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E-motional affairs: How Facebook leads to infidelity
March 3rd, 2011
08:17 AM ET

E-motional affairs: How Facebook leads to infidelity

Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him at his website, GoodInBed.

While the movie "The Social Network" may be Oscar history, Facebook is creating real-life dramas that lead to anything but Hollywood happy endings. In the last couple of years, I’ve seen scores of relationships destroyed by what I call "Facebook bombs" - blasts from the past that leave a relationship shattered to pieces.

If you or your mate are spending too much time strolling down a digital Memory Lane, an emotional affair could be in the works. Here's how to Facebook-proof your relationship:

Don’t romanticize the past at the expense of the present.

I’m hearing this real-life story more often: A tale of high school sweethearts trying to go “back to the future,” only to realize they should have been content to leave those memories in that old shoebox in storage.

How to reconnect and not be awkward or creepy

In the end, we’re only human. We all romanticize the past, men and women alike. And no memories are more potent than those first youthful fumblings. We tend to remember the good parts and forget the bad.

Until the advent of Facebook, though, most of us were compelled to leave the past in the past and move on. But now exes of all stripes - high school sweethearts, college lovers, former hookups - are popping up on Facebook. When two people strike up an online friendship, it’s easy to idealize each other and blur the line between fantasy and reality. An intense sense of intimacy is quickly fostered, particularly if intimacy was once shared in the past.

But when one partner starts sharing himself or herself with another person, it chips away at the foundation of their core relationship - and starts building a foundation for a new relationship.

Don't keep secrets.

Here’s where friendship and attraction cross the line into emotional cheating. Each person stops sharing certain aspects of the friendship with his or her partner, and starts confiding more in the “friend” and less in his or her partner.

In the past few years, I’ve heard from at least three exes who wanted to be my Facebook friend or found my website and e-mailed me out of the blue. And while it's tempting to accept these friend requests, or to fire back a quick “of course I remember you” e-mail, I haven’t done so. That was then; this is now.

And in those rare instances where I have accepted an ex as a Facebook friend, or written back, I’ve informed my wife and let her read every correspondence. Not because she doesn’t trust me, but because we have nothing to hide. Once you have something to hide, that’s where the trouble begins.

 So if an old flame is on your case, just say, “I’m in a relationship now. I wish you all the best.”

With Facebook friends like these, who needs enemies?

The instant gratification of Facebook and other social networks stimulates reward centers in the brain - and it's easy to find oneself craving the quick hit of a connection or lamenting its absence. Even without the senses driving attraction, the mind goes into overdrive and imagines that this is the perfect person and the perfect relationship.

Soon, a person may feel like an online friend “knows” him or her better than a partner does. People may feel freer to explore other parts of themselves, while real life (and a real relationship) feels stifling. This artificial sense of intimacy can begin to consume a person’s thoughts, which becomes all the more exciting because it’s a secret. Most people don’t set out to have “e-motional” affairs, and that’s one of the dangers of social networks like Facebook.

It often just happens, usually as a friendly relationship snowballs into something more meaningful. A common myth is that only people in unhappy relationships have emotional affairs. In fact, many men and women who commit emotional infidelity report that they were happy when they became involved with their affair partners. Rather than seeking out love (or sex), unfaithful partners gradually blur the boundaries between friendship and intimacy over an extended period of time.

Facebook friends: More powerful than Internet porn
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As a sex therapist, I tend to hear a lot about people’s sexual habits, both when they’re with their partner and when they’re on their own. Now, it's no secret that when men self-pleasure they often choose Internet pornography over their own erotic imagination. Think of it as the lazy man's way; the difference between reading and watching TV.

However, men who are Facebooking with their exes and falling in love all over again often skip the computer and go back to those potent formative memories to get themselves off. That’s how strong the past is - even stronger than Internet porn!

An online affair is fueled by feelings of attraction between two people. You start to idealize the other person and fantasize about what sex would be like. This only adds fuel to the fire. Just like primary relationships, affairs that start out slowly and build a connection before progressing to sex are often the most difficult to break off - and the most damaging to the other relationship.

There's no shame in disconnecting your Facebook account.

Whether you’re a man or a woman, if you find you’re thinking more and more about the past, and getting to the point where you’re fantasizing about what it would be like to be with that person again, it’s time to unplug your computer, and get back to “face-timing” with your partner instead of Facebooking with the past. There's no shame in removing the one variable causing all the problems.

Look, in the end we’re all living, breathing sexual beings. Attraction doesn’t end once we’re in a relationship. Even the most happily coupled people are going to feel the familiar buzz of attraction when someone catches their eye or laughs at one of their jokes.

However, while feeling attraction is unavoidable, acting on it crosses the line. Attraction is one ingredient of an emotional affair. In order for attraction to launch into an emotional affair, a person has to also develop intimacy and, eventually, a feeling of connection with that person that supersedes their current relationship. In other words, attraction + effort + intimacy = emotional infidelity. Take away one, and all you’re left with is a natural instinct or a harmless Facebook friendship. Put all three together, and with friends like that... your relationship has a new enemy.


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    May be someone out there knows what i am talking about and know how its like to be invisible mostly by the one person you are in love with. I was in love an unhappy married man.His marriage was going to limbo and i was the only one there for him. He only saw me as a friend but he was more than that to me. I wish i had the heart to tell him before the went ahead and got married then, may be he would never had be unhappy and may be we both would have been together. Yeah it turned out i was too much or a chicken. Though we are together now literally because of the spell Metodo Acamu a very powerful spell caster i must say helped me cast to make him love me just as i loved him. A lot of people may have different opinion as to if what is did is wrong or right but really, it do not matter because he was in pain and his life was falling to pieces and i was his friend who was in love with him. I knew he was going to be happy with me and he is now. For the first time in three years i have he really happy i mean he tells me every time how free he feels . We are perfect together and i know we are always going to be like this. This would not be the case if not for the spell Metodo Acamu helped me cast. All that was required of me were just the materials that was going to be used to prepare the spell and note Metodo Acamu does not do spells for money i wish i knew why but i do not. He told me that i should get the materials needed for the spell preparing he told me to get them myself and if i can't find the materials all i had to do was send the total cost for it so he can help me. It wasn't easy to get them but i found them but it took a lot form me i would advice against getting them yourself because there are not only hard to but also difficult to mail believe me. I am only writing this short article for those out there with problems similar to the one i had. If you want to contact him use this email its what i used metodoacamufortressx@(yahoo). com rewrite this email in the usual email standard form for use.

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  16. Carolyn .L. Martinez

    May be someone out there knows what i am talking about and know how its like to be invisible mostly by the one person you are in love with. I was in love an unhappy married man.His marriage was going to limbo and i was the only one there for him. He only saw me as a friend but he was more than that to me. I wish i had the heart to tell him before the went ahead and got married then, may be he would never had be unhappy and may be we both would have been together. Yeah it turned out i was too much or a chicken. Though we are together now literally because of the spell Metodo Acamu a very powerful spell caster i must say helped me cast to make him love me just as i loved him. A lot of people may have different opinion as to if what is did is wrong or right but really, it do not matter because he was in pain and his life was falling to pieces and i was his friend who was in love with him. I knew he was going to be happy with me and he is now. For the first time in three years i have he really happy i mean he tells me every time how free he feels . We are perfect together and i know we are always going to be like this. This would not be the case if not for the spell Metodo Acamu helped me cast. All that was required of me were just the materials that was going to be used to prepare the spell and note Metodo Acamu does not do spells for money i wish i knew why but i do not. He told me that i should get the materials needed for the spell preparing he told me to get them myself and if i can't find the materials all i had to do was send the total cost for it so he can help me. It wasn't easy to get them but i found them but it took a lot form me i would advice against getting them yourself because there are not only hard to but also difficult to mail believe me. I am only writing this short article for those out there with problems similar to the one i had. If you want to contact him use this email its what i used metodoacamufortressx@(yahoo). com rewrite this email in the usual email standard form for use!!!!!

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  17. humeswift

    Here's a blog I came across. I think it sums up the ladies in the scenario well:

    Facebook Cowbirds
    Posted on June 26, 2015 by humeswift

    The cowbird is a bird that lays its eggs in nests of other species. It steals other birds’ nest space, then flies away, unconcerned. The cowbird, not being human, has no concepts of honor or compassion but acts on desire alone. Many couples experience times of unhappiness. In many cases, the couples resolve their problems and become closer and happier as a result. But Facebook has changed this on a scale far greater than the old type of affair. A man, feeling disconnected from his wife, will begin to look up old girlfriends on Facebook to help him feel good. These women, if they are unattached, unhappy in their own relationships, or just enjoying the spark of romance, respond fully to these men, whether sexually, emotionally, or both. An honorable woman would ask the man, no matter what their previous relationship was, if he and his wife had tried counseling, or had talked deeply. An honorable woman would tell the man that he must end his current relationship before he could be with her. An honorable woman would value commitment, and adultery would not be a thing lightly done. But for these women, no real thought is given to the wives who are being dishonored or perhaps badly hurt. No thought is given to children who may be harmed. No thought is given to a marriage, that, if left alone, might have healed fine. If thought is given it is superficial, or excused: We were meant for each other! The cowbird acts, by instinct, on desire alone. Facebook Cowbirds, the same.
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    July 2, 2015 at 14:07 | Report abuse | Reply
  18. Derek Rivers

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    July 4, 2015 at 14:30 | Report abuse | Reply
  19. Andrew Verron

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But on one faithful day i caught them red handed at that moment my heart stopped for a while as i bust into tears, because i really love her so much that i can do anything for her. I have never seen in her eyes so much hate before, to the extent that she will have to cheat on me. I fell to the ground crying my heart out it was so painful. she was no longer living with me and our kids. I still remember her words " keep the house and your sick kids ".I wanted to drop dead but my lovely kids gave me strength to fight for what was my own. She was asking for a divorce but i wanted my wife back, Because i so much loved her. So i had to delay the process to buy time for myself so as to figure out a way to get her back. On a good day "god bless the internet "i stumbled on an ad of how a boy got his girlfriend back after she broke up with him because of some-boy with the help of a witch doctor or a spell caster. 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He sent me a hand written enchanting words and asked me to recite them morning and night for seven days " as he said seven is the perfect number "I did just that but at first nothing happened out of frustration i sent all kind of insult to him even calling a low life scam. He said he could destroy the entire thing he did but he wouldn't do so as i can see how wrong i was by insulting his personality. He said those enchanting words he gave me will make my wife see the demon in his new lover and its going to make her hurt badly. All what the spell-caster had said begin to manifest. He literally confessed that he hated her all of a sudden. All what this great spell caster called Dr Kuq Ya that uses only this email address which is : great.spellcaster@ (yahoo). com, said came to pass. As i contact him on his gmail account before and he said that email is bad that he only use the above email. After my wife has seen the trouble with his so called lover, He has to come back to me and be bagging me for re-union that she is so sorry for all she has done to our family. Without thinking twice i have to forgive her and accept her plead, Because i lover her so much. My wife and i have never had this kind of happiness before till now that this great spell caster came here to help us. My Wife now is as faithful to me and as a saint. so if you have a similar problem just contact great.spellcaster@ (yahoo). com i bet you this one is not fake, As there are so many good things about him online, As anybody that say any bad things about this registered, reliable and real spell caster called Dr Kuq Ya, Is a person that was not patient to see his or her work done the way the spell caster wanted it. You can only choose to believe me because i haven't tried this spell thing before and now that it worked for me after meeting with so many fake before that ripped off my money, I can only happily share with who ever is reading this that he is for real and can help you out of any situation such as: Winning of lottery , Getting a good job , meeting a very good life partner, bringing back your ex-lover, husband and wife just as he did for me. I cant not be listing them here now, All i can say here with full assurance to those that wish to contact him is to tell you all that he is so real and he will never let you down on any problem you seek his powers and help in your life for, And also follow up the process on how he do cast his spell and you will not regret meeting him for help at all. Just send your name , country , phone number and more about your problem you need help on when contacting him.

    July 10, 2015 at 02:52 | Report abuse | Reply
  20. Patricia R. Salazar

    Knowing the reason or reasons on why your significant other commit such act can help you deal with the situation. It will become your crucial key to making a wise decision about the best possible way to deal with your offender’s infidelity. Life is really stressful. Never doubt good opinion with your true feelings.

    August 6, 2015 at 14:05 | Report abuse | Reply
  21. HEILWIG FUHRMANN

    I am another individual that Obudun Magonata awesome has reached. A lot of us have desired love, wealth, luck and all but it always a step too far to reach or the chance never come our way and then it all became a dream nothing more that just a dream. Obudun Magonata the greatest enchanter i have ever known because he is the only one i know helped transform my dream into reality he helped me with an enchantment that made the one that i love find his love for me after wait forever in love with him. We've been best friend even before we could speak , we played together got in trouble together made silly promises at least we kept it but one i could not keep one. I could not stay friends with him forever, i didn't want to just be his friend i wanted more i wanted him to love just as loved him but he saw me as just a friend or he didn't want to admit he was also in love with me because it was obvious we sync perfectly made the same gestures, always in each other arm we were like lover that don't make love . I was always a step behind when it came to letting him know how and what i felt about him. I wanted him to be the one to tell to say to me that he loved me and has always did. I wish i didn't wait for him i wish i told him maybe it wouldn't have took so long to be with him in first place. Through out our high school and collage years he was the guy every girl wanted to date he was the guy every wanted to give up their v card for and all the while i was the best friend of the guy i was in love with the one he tell all the nasty things he's been doing with them. As hard as it was for me i couldn't complain because we weren't dating even when i wanted it so bad. I always found myself wishing i was the girls on the other side. We shared everything about our life and even told each other thing we never told those we dated. I couldn't keep a stable relationship with any guy they all thought we hang out too much each other and i care for him more. They all left because they knew i was in love with him even when i tried to hide it always surfaced. My love life was a total mess and at first, it was really not a big deal because i thought with each man that come into my life a part of what i felt for him will fade away but it wasn't the case. I found myself not being about to love them enough or always comparing them with him that always led to the death of the relationship. I knew i had to let him know i was in love with him and i knew it was going ruin a our friendship and also his relationship. I hated myself because she was a nice girl but i wanted to know if i had a chance, if we loves me just as much as i loved him but he never told me he was too mad with me for what i did not until Obudun Magonata helped me unveil it. I kinda picked the worst time to let him know about my feeling because he was engaged and i made his fiancée call it off. And for two years we didn't speak he told me he never wanted to see me again and that i was dead to him. I was once again alone with my feeling all my effort to restore what i broke was in vain. I was happy the wedding was called off but was not so much because i didn't get him instead he hated me for what i did. I was really really confused i wanted to stop loving i needed to get him off my mind and over. I was on that quest when i found Obudun Magonata on the Internet read about his work with some people and how they all got their heart desire. I contacted him with this email spiritsofobudunmagonata AT yahoo DOT com in the standard email form off course that they left on the Internet he told me the spirit had already told him that i was going to contact him. I only told him about how i was in love with him and what happened when i told him about my feelings but he knew we've best friends since we were kids that i did not tell him he reveal something only Ryan and i Knew yeah that is his name. Obudun Magonata told me that Ryan was always in love me like i loved him but he was unaware of his feeling. I asked him to help with with an enchantment that will make him love me and spend the rest of his life with me. All he used for the process was the materials he asked me to provide and after four days he sent a package via courier service which i paid for with content based on the enchantment he had done for me. I did not pay him anything for what he did for he did not ask me for anything. I followed the instruction i was given and just like told me Ryan was my to love again and i was his to love just like i wanted. Everything happened like the movie only that it was not like it. I mean he was in another state but he came down to let me know he now knew he was in love with and he wanted to love and just love me. It was the best moment of my life i never felt happier than how i felt that day. Just for the record we have being together for a year and six months now and still strong i can even sense a proposer it was one of the thing Obudun Magonata told me will happen.

    August 7, 2015 at 15:32 | Report abuse | Reply
  22. ragner

    Why should other people enjoy life, money and everything else as a result of wealth. Contact and i will bless this money spell upon you and your life will never be the same again. Be among the first 20 clients i help and you will be amazed by the power of this money spell. Contact us today at: ragnerodin@gmail.com

    August 23, 2015 at 21:32 | Report abuse | Reply
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