The censorship filters are indeed set too high when you can not quote the original article...

      April 28, 2011 at 13:06 | Report abuse |
    • Brian

      The difference is the author didn't have to deal with filters on the words $ex or 0rgasm.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:09 | Report abuse |
    • Thinks2010

      The CNN censor regularly rejects comments that include words used in the CNN article upon which the poster is commenting. Pretty ridiculous, don't you think?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:11 | Report abuse |
    • citizenUSA

      I totally agree. I had typed what I thought to be a fairly clever response but it never got posted. I didn't use any foul language or stupid analogies, (since others had read it before I posted and gave their critiques). Why should intelligent adults, reading an pretty lame article, about an adult topic but have to mis-spell or cleverly disguise very benign words just so they will get through? CNN, if you're going to have the balls to release an article like this you need to keep them in mind when defining your censorship words.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:13 | Report abuse |
    • Chris

      As I always say....You cant have an adult conversation without adult words.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:26 | Report abuse |
  4. Jill

    I want my man to be turned on by me, not someone else. Knowing he is getting turned on by the other women would kill my self-esteem and take me out of the mood.

    April 28, 2011 at 09:41 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Justin

      I feel sorry for your rman. Close-mindedness kills relationships. Sounds like you have self-esteem issues to begin with.

      April 28, 2011 at 09:53 | Report abuse |
    • CGM

      Newsflash...your man is ALREADY turned on by other females. It's just a biological fact. Your self esteem issues have to do with YOU and not him. Sounds like you are using your man to prop yourself up. How sad.

      April 28, 2011 at 10:33 | Report abuse |
    • Rock

      no matter how hot you are, no matter how freaky you are, no matter if you sw@llow – someone, somewhere is tired of you

      April 28, 2011 at 10:35 | Report abuse |
    • Valerie

      You are not wrong to feel that way Jill not matter what these cavemen say.

      The world we live in today is so wrong, on so many levels, people do not even see it anymore. It is really sad. And it has ZERO to so with self esteem. I just LOVE how men "think" they have women figured out. Such a joke.

      April 28, 2011 at 10:50 | Report abuse |
    • Bsitz

      Jill, no need to feel bad about yourself if your man is attracted to others. We all are....just dont shelter your man and show your lack of self confidence. Its a huge turn off!

      April 28, 2011 at 12:20 | Report abuse |
    • Not really

      cgm: "Newsflash...your man is ALREADY turned on by other females. It's just a biological fact. Your self esteem issues have to do with YOU and not him. Sounds like you are using your man to prop yourself up. How sad."

      It's cute how you ignored what she said and responded to the question you wanted to respond to.

      She was saying that when she 'makes love' with her husband she doesn't want his erection or his se- xual desire to be the product of seeing other nude women. Whether he's "actually" turned on by other women is entirely irrelevant for that reason.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:26 | Report abuse |
    • Brent

      Hey @not really . . . it's called fantasizing, it's as old as time itself. Think of it this way, better done like this than actually with the other woman. Tell me honestly – you never fantasize?

      April 28, 2011 at 12:36 | Report abuse |
    • SpaceCadet

      I like how people find the need to talk about their relationships over an article they know they disagree with. If you disagree with the article, then just say that don't go off poor me story and start pointing fingers at other people because you don't have self-esteem. No matter what, YOU will always be attracted to other men and vice versa with your husband. If you want some self-esteem boosting, don't come looking for it on an article find a support group or something. I hate it when close-minded people come in here saying how this is wrong and such. Time to live in the now so please get with the time.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:39 | Report abuse |
    • Z

      @ Jill... You obviously dont understand what stimulates a man. This is simply a biological fact. You can trace this back to earliest human relatives. The desire to procreate is constant. Visual stimulation is a major driver for males. You shouldn't take this personally. All hetero males are stimulated by nude female images. Be thankful that is all he is looking at online!!

      April 28, 2011 at 12:40 | Report abuse |
    • Radtech01

      I don't think that's unfair. I've never understood relationships where people go on and on about how other people are so hot. I have a pretty decently high self esteem, but I don't want to hear about how some other guy is so hot. If my wife wants to engage in that, please do it when I'm not around. In short, Jill, these guys are probably 1) fat 2) in a miserable relationship or 3) single. It's unfortunate that the male voice coming through on this is so stereotypical and middle schoolish.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:42 | Report abuse |
    • Mr. B

      Then you need stronger self-esteem.

      Guys get turned on by LOTS of women, and vice-versa.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:43 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      ROCK IS RIGHT!!!!!!

      April 28, 2011 at 12:52 | Report abuse |
    • amayda @jill

      I completely agree. P0rn isn't for healthy relationships.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:56 | Report abuse |
    • Anonymous Caller

      Why don;'t you watch it WITH him? Unless, you're too "self-conscious" to, in which case, you seriously need to get yourself checked out...Just sayin'.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:57 | Report abuse |
    • Not really

      brent: "Hey @not really . . . it's called fantasizing, it's as old as time itself. Think of it this way, better done like this than actually with the other woman. Tell me honestly – you never fantasize?"

      And again you ignore the issue.

      What she said was she doesn't want her husband's arousal, his desire to have s- ex with her, to be the product of watching p- orn before or during s- ex. She wants him to be aroused by "her".

      Whether men fantasize otherwise, or are aroused by other women, is entirely irrelevant to what she said.

      That you can't see that, and feel a need to justify your (probably unrequited) se- xual desire says a lot about your intelligence.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:01 | Report abuse |
    • BigMike

      Confucious say: What makes men act like that is biological. The female gettin' in those jeans is diabolical.

      Okay, maybe not Confucius, but definately Salt-n-Pepa. And they were right. If you want your man's attention, be active about it. Go get it. Don't fail to act and whine when nature takes its course.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:01 | Report abuse |
    • justageek

      @Jill

      Men are different creatures. Accept it.

      @Valerie

      "I just LOVE how men "think" they have women figured out. Such a joke." Umm...most men admit we don't understand women. It sounds like you don't understand men at all either. Men are visual but it doesn't mean we can't enjoy the one we choose to stay with. Somehow women seem to think this is so wrong when it is just the way it is.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:02 | Report abuse |
    • jlynnander

      I COULD NOT AGREE MORE !!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:03 | Report abuse |
    • kishore

      I agree with Rock. Like Charlie Sheen said in Two and a Half men, for every gorgeous woman out there, there is some guy tired of banging her.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:06 | Report abuse |
    • Ken

      Jill,

      As a man who watches this material, I can tell you I'm more turned on by the situation than the stars. I prefer scenes where the star resembles my girlfriend, and you can probably guess why. As yet I haven't found many movies my girlfriend is as interested in as I am, but we're working on it. I also prefer scenes where the participants are more realistically enjoying themselves, rather than with the melodramatic yelling and carrying on like stereotypical old-school movies of the genre.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:11 | Report abuse |
    • William

      Men are turned on by other women. That's life. Just like women are turned on by other men. You're driving past a construction site, and there's some bronzed well built man and you just take a second to wonder. Or you get turned on by someone intellectually at a dinner party. It happens. It doesn't mean you don't love the one you're with. It's perfectly natural.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:14 | Report abuse |
    • Steve

      Yeah I ve run up against that argument.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:16 | Report abuse |
    • Anonymous

      Self-esteem comes from what YOU think of YOUR self, not what someone else thinks of you... that's why it's called SELF-esteem.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:16 | Report abuse |
    • morningowl

      sounds like you already have low self esteem...be happy he's watching instead of engaging with someone else.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:26 | Report abuse |
    • I tired

      you serious? Man.. missionary only chick here obviously

      April 28, 2011 at 13:28 | Report abuse |
    • Super Dave

      All of this back and forth about men understanding women and vice versa reminded me of a blog post I wrote several years ago. Basically, a large female friend of mine had read an article and wanted to get a man's perspective on it. Were these assertions by the author true? I provided my answer. Feel free to read:

      http://gmemstr.blogspot.com/2006/11/are-women-that-clueless.html

      April 28, 2011 at 13:34 | Report abuse |
    • I tired

      I watch it, but I've never thought of a pron star when I'm with my wife, guys watch it because sometimes is sucks having to "warm the engine" for forever to get the chick going, the girls in pr0n look like they want to do it, they don't need their engine started, they are just as hot as the guy is, it isn't just the chick. Pr-n makes the guy look like a stud, and that the ch1ck really wants it and wants to get crazy, they don't need to have flowers, and candles and massages, they just need to walk by and brush the dudes pants and they unbutton their blouse, and women wonder why men watch it..

      April 28, 2011 at 13:35 | Report abuse |
    • MM

      He isn't getting turned on by other women, he is getting turned on by seeing the act performed. Don't judge something until you try it. Me and my boyfriend watch p0rn together often. you should try watching it with him.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:38 | Report abuse |
    • ME

      Your expectation that your man only be "turned on by you" makes sense IF, in reciprocity:
      Your man was your first and only, not even a small crush or dating experience before meeting "THE ONE"
      All other men are somehow repellent now, or at least all of their positive characteristics are "invisible"
      You expect to not outlive your man, or spend widowhood in seclusion and misery.

      If this is the case, that's sad. If I were your man, I'd hope you'd at least some chance of happiness with another if you outlived me, and it's kinda hard to hope that if you truly have zero attraction to another. And unfortunately, that would entail admitting that some other man might just "turn you on".

      April 28, 2011 at 13:42 | Report abuse |
    • Jill

      I had no idea this seemingly innocuous remark would spark such a slew of distaste. Let me attempt to clarify. We are bombarded with 'adult' stimuli all of the time (strangers, ads, etc.) so it is completely natural that it would pique our interest every now and then. I take no issue with what initially begins to stimulate his 'adult' interest I would simply prefer it if, during the act, that interest would center around me. I don't see why this is so heretical since I'm the one he's engaging with at the time, not the computer or video or whatever medium. If this was not the case then I would feel like I was merely a tool for his release, what's the point of that? That's no different than him using a flesh light by himself or me using an "aid tool" (thanks filter...) by myself. Maybe it's because we already have a healthy 'adult' relationship that turning to more overt forms of stimuli feel unnecessary and would therefore diminish from the moment for me.

      On a side note I appreciate everyone's concern but I assure you that I have no self-esteem issues and am in a healthy relationship. That comment was simply illustrative, indicating that in the aforementioned scenario it would diminish my self-esteem. It means they would rather sleep with someone else – I don't know how that doesn't diminish someone's self-esteem.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:29 | Report abuse |
  5. tom

    women love interracial

    April 28, 2011 at 09:43 | Report abuse | Reply
    • oooshiny

      True, I do love the interracial. I also love DP. Interracial DP sends me into absolute ecstasy. It's completely hot.

      April 28, 2011 at 11:30 | Report abuse |
  6. Suzume

    I am a female, and honestly I have used such "material" as release aid on the regular since I went through puberty. This article is really no surprise, although I'm glad that more people are better informed...this is as natural for women as it is for men. Despite stereotypes, denial and dishonesty among women that they are visually stimulated (I for one am very visually stimulated) or even that they need to satiate themselves regularly, women like men have strong biological urges that need to be released and we do this much more often than you'd think 😉

    April 28, 2011 at 09:46 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Lore

      preach sister

      April 28, 2011 at 11:30 | Report abuse |
    • Kitty

      Amen Suzume.
      I think that guys are so used to being the dominant gender when it comes to this stuff that they over-analyze why we would or wouldn't use these visual aides. Self esteem? Jealousy? Please. It's as simple as satisying ones... urges. Throw in my husband? Bonus. Solo? Just fine with me!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:04 | Report abuse |
    • DeeJay

      Can you talk to my wife please?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:24 | Report abuse |
    • I tired

      I wish more women were open like this and embraced it

      April 28, 2011 at 13:41 | Report abuse |
    • lili

      Well said and Amen! Ditto >.<

      May 5, 2011 at 15:47 | Report abuse |
    • jack

      THANK YOU. me too and i hate that the media and people in general act like its not possible.

      May 17, 2011 at 21:15 | Report abuse |
  7. phoenix

    the heathen are frisky un natural rascals they need gadgets and pills

    April 28, 2011 at 10:11 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Benny

      Did they let you off your knees again at the church... Sigh...

      April 28, 2011 at 12:54 | Report abuse |
  8. Heann

    HTF did you get a picture of my girlfriend?

    April 28, 2011 at 10:30 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Big G

      I snapped it from our webcam session last night.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:23 | Report abuse |
    • Heann

      Welcome to the world of Hep-B

      April 28, 2011 at 12:26 | Report abuse |
    • good call henan

      haha

      April 28, 2011 at 13:15 | Report abuse |
  9. Rock

    Someone post some pictures of Trinity Loren please – thanks

    April 28, 2011 at 10:32 | Report abuse | Reply
  10. Mei

    Studies show that p..rn addiction is rising and those who indulge end up ruining their relationships, not to mention harm themselves in the long run. P...rn also exploits women and harms many in the profession, if not downright abuses them. I can't imagine any sensible woman supporting the business.

    April 28, 2011 at 10:45 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Michael Wong

      Studies show that when people say "studies show" without giving any more detail, they're just blowing smoke.

      April 28, 2011 at 10:46 | Report abuse |
    • OldGoat

      Where are the statistics for your "studies show?"

      April 28, 2011 at 11:05 | Report abuse |
    • James

      Yes, let's all feel sorry for the "abused" women who choose to work in this profession.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:31 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      and make 10's of thousands of dollars per movie...

      April 28, 2011 at 12:55 | Report abuse |
    • Openminded

      It appears that pretty much every reply missed the point Mei was making. She wasn't referring to the dammage to those "working" in this field. She was referring to the dammage to those "watching" this field. These addictions actually have the potential of destroying the relationships of those addicted. I don't see the point of explaining this deeper. It doesn't appear anyone would get it anyhow. Just try a little personal research, and you might discover a whole new angle to this topic.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:03 | Report abuse |
    • sam

      it only ruins the relationships of the insecure. but then, a sneeze can ruin their relationships if they take it the wrong way.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:21 | Report abuse |
    • 4horsman

      @openminded. Did you actually read what Mei said, she said it also harms those in the profession as well.
      so read carefully before you comment.

      June 2, 2011 at 15:10 | Report abuse |
  11. Valerie

    Dr Sanjay Gupta is smiling down on the woman on the bed.

    LOL!

    April 28, 2011 at 10:46 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Sanjay

      Gupta gotta go find some release. Be right back.

      April 28, 2011 at 10:54 | Report abuse |
    • Brad

      I thought the same thing! Damn that doctor is a nasty!

      April 28, 2011 at 12:41 | Report abuse |
  12. teepee

    they damnedsurewill...

    April 28, 2011 at 11:20 | Report abuse | Reply
  13. KawiMan

    This article has stimulated me. I am now going to look at pictures of my cat.

    April 28, 2011 at 11:22 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Max

      Please post more pics of that!

      April 28, 2011 at 12:32 | Report abuse |
  14. Mister Boogey

    Who wants a mustache ride????

    April 28, 2011 at 11:37 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Sheepish

      Boldy sticks hand in the air!

      April 28, 2011 at 11:46 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      Sheepishly raises his hand in the air... Ohh... Sheep!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:02 | Report abuse |
  15. Terry Brookman

    The answer is yes so long as they are the star.

    April 28, 2011 at 11:43 | Report abuse | Reply
  16. Princesamuel

    Why are some comments not posted even though there isn't any profanity in it?

    April 28, 2011 at 12:08 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Rbnlegend101

      The CNN filters will block words you wouldn't think are bad. That includes many words you see in the article.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:21 | Report abuse |
  17. Jessica

    watch out the p.o.r.n site get the truth.
    http://www.shelleylubben.com/

    April 28, 2011 at 12:22 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Just a boy

      yep, You better watch p0rn often because most of you would be dead in the next 40 years or sooner. or you won't be able to arouse in the next 20 years or sooner.

      April 28, 2011 at 12:28 | Report abuse |
    • keith

      Great link

      April 28, 2011 at 12:33 | Report abuse |
    • Stacie

      Jessica – a great link...Shelley is doing great work...and as someone who has been there and done that...she KNOWS the truth. The truth is only difficult to acknowledge when we don't want to give up what we are doing...hmmm.....

      April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Jessica, that's a great site. Also look into the work that Ron Jeremy is now doing. He's a former p actor helping actors/actresses get out of the life as well.

      April 28, 2011 at 17:23 | Report abuse |
  18. Mike

    Why are there no complaints about how this is Obama's fault?

    April 28, 2011 at 12:23 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Really?

      You are going to blame something totally irrelevant on President Obama? What the he.ll does the President have to do with P.orn? As for you deliverance, you are a closed minded republican that is probably all ticked off that the White House produced Obama's Birth Certificate. Now I am going to go out on a limb here and say that you think Clinton was a horrible president because he had an affair? When was the last time the country had a surplus? When was the longest period of peace the United States had in the last 40 years? Think before you speak Glenn Beck.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:18 | Report abuse |
    • Paul

      Gas prices went down substantially after Bush left.... the only reason they are back up is because of a revolution in the mid-east. You're an idiot, deliverance.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:38 | Report abuse |
  19. MsDonna

    Better to watch it and take care of myself then have to deal with another person I have to take care of. I am solo and lovin the stuff!

    April 28, 2011 at 12:27 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Radtech01

      This means that A) You're fat B) Psycho or C) "Career Oriented."

      April 28, 2011 at 12:44 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      You forgot D) lazy E) Selfcentered F) Selfish G)All of the Above

      Come on... Are you really saying that it's too much work to satisfy your partner?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:26 | Report abuse |
    • I tired

      chicks have it easy.. look.. I'm opening my legs... I mean seriously..

      April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse |
  20. lila

    Of course they do, the only difference today is that it's more socially acceptable to admit it publicly.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:30 | Report abuse | Reply
  21. Bsitz

    Any videos made with the chick in the photo 🙂

    April 28, 2011 at 12:33 | Report abuse | Reply
    • kishore

      I am on it.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:10 | Report abuse |
  22. Breeish

    O_O

    April 28, 2011 at 12:35 | Report abuse | Reply
  23. keith

    Just shows that our world is getting consistently more perverted...What happened to true love when you found your soulmate, and attraction to them was enough? We've given up the beautiful and good, for the dirty and cheap imitation.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:35 | Report abuse | Reply
    • txchick

      boring

      April 28, 2011 at 12:44 | Report abuse |
    • Anon

      Really, are you gay? That never existed, it was only hidden. People that say today's world is more perverted, violent, etc have obviously not read a real history book.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:02 | Report abuse |
    • keith

      No i am not gay but way to make a prejudice slur...nice. And yes it does exist. My wife and I are madly in love and turned on...by each other, we actually don't need to look at someone else to get aroused. I am proud that she will be my first, my last, my only love forever. So yes I am that guy. And the perv, who sits around by himself convincing himself that he is normal...your that guy.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:19 | Report abuse |
    • ME

      Factor in the fact that people live longer, and also interact with more people than before, there's many more natural challenges to any relationship. And of course, people now realize they don't have to put up with stuff like spousal abuse and other severe negative characteristics "Till Death Do Us Part." Dirty videos aren't destroying relationships alone in most cases; it's a myriad of factors.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:33 | Report abuse |
    • Rbnlegend101

      If you truely had the confidence you are trying to project, you wouldn't need to be putting down people with other perspectives. I've known a few people who really are only interested in one person, but they are few and far between. More often, people's commitment to their partner is stronger than their interest in other people. Maybe for actually doing anything, maybe just for admitting that an attractive and desireable person is attractive and desireable. I've also known more people who claim to only be interested in their mate, right up until the explosive ugly seperation, when all the ugly secrets come out.

      And, I know people who can be honest with their mate about their feelings and desires, and discuss those feelings, and even act on them in an honest way. If the idea of your partner looking at another person and finding them attractive and desirable would be such a traumatic experience, well, wow, that seems like a pretty fragile state of mind to me.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:33 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Keith, if you weren't already married, I'd ask you to marry me!!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:43 | Report abuse |
    • March

      Keith are you married? I've been told I'm close to a 10 in looks but I am looking for a guy like you...with morals and values...etc... Why aren't there more of you out there?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:47 | Report abuse |
    • keith

      I would encourage people that a true, and beautiful relationship is out there for anyone...Don't give into the cultural lies, Don't settle for someone who does, True love is out there – and it is a million times greater, more meaningful, and more fulfilling than the garbage promoted in this article.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:16 | Report abuse |
    • keith

      And yes Lofreakinl, I follow the ways of Christ, the one who brought true love to the whole world.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:24 | Report abuse |
    • Tbard

      Noting your persepective... What prompted you to read this article?

      April 28, 2011 at 14:28 | Report abuse |
    • keith

      @Tbard For knowledge, understanding of culture, what good is learning if we only read things that we think we would agree with?

      April 28, 2011 at 14:44 | Report abuse |
    • Anon

      Keith is living a lie. I once knew a faithfull god fearing individual deeply involved with the church and his wife, and then he tried to seduce my wife. The one thing about people that I have learned is that the more perfect a person appears, the more they are repressing inside. To say that there are no other attractive women than your wife is a lie, there always is and to deny that feeling is a lie. I love my wife and I will never sleep with another woman but I will admit that there are many more women that I have a primal attraction to compared to my wife. This is where humans differ from animals, the ability to make rational decisions but the primal attraction is still there. Keith wants everyone he is some perfect prince riding to the rescue of all you princesses on his white horse. The only problem is, he is repressing himself and will end up cheating on his wife eventually due to lifetime of denial.

      April 28, 2011 at 14:54 | Report abuse |
    • Anon

      Oh by the way, nice for making fun of my "gay" comment but no second guessing calling me a "perv". Nice classy way to defend yourself. I thought truely religious people like yourself were suppose to forgive others.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:17 | Report abuse |
    • keith

      @Anon what a sad depressing view of the world you have! I choose to believe that true, pure and real lasting love is out there. So maybe some guy who claimed to love God seduced your wife, and maybe you can't be satisfied by your wife alone. i am sorry those things are terrible, but for all the distortion in the world there is still good, and there is still the beautiful. There are tons of couples who have grown old together, have always needed only each other, and are still faithful and still deeply in love. If you want some kind of distorted version of that, bummer.

      April 28, 2011 at 15:54 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Excellent comments, Keith! I'm not "religious"– more scientific actually. I could not agree with you more. Seks with my husband rocks my world! I'm sorry, Anon, that some "religious" type tried to seduce your wife. Christian or not ( or whatever religion) - people are people. We all screw up sometimes. Some women, who know their men look at it, are simply put– heartbroken. Anti-p thinking really is progressive thinking... my mind is such a powerful thing.

      April 28, 2011 at 17:06 | Report abuse |
  24. JanetG

    My husband and I began enjoying porm when he learned that I was bi-curious. For many years we enjoyed fantasizing about a foursome with another couple with a straight husband and a bi wife. Once our youngest moved out of the house we pursued our fantasy and have now been in a stable foursome with a great couple for over three years. In fact, we have even published an erotic e-novel, A Lusting Couple, about our experience. It's not for everybody, but for the four of us, we couldn't be more fulfilled.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:39 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Jack

      The drunk says the same thing, which is "alcoholism isn't for everyone, but 2 six-packs every night sure make my miserable life seem less painful.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:13 | Report abuse |
    • Female_Lover

      I hope your kids are proud!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:17 | Report abuse |
    • I tired

      you go girl

      April 28, 2011 at 13:45 | Report abuse |
    • :O

      :O
      I hope to be so lucky someday...

      April 28, 2011 at 13:51 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Yet another post from JanetG plugging her book! How much does it cost, Janet?? How much money are you taking off people??

      April 28, 2011 at 17:09 | Report abuse |
  25. armygrl

    Wow, that's an overgeneralization if ever I've heard one...

    April 28, 2011 at 12:42 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Benny

      lol... nope.. Army chicks have lines outside their doors with a carnival barker and tickets sold... Gettin plenty.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:36 | Report abuse |
    • David in Corpus

      Navy girls get more, trust me on that, especially oversees. They practically run the boomer bases they are on.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:42 | Report abuse |
  26. Joe in Colorado

    I'm kinda weird when it comes to pr0n. It's not what I see on the screen that turns me on so much, but what's going through the girl's mind while it's happening that really turns me on.

    I've seen some crazy stuff, and it's always what the girl is thinking that gets me. With a dog? Two guys?

    April 28, 2011 at 12:42 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Female_Lover

      hey, Joe the plumber, go stick it in a drain pipe.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:20 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Most of those girls, Joe, are saying please let this end!! Guys these days are confusing the look of pain with the look of pleasure! Roughly 90% of those actresses want out!!

      April 28, 2011 at 17:10 | Report abuse |
  27. Brad

    This article is inappropriate, they must be desperate for content on CNN. I'm losing more respect for CNN by the day.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:44 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Good Times

      Inappropriate to what standards?

      April 28, 2011 at 12:49 | Report abuse |
    • Ben Dover

      Inappropriate? How? If you are so easily offended by the topic, why did you even click on the headline to read/comment?

      April 28, 2011 at 12:56 | Report abuse |
    • JackSparrow

      Haha, brad you're such a little girl. Are you a mormon by chance?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:10 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Brad, you make a good point. CNN is owned by Time Warner– one of the biggest p distributors around!

      April 28, 2011 at 17:11 | Report abuse |
  28. Aaron

    why aren't men allowed to have more then one wife again? like in the old ages

    April 28, 2011 at 12:49 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Benny

      Because the Courts haven't figured out how a guy can pay their whole paycheck for Alimony to multiple wives yet...

      April 28, 2011 at 13:28 | Report abuse |
  29. Woman

    Why do men automatically accuse a woman of having poor self esteem if she doesn't want her man engaging in this behavior? I believe it's the women with strong self esteem who don't feel intimidated to speak up and say it's not ok. The women with poor self esteem are the ones who have been brainwashed to believe they have to be ok with whatever their man wants to do or they will lose him.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:50 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Rbnlegend101

      Why does it look like poor self esteem? Read the comments here. They talk about how crushed they would be if their man looks at another woman like that, how they couldn't live with the idea that his arousal comes from anyone other than them, how they have to be the prettiest, the most important, etc. They can't stand the idea that another woman might be more attractive. That's not strength. Hey, I know, Brad Pitt is more attractive than me. Any competetive gymnast, swimmer, basketball player, has a better body than I do. I'm not scary looking or anything, but I know that there are more attractive men than me, and I'm fine with that. I know that if I put Thomas Crowne in the DVD player, my wife will be extra attentive that evening, and it's not because I made popcorn.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:39 | Report abuse |
  30. Stephanie

    Every woman looks at it at least a couple times a week. If she says she doesn't, she is lying. This has always been the case for the last 10-15 years or so. I don't know why men think we don't. I will say, sure for straight women there isn't as much marketed towards us, but every woman still looks at it often. Every single woman at least. When I had a boyfriend I looked at it a lot less, but I still looked at it a couple times a week.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:51 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Benny

      Any chance you would like company over the next time you throw in a dvd or go to redtube?

      April 28, 2011 at 12:58 | Report abuse |
    • Sara

      I'm a woman who doesn't look at it a couple times a week. But then again, I prefer to make my own...

      April 28, 2011 at 13:13 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      lol @ Sara – Any chance you would like company over the next time you make your own?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:20 | Report abuse |
    • keith

      Keep convincing yourself that you and your friends are "normal" and not distorted...I'm sure that crackhead and his friends tell each other the same thing.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:25 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      Keith!!!! Stop C0ckblockin!!! I'm working here!!!!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:32 | Report abuse |
    • metoo

      Hey benny let me in on some of this!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:54 | Report abuse |
    • MsDonna

      Stephanie, I completely agree. There are just very few women who will actually admit to looking at it, let alone enjoying themselves while they watch it. And yeah now that I'm single I find it to be almost a daily routine; and to be honest, it's becoming one of the best relationships I have ever had!

      April 28, 2011 at 15:33 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      I don't look at it, Stephanie– and I'm not lying.

      April 28, 2011 at 17:12 | Report abuse |
  31. Hugh Jorgan

    The girl in the picture is HOT. :)))

    April 28, 2011 at 12:53 | Report abuse | Reply
  32. marie

    Guilty -_- i like it.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:54 | Report abuse | Reply
  33. marie

    Hello!!!!!!!!!!

    April 28, 2011 at 12:55 | Report abuse | Reply
  34. Good Times

    Having use to own a video store, p0rn was always my biggest money maker. Yes, it was mostly men, but I had a clientele of married couples that would induldge on the weekends. We would refer to the movies as "adult education" in an effort to create a level of comfort. This would make the women much more comfortable.

    I don't think there's anyting wrong with p0rn as long as it's used to assist with a healthy s3xual relationship with ones partner. But if you're choosing it over the real thing, most likely, you have a serious malfunction.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:55 | Report abuse | Reply
  35. Burbank

    Women don't enjoy it as much as men because we don't need it. We can get the real thing on demand by going into any bar and snapping our fingers!

    April 28, 2011 at 12:56 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Benny

      (ALERT) huh?!? Did I hear a woman snap her fingers? Yes?

      April 28, 2011 at 12:59 | Report abuse |
    • Good Times

      I bet you really get some quality men out of those bars too. Keep those standars low, you'll rarely be disappointed. 🙂

      April 28, 2011 at 13:05 | Report abuse |
    • jja

      Yeah – some ditzy bar-fly in spandex and 10 punds of eye shadow REALLY revs me up....cue sarcasm....

      April 28, 2011 at 13:14 | Report abuse |
  36. Female

    Mr. Kerner – Yes. I am a female and respond very strongly to visual stimulation. I disagree with your assessment that women do not need a "release" once aroused. Once aroused, I find it very difficult and next to impossible not to "release" either by myself or with someone else. I think confusion remains regarding exactly what causes arousal in women and identifying exactly when a woman is aroused. However, I strongly believe based upon my own personal experience that once aroused, a woman cannot go w/o a release the same as a man.

    April 28, 2011 at 12:56 | Report abuse | Reply
    • DaBear

      Yah, I agree. Once I hit a certain point of arousal it's really hard not to get release. Sometimes if I don't get release after arousal I will get physical pain. Yes, women get "blue b@lls" too. I'm not a super typical emotional woman, though, either. If I don't have a boyfriend I don't have to be emotionally tied to someone to sleep with them. But if I do have a boyfriend that I truly love I can't imagine myself with anyone else. So yes, we are not all alike, for sure!

      April 28, 2011 at 14:28 | Report abuse |
  37. Jr

    men also got very stimulated by the image of a nude female horse

    April 28, 2011 at 13:00 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Anon

      Honestly, have you ever been around a group of females after seeing a male horse and his "member". They may say its not a turn on but how do you explain the instant non-stop talk about the "member" and staring that follows.
      It just goes to show, females have similar tendencies as men but it gets heightened when the number of women is increased. I have been dragged to a Justin Timberlake concert before and I was amazed at the amount of women that were hitting on me when I was obviously there with my current wife. Oh yeah, what about the toy parties that women have. They wont buy that stuff alone, but put them into a group and they start buying all kinds of crazy stuff.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:11 | Report abuse |
    • wow

      Dude has a point, we need to get the women to group together

      April 28, 2011 at 13:50 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Anon, I buy toys...all by myself... my husband loves it when I do. I don't go on and on about horse's members... the crowd mentality is truly a stupid one.

      April 28, 2011 at 17:15 | Report abuse |
  38. MsDonna

    Radtech01, no it just means most men don't know how to satisfy a girl now days, they are a waste of space, energy, and time and it's much more pleasurable to watch myself do it in front of the mirror.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:00 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Shaking Head

      DAMN!!! That's kinda hot!!! 🙂

      April 28, 2011 at 13:14 | Report abuse |
    • kikii

      Ahhh, MsDonna, enforces the point! Think about it– doesn't it make sense that the more you use your hand, the more your member becomes accustomed to that kind of pressure/sensation leaving a guy eventually dependent on that kind of pressure/sensation. My parts don't give the same sensation.....if you're already compulsively doing it and doing it to p, I'd be willing to bet you'd have a tough time without it. I'm a nurse-– I've heard the complaints... and no, they aren't just complaints to get the blue pill...by the way, it's quite expensive!

      April 28, 2011 at 17:19 | Report abuse |
  39. logikbuys

    My wife and I have movies that we have selected together. We rarely watch them b/c usually love making is more of a spontaneous (sp?) thing; but if we go to bed and that DVD is on, you know whats up!

    April 28, 2011 at 13:01 | Report abuse | Reply
  40. Sy2502

    The reason for the stereotypes about female s3xuality is that from the beginning of time, it's been considered dirty and disgusting, and it's been drilled into people's heads that nice, self respecting women don't enjoy s3x. Guess what? Of course they do! And now that the times are finally changing, women are finally starting to be comfortable with themselves.
    Of course, it is true that 99.9% of p0rn targets the male audience, and much of it generally shows women being humiliated and demeaned, so no wonder women don't find THAT kind of p0rn a turn on.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:04 | Report abuse | Reply
  41. MSfrom CA

    They need to work on their filters – and why are they so silent? Your stuff just goes into the ether and never shows up. Can't they tell you – "You have flagged words in your post" or whatever and let you fix them. Not very usable. On this article, I wish they had talked more about exactly what kind of stuff women like – I have never met one who was much interested in the stuff.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:08 | Report abuse | Reply
  42. Boka

    Have women become the new perverts?

    April 28, 2011 at 13:08 | Report abuse | Reply
  43. Wendy Lou

    This guy is living in a dream world.......

    April 28, 2011 at 13:10 | Report abuse | Reply
  44. Shaking Head

    You prudes crack me up. If it wasn't for s3x, you wouldn't even be here. Relax, enjoy life. Do what nature inetneded for you to do. Remember, the real you is how you act when you're alone. Peace. 🙂

    April 28, 2011 at 13:10 | Report abuse | Reply
    • MsDonna

      I couldn't have said it better!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:19 | Report abuse |
    • Just Dreaming

      I wish that we could go back into the day of the neanderthal where you can jump on any female in sight

      April 28, 2011 at 13:33 | Report abuse |
    • Just Wondering

      do you think nature intended for men to cross breed with horses ?

      April 28, 2011 at 13:45 | Report abuse |
    • Benny

      DUH! Of course! They are called Centaurs! Dumbie!

      April 28, 2011 at 14:09 | Report abuse |
  45. ecnav

    CNN has turned to tabloid trash. I'm out. Good bye CNN. Losers.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:10 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Shaking Head

      Let me guess.....you never touch yourself down there. Sheesh!!!

      April 28, 2011 at 13:19 | Report abuse |
    • Elizabeth

      Actually, prude, YOU are the "loser"

      April 28, 2011 at 13:43 | Report abuse |
  46. MtMomma

    Honestly p%rn is so boring and fake, I wonder if it would be better if made by women for women? Show the women having a real O for once, none of that fake yelling and screaming. *yawn* I prefer the real thing at least two-three times a day if possible. If not then I can take care of myself with a fantasy in my head that is WAY better than anything I could find online.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:17 | Report abuse | Reply
    • Rbnlegend101

      You haven't been looking. There is plenty made by women for women. And there is plenty that looks real because it is real. The lower the budget, the less fake it is. You are talking about the state of the industry 20 years ago. Now that we have the internet, anyone can make that stuff. Some of it is fake, much of it is semi-fake, and some of it is more or less real. The trick is telling a story and being real don't go together well.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:45 | Report abuse |
    • DaBear

      youpo rn.com

      April 28, 2011 at 14:25 | Report abuse |
  47. gerri

    What a pathetic statement on everything when it surprised men that women like to have it off as well. Jpw self centered. The only thing different baout this "news" is women are finally being more open about how open they really want to be (no pun intended as apparently only puritanical terminologies can be used when discussing the birds and bees on CNN which stands for: Censor Naughty Nothings

    April 28, 2011 at 13:18 | Report abuse | Reply
  48. DYLANSDADDY

    My wife and I watch po rn together. She will also watch it by herself to get off. However, the thing she likes the most is reading er otic stories online.

    April 28, 2011 at 13:19 | Report abuse | Reply
    • David in Corpus

      Get her a Bertrice Small book (any in her vast collection). My wife is quite fond of them, her fav in fact and yes, my wife is a racy girl too. Does your wife get all the lap dances when y'all go strip clubbing? Mine does, even the ones she buys for me they end up giving to her. She appreciates them more anyway.

      April 28, 2011 at 13:44 | Report abuse |
    • DYLANSDADDY

      I have never got her to want to go to a strip club, but we are starting to dabble into swinging, (just soft)

      April 28, 2011 at 14:06 | Report abuse |
  49. ME

    ...

    April 28, 2011 at 13:21 | Report abuse | Reply
  50. Anna

    I tried to comment..didnt work..this is a test

    April 28, 2011 at 13:24 | Report abuse | Reply
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