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November 11th, 2010
12:31 PM ET
The new sex issue and why more men are faking it
When it comes to men and their members, we all know that what goes up must, eventually, come down. But what about when a guy’s erection goes up and stays up? At first blush, it sounds like bedroom benefit. But delayed ejaculation (DE) is a real problem. This umbrella term describes:
And it’s an issue that I'm seeing increasingly. In the past DE was relatively rare compared with other "mechanical malfunctions" such as erectile disorder (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE), a subject I recently wrote about for this blog. Today, however, new factors are contributing to DE’s increased prevalence:
In addition to physical factors, psychological problems can contribute to DE. These can include not wanting to get a woman pregnant, bottled-up anger, and control issues. Lately, I've seen an increase in DE among men who are freaked out about the economy. They may get physiologically aroused, but they’re mentally disconnected and can’t focus enough to get to the point of orgasm. But you might not be able to tell any of that from his bedroom performance. That’s right, ladies, guys fake it too! It's actually pretty easy when he's using a condom—“I just tense my body and moan a lot” says one former patient—and even if he’s going “ungloved,” he still might claim he had an orgasm and ejaculated (“It just wasn’t a lot”). Although there are no clear stats on the number of men faking it, as the factors that cause DE rise, the incidences of faking rise, too. Here are tips for dealing with DE:
By understanding delayed ejaculation and being aware of the factors that might cause it, couples can get on the same page, strengthen their relationship and get back to enjoying an intimate sexual connection. Ian Kerner is a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author. Read more from him at his website,GoodInBed.
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First we don't last too long, now we take too long. Women really need to make up their mind...
Dammit!
Been the same old story since the beginning of time.
I seriously doubt that you're having sex with all women at once. If the one you're with doesn't think this is a problem, then it's not a problem. Feel free to move on. Projecting this onto women as an issue of indecisiveness adds nothing to the discussion.
Damned if you do and damned if you don't, women can't make up their mind.
I love the ads that say "if your erection lasts more than 4 hours, see a doctor".
If my erection lasts more than 4 hours, I'm gonna find my wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, or a hooker!
@Martin: you mean "and", not "or"
uh, the author is a dude, not a chick.
I can take 2 hours. I have yet to hear anyone complain.
If your ejaculation is delayed, consider it a gift.
LOL LOL Sorry... I know we woman are so wishy washy LOL LOL LOL
I'll bet the majority of rapists have that.
Todd: Maybe the women are faking it.
Let me make this perfectly clear: I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Mizz Lewinsky, 'cause she wanted it uncut.
Anything over 40 minutes is overkill. The key is moderation, fellas. No woman wants her bits pounded and assaulted for 2 hours straight.
Honestly, I never had an issue at all, it was different girls every week, but ever since I started percocet and oxys, it completely changed, these things suck, when I stop for a week or two I want every gorgeous girl around me, a lot has to do with the meds we take, and the women being who they are, they need to relax and give more oral!!!
how can a man fake it u either get off or u dont
First
Well, that was premature...
Id like to sign up to be a member of the control group for this survey – thanks
Stop cutting off our foreskins and maybe we won't be having all these problems!
Yes, pleas stop circumcising!! it seriously affects the sex experience.It removes protective tissue around sensitive nerve areas. Plus, without it, whatever sensitivity remains is muted by keratinization of the glans from constant clothing friction.
No, it isnt.
Umm... Speak for yourself.
I am a woman and for one cant stand uncircumsized men...grosses me out. Forget about me getting any pleasure..Ill fake my way through it and be done. I know not all women think that way, but I havent met one yet that Ive mentioned it to that hasnt agreed. Maybe because of the aesthetic look of it, or the fact that you wonder how clean the guy is keeping it...its both for me...but again, Im sure there are women who like it better the other way.
I'm a woman and I think uncut men look SO MUCH better. They also last longer in bed, and it feels better. I did not cut my sons. It's nothing more than ritual mutilation and cruel.
My son was born last Monday. I was asked once before he was born, once after he was born and once on the day we left "if we were getting him circumcised". I said NO all three times. All children are born perfect, why alter them to what we think is "ideal". If he chooses to get circumcised as an adult, it will be his choice.
Hey CleanGal, answer me this: why is it ok for a woman to be uncut but a male is considered unusual if he isnt? Why the double standard? You do know that only 1 in 3 males in the US are not being circumcised and that the US is the only country that does it with any regularity. Uncut is the norm in most of the world, and for good reason.
I meant to say only 1 in 3 are being circumcised. The trend is going down, and more people are realizing that it is an unnecessary surgery.
My lack of foreskin has never given me a problem and I'm glad it's gone. Now, a woman's lack of pubic hair, which seems to be in vogue, really freaks me out. I'm not a pedophile and, therefore, would prefer something that looks mature and not like I'm with a ten year-old.
It's a Jewish tradition. So far, most medical benefits have yet to be fully confirmed.
I don't recall anyone asking me if *I* wanted this voluntary procedure performed on me – WITHOUT ANESTHETIC – when I was 24 hrs old.. I'm pretty sure I would have politely declined !
Every uncut man i've been with has had a weird odor and their parts were completely clean. Even a Dr. I once dated that wasn't circ'd had an odor and we had just "washed up" in the shower. I very much prefer a man to be circ'd and I had all 5 of my boys circumcised.
Mom of 5 wrote: "I very much prefer a man to be circ'd and I had all 5 of my boys circumcised."
Unless you're planning on having sex with your own 5 boys, why would your preferences have anything to do with it? This choice should have been made by your sons when they were old enough to decide, perhaps with some input from their wives or girlfriends.
The bottom line is CHOICE. It should be the child's choice when he is an adult and can make an informed decision. Once it's gone, its gone. What is the harm in putting your personal preferences aside and letting him make a choice, its' his body not yours.
Aw, c'mon, what better way to be greeted to humanity than with a little gen!tal mut!lation!!
It is one of the most honest interactions a male will ever have with our world and its people. People gratuitously cutting your most sensitive parts to satisfy their most primitive urges and superstitions. You are going to spend the rest of your natural life reconciling yourself to that fact, so you may as well confront it early. Let the cuttings continue!!
There have been reports of benefits of circumcision (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/19932700/) however, I do agree, it should be the man's choice whether or not to have it done.. just like us women have the choice of what to do with our bodies...
My boyfriend isn't circumcised and he has this problem... not that i'm complaining lol
Any man who does not clean properly will have an "odor"; don't blame the foreskin for that. And not for nothing but I agree that uncut feels SO much better than cut.
for those women who say it's the son's choice to have the procedure done then why isn't it the choice of the son to eat vegetables or not? why isn't it the son's choice to stay up late and play video games instead of homework?
that's right, it's the mother's choice to do what's best for their OWN children not for you to tell someone else how to raise their OWN children.
Seriously...too much pr0n? Where do people get this stuff? I have yet to see a study showing any good evidence towards desensitization with increased exposure to "adult materials." This is like saying that swinging two bats in the on-deck circle makes you more likely to strike out.
Just stop drinking and getting high right beforehand...that, and the anti-depressants are just making you a time bomb, anyway.
good point, back when I was a kid, being wasted was a good thing, these days not so much. something else I surprised they didn't mention is stress. a lot of times if I can't get to home plate it's because I'm distracted by life's bs.
Well....not sure if it is due to being desensitized, but us men can only have so many in a short timeframe, so if pr0n is thrown into the mix shortly before, it would naturaly take longer with the real thing.
If I have the real thing, I don't care about the online stuff as much
I think one of the points was because of the amount of porn and intensity of the visual stimulation, could cause a man to be indifferent to the real thing. However crazy it may sound... I have seen it happen.
i definitely have this problem. i love internet videos and have more difficulty when trying to be intimate! i guess i stink as a partner, but i find the points made in the article to be tru.
"Head nurse"...hehe
KY lube with the tingle ingredient will solve that issue !!
I like that commercial telling you to "seek medical attention for an erection lasting more than 4 hours". I can tell you, if I had an erection lasting for 4 hours, my WIFE would be needing the medical attention!
I salute you sir!
I can't imagine this being that much of a problem for some women is it? I mean unless they're saying "alright, I've climaxed 6 times, it's starting to hurt, please hurry up and finish!". There's women who probably would kill to have a guy who has trouble making it to the finish line, I'm betting my female neighbour wouldn't mind (after the 50 seconds of sex I heard through the walls of our apartment the other day).
Its also an issue of wanting to please your man; if im having sex I don't want to be the only one having an orgasm. If my man never has an orgasm when we have sex and only has them when he's watching porn & masturbating, i'd start thinking im doing something wrong and my self esteem would suffer. I want my man to be fulfilled.
Have women ever got the idea that men need a little foreplay too? These days women are so much about "me" during sex they forget their partner is a living being too.
But the thing that should be pointed out with much attention is; a man wouldn't be masturbating or cheating if his lover was doing her job.
Even if a woman is doing "her job" some jerks are just greedy and are going to cheat anyway. If a man would work on his needs being met within the relationship instead of opening it up to a third party, maybe she would be more prone to meeting his needs. People cheat because they want to. Not the fault of the victim.
*Most* men are awful in bed and don't know what they're doing, so does that make it OK for women to cheat too? I think it's great if too much porn is making them this way, that's what they get if they look at it too much.
I really don't think this is a problem for the woman, because it's probably better for them. I'm sure if the woman knows what she's doing the problem will go away. I do feel bad for men who can't climax with their partner though. That's a shame.
You are so right dude, and the funny part about it no one is talking about it or even addressing the issue. Basically, most women like some men don't have a clue, and the ones that do, really know the different between good and OMG!!! It amazes me how they always want to blame porn, that's not the problem. Women can't please a man like a man can please them bottomline. There is all kinds of books and movies on how to please her, but she got a one pager on how to please him. Last week the girl I had got seriously crushed in the sack, her legs were so weak she thought it was funny how she could barely walk down the stairs, but for me, I came to the party with two bullets and left with two bullets, what!!? :-/ Next!
I happened to be married to a guy who was addicted to porn before we were married and for the first few years of our marriage (didn't know it at the time), and couldn't figure out why in the world he never wanted to be intimate with me (no matter how persuasive I was!). It basically made our whole relationship and marriage horrid for a few years, and I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong. After he finally got treatment and got rid of the porn addiction, he told me that it wasn't because of me at all but because he was so used to the porn and also the fact that he felt so ashamed that it was easier to push me away than deal with his addiction. Thankfully, he's been free from porn for 13 years, and our marriage and intimacy has been so much better to be rid of it. Porn definitely can develop into an addiction and it ruins the way that the user relates to other real people (not only in bed, but in regular everyday interactions as well). It's just too bad that so many people don't realize how much it can ruin your life and relationships.
"a man wouldn't be masturbating or cheating if his lover was doing her job" Seriously? You think the reason why men cheat is because a woman isn't doing "her job" in the bedroom? If it were only that simple. Cheaters are gonna cheat regardless, it's not just about the sex, it's a power trip... just like sneaking out of your bedroom when you were a teenager (or probably still are). The actual act of climbing out your window wasn't where the thrill was, it was in defying your parents, law enforcement, what have you.
@Diana
You say *most* men are aweful in bed...as if *most* women are great partners too? Women are so concern about how their man perform in bed that they forget to consider what there performance is like, or are oblivious to the fact he has probably faked it too. If you ask a women where is the male g-spot, if it even exist...you'll get a blank stare, guaranteed. Yet at least men know there is such a thing as a female g-spot whether they find yours or not.
By the way...if you ask how do men fake it...here's a few examples:
1. The men can always say to your female partner that you didn't climax because "it's not you baby, it's me" when you know it's completely the opposite. My full-proof reason for "it being me" is I watch too much porn. Fakes them 100% of time.
2. If he doesn't have a condom, he can fake as if he climaxed in her. How often do women "check" to see the evidence of a climax?
3. If he has a condom, he can fake a climaxed and get rid of condom right away or discretely. Again, how often do women "check" for evidence of a climax?
4. Even if she checks or not, he can always claim you didn't climaxed alot.
Next time you're having sex...stop worrying how aweful he is...and ask yourself if its not you that is the aweful one.
I had DE for awhile and the solution for me was to just go cold turkey on masturbation. Now I masturbate with a cold turkey once a week.
My sex life as never been better, but my girlfriend has developed a gravy addiciton.
Turkey gravy, how funny, I laughed twice at this, thanks!
Gobble Gobble
That's the funniest thing I've heard all day. I can't stop laughing.
Lmao
Nice.
Use your mind...it is the most incredible sex organ...no porn can match what you can imagine...when I encounter delayed orgasm all I do is close my eyes during sex and let my imagination take control – trust me I have had sex with Jessica Alba and Taylor Swift together...don't believe me just close your eyes and let your mind take control...
Too much porn? Really? The suggestions here don't reflect reality. Only about 2% of all wives would really care about their man reaching orgasm in a timely manner. Last time I asked my wife to change positions, she left the room.
nice.
Agree. The biggest cause of ED and DE is DF's.
(the D stands for dead,)
Seriously?? That's ridiculous. Why wouldn't she change positions? I don't think that's an unreasonable request at all.
psst. Diana ..get your humor detector to the repair shop – it's broken.
Oh, that was a joke? My bad. I have no idea what women are like in the bedroom. It's funny when I view it as a joke, but sad when I think it could be true - and I can totally see some women being that way, just to be a pain the azz.
Not to be typical, but I just can't wait for the pill curing this. You know its going to happen. I can see the commercial now, "get it as an early Christmas gift, for your man who lasts too long." LOL.
Wow, I would be shocked if they didn't already have something in the works for that very disease.Woman will use it to mess with men, friends will prank friends with it for premature ejaculation jokes. Do we really need to masturbate? Wouldn't a future without a pill to blow finally and you actually wait til you have someone to interact with?
Women need to start taking responsibility for their sex lives. Porn is a symptom, not the problem.
Bottom line: If your man is surfing porn, you're not satisfying him.
You got that straight!! Women...pay attention to this quote.
damn straight!
Or, that the chicks in porn do stuff most women won't (unless they're.. paid to) and that gets you off...
You're going to be disappointed one day sweetie. I'm a female and sometimes I just get that urge when my man isn't around! I don't always go to porn, I just pull my rabbit out of the drawer – but the point is I don't think using a vibrator or watching porn has ANYTHING to do with being satisfied. It has to do with someone being there in the moment. I don't wait if I don't have to.
That is a 100% Grade A Bonafide LIE told by all the conniving little piggies such as yourself who want to have their cake and eat it too. I am a very beautiful, well built, "smoking hot" (as I've been told all my life", naughty woman who is very good in the bedroom and will try most anything, and I have had boyfriends in the past with this pathetic problem. So I definitely know it wasn't me. Men perpetuate this LIE to make their women feel like they aren't good enough so that the man-pig can continue to get away with this little charade.
Ladies, if your man is telling you this Bullsh!t3, don't believe you one bit of it!! It's all designed to make you feel bad and cave in to his addiction. Dump the b@st@rd if it bothers you. It's NOT your problem, it's HIS. Good Luck to you.
Best comments to an online story ever. Not one tea party reference (or tea-bagging for that matter). Awesome – you all made my day with the comments!
DE is George Bush's fault!
I know right ; I want to print these and read them over again. They are so amazing!
Well, I can honestly say I have never faked an orgasm
I sure have!
This happens to my man sometimes. We'll just exhaust ourselves and give up. It gets frustrating. the fact that it was mentioned that – "Bottom line: If your man is surfing porn, you're not satisfying him."...I have NEVER had issues in keeping my partner satisfied and that line of thinking is what makes me have less of a desire to be intimate with him. I have the "is it me?" thoughts and it winds up affecting the overall relationship. And i can't fix a problem he created a long time ago by watching alot of porn and whacking it furiously, which is impossible for me to replicate since i haven't spent years in a computer chair lookin at as much free pron as a could
The pr0n thing was ridiculous. It has nothing to do with it. What is true is that it may be a symptom, like someone pointed out.
What the..... no. dont try that.
No, it's actually you. Get phreaky, watch this little problem go away.
Porn, can be a problem in just the way the author of this artilce described. It doesn't mean that for every man, but for many the porn is taking them away from the "real" action, to an imaginary place, the real world then pale's by comparison. If the porn is getting in the way, it's still possible to enjoy live action, just don't have the orgasm while watching the porn, wait till later and jump your lady, things will happen like they are supposed to, IMHO.
Thank you Michael.
It would be like watching Avatar in the biggest, baddest 3D movie theater... then coming home to watch the local news on a regular television. The stuff they do in porn, is not reality, your average girl is *not* like porn stars.. they do not look like them, act like them or do the things that porn stars do... so really, if porn is what you are going to base your sexual desires on, we don't even have a fighting chance.
I find it interesting that the counselor presented "regular masturbation" and porn as purely problematic. Masturbation is a good way for a man to get in touch with himself (ha-ha). Seriously, masturbation can help one stay (or get) sexually "tuned". Using porn, a man can practice controlling the timing and intensity o his orgasms. It is through masturbation that I learned to have multiple orgasms (I understand rare for men, but it is possible). It's especially useful if my partner isn't feeling well, or on her period, etc. And porn can be helpful in many ways. For example, it's a great way to learn new techniques; techniques that can be shared with a partner so that the very "novelty" the counselor says is needed can be fostered. And, if a real sexual experience isn't going well, a guy (or gal, for that matter) could momentarily fantasize about porn seen previously to add a positive intensity spike, thus improving the real sexual experience.
LMAO!!! I havent laughed harder at any comments section... The guys in the nearby cubicles are looking at me like Im crazy.. thanks for making my day everyone!!!
You know if I'm tired and enough is enough already. Fake, fake, fake, lol.
Isn't a sexual problem only a problem if it creates some negative issue? I enjoy being able to last a long time. I can't think of any girl I've been with who has ever complained. It has always taken me a while and I like to savor the feeling. It's not all about the destination. Getting there is half the fun!
A good reason to stay away from Anti-Depressants.. They can ruin your sex life and make you more depressed!
"KRAMER: You know, I faked it.
JERRY: What?!
KRAMER: Yeah.
JERRY: You faked it? Why would you do that?
KRAMER: Well you know, if it's enough already and I just wanna get some sleep."
Finally! I've had this problem for a long while, but have never heard it explained. Can get hard as a rock immediately and stay that way for way over an hour, but just never reach that point. Girlfriends have thought there was something wrong with THEM (boring or too loose), to the point where I would just start faking it and acting like it was the best thing ever. You can actually fake it quite well, make it pulse, etc. But in the end it ruins relationships. Invariably, girls will at first act like you're a sexual god... but then they get thinking "Um, why isn't he so excited to be with me that he can't last two minutes"... you can never go right it seems.
How come this article and discussion thread aren't flagged as adult and therefor inappropriate for children? I mean, come on CNN I don't have a problem with frank sexual content but why can my 8 year old nephew read this with no warning what-so-ever? Just dumb.
... because it's called "life" ?
Sounds like someone needs to get a babysitter.
Hey Dev,
Where do you think your 8 year old came from.. the stork?
May I ask why would your 8 year old be reading an article about why men are faking it??
if you have such a problem with it watch your child, or dont let them on the computer, dont blame the internet, be a F#@%!ng parent.
Oh Jesus Christ.. shut up. I didn't plan on commenting but I felt I must on this, CNN is aimed at adults, not children, it's people like you that bring all this censoring and nontransparency.. ugh.
Seriously, it is not fun for either party.
I dated a guy with this "problem". Wasn't much of a problem. *sigh* we had fun
@ Kirsten – Bottom line, I'm one of THOSE women, but a real one with all of the requisite equipment. I have a man who lasts a long time, and it is wonderful for a while, but Yes, I started to wonder if there was something I could do for him, or something I should be doing to make him feel as good as I do. He told me he was enjoying himself, and we figured it out together, and we're both happily exhausted.
Real name, I could post my name as Beetlejuice and you wouldn't know if it was my real name or not! Honestly, who cares? It's really none of your business if I want to call myself George Bush on a posting board!
Some of us women actually really just love men. They are entitled to be as idiosyncratic (sorry if I mispelled that) as we as women are. And they can provide hysterical fodder for girls'night out conversation.
How can you not love women ?? Who the heck loves men ?? The very sight of men disgust me....Hahah...now women,...mmmmm....especially curvy ones like you curvygrl !! MMMMMMMM
I couldn't agree more, Curvy!
I was on Paxil for a long time and it definitely causes DE. Totally ruined any fun while I was on it. But I think a lot of you are missing the point of this problem. Lasting long is not the issue. Lasting so long that the girl doesn't want to go on or is in pain or just flat out late for something else because you took 2 hours and didn't finish. I mean, you even gotta clear your schedule for a solo session it takes so long. It makes everybody involved unhappy. Thank God I got off Paxil. I should never have been on that poison to begin with. It caused so much to go haywire.
I call it Paxil-di**. It was great in the twenties when you wanted to finish slower, but sucks in the 40's.
The people criticizing the porn angle seem to be misinterpreting the point. No one said porn causes it. It's the abuse of porn, where a person has been so overstimulated that normal stimulation doesn't get them off anymore. There's nothing illogical about that. I mean, the freakier my girlfriends got as time went on the less I got turned on by things that used to do the trick. It makes sense with porn then too.
This article is just ridiculous. I'm a 22 year old girl and I watch just as much porn as any guy I know. My last guy and I watched porn together and then had sex. Porn isn't a symptom, or the problem. It's fun. Any woman that has a problem with their man watching porn needs to really reevaluate themselves. If your man takes too long, it shouldn't be a problem, it should just mean you get to spend more time having fun. Enjoy it...
"22 year old girl"
This in itself speaks volumes.. yes, at 22, you and your guy are gonna have fun and chances are y'all haven't been watching porn for the last 10 years to feed an addiction... but a 30 or 40-something year-old couple, who either party may have a porn addiction.. it's gonna be a different story. Porn isn't bad... but, just like anything else, an excess of it can be.
Come back in another ten years when your ears are dry.
Wow. I've only read a couple of commenters that were qualified to talk about e subject. If you've never suffered from it, you have no right to laugh or accuse one partner or the other. While this could be considered funny, it ends up being frustrating to both partners and could end up wrecking relationships. Thank you for writing this article.
Agreed. I find all most of these comments frustrating – it's always the same "funny jokes" when this problem is discussed; "I wish I had that problem hurr hurr!", bickering about "what women want", and arguments that the woman is doing something wrong. This is a REAL problem that severely affects intimacy between partners and destroys relationships. The fact that everyone always treats it like a joke totally inhibits finding information or advice, or getting help if it is happening to you.
"too much masturbation to porn can mess with a guy’s sex skills"
That's a good point...you've got pictures of fabulously hot twenty-somethings and if one bores you after 30 seconds you switch to another. I'm not sure if there's a fix for this...those twenty-somethings that are made of pixels are a hell of a lot easier to come by than the real thing.
Well I have never meet a women that cane do anything for me than I cant do with my own hands
I apologize for coming late into this thread.
lmao nice
From personal experience, this article is correct in all accounts. I had two bfs awhile back and both masturbated a lot, with their vice like grips, and it was nearly impossible for them to orgasm by having regular sex me. They had to finish themselves off, and their "technique" of JO was pretty brutal. And then there was this other guy who watched porn all the time before we met. I think he secretly wanted me to do all of the stuff he saw on the internet, but he couldn't ask me directly. Then there was the man who was on antidepressants and told me we can have sex for as long as I want and then we can stop, don't mind that his erection never goes away... and I didn't. I sure know how to pick them.
My ex-boyfriend had that problem. He was on several kinds of medications: anti-depressants and insulin and Viagra were just the beginning. I saw many bottles in his cabinet over the years. I don't know what was in them, but I can't imagine they helped the situation at all. He was in his mid-60s, considerably older than me.
There were many times that he didn't orgasm. We made many efforts many different ways. We tried porn, lingerie, erotica... You name it, we tried it.
It wasn't his fault, it wasn't my fault. He was just old and on lots of medications. It happens, people.
How ironic. The old wives tale about masturbating causing blindness actually helped ensure that men not only looked forward to sex but actually enjoyed it.... Now that all of the taboos have been removed, it has been proven once again that having an unlimited supply of anything isn't such a great thing after all.
Yup. Been there, faked that. Nice to hear I'm not alone. It's even funnier when we both fake it just to finish. I used to go for half an hour or an hour – to the point where my girlfriends ended up walking funny the next day. Now I know why – lots of masturbation and porn when I was a kid. I don't care. I wouldn't trade my sex life for the world: better too long than too short. And my wife is happy if not a bit frazzled some days.
For years women have complained that men shoot too quick. So we go through contortions to fix that. Now we take too long. Stop complaining and just be happy some guy is interested enough to get it on with you. Because the vast majority of women in this country need to put down the doughnuts and hit the elliptical.
+1 Max !
Oh man, I couldn't agree more!
I like a woman with a little bit of body fat. It looks better than a sack of bones.
This is a really good article. I definitely cut down on the porn when dating, as I find it can sometimes diminish the appeal of real s-x (even better than the real thing as U2 presciently sang). That being said, I cut down on porn because the real thing is a hundred thousand times more awesome. If you're with a woman you have chemistry with in that area, makes porn seem like watching the cooking channel versus eating an awesome meal. Word.
You just completely contradicted yourself. Idiot.
I love porn. Nothing better than finding something on the web and finish off with my women. For me, the over stimulation has the opposite effect when i can't last as long. Don't get me wrong, I love doing it myself but when I am hard and she is wet, ROCK ON.
This is awesome. De is the greatest thing ever. Now they need a premature ejaculation pill. Haha.
I am an older uncut man. Never had a problem with it. Nor did my wife, who in 'Woman Superior' position could have two or three orgasms. But I agree with 'COMICSNOOP' regarding the unfortunate trend of SHAVING among females today. It's like taking a well landscaped piece of property and cutting everything down. Looks lost!!! Now, I love women but there are some areas of their bodies that aren't the prettiest thing in the world. Some of them got more stuff hanging out of their crouch than I do. You perhaps got a prolapsed uterus??? Girls, leave what the Lord gave you growing there. To me it provides you with; a little dry lubricant during intercourse, as well as a degree of secrecy, and a modicum of modesty!!
If you want to avoid climaxing quick the best thing to do is masturbate n climax then have sex n climax again. The chick who wrote this is a minute woman. Women who need men to have 5 minute orgasms are actually men in disguise.
So women who can get off quickly are men. . .does that mean the men who take longer are women in disguise?
I remember this one girl, that when we were through I had to say, "If I knew you were a virgin, I would have taken my time."
She replied, "If I knew you had more time, I would have taken my panty hose off."
OK..Old one....
I had this issue several years back. Of course, I thought I may have had a problem back then. In my case, was was a control freak and all she was concerned about was holding me in the right position to make her orgasm in less than a minute. Match that with an attitude that everyone else "was stupid" and I was was an idiot, it makes sense now. I guess my mind was protecting me from getting her pregnant. LOL... Anyway, I divorced her and her snotty kids and realized in my first relationship with onother women that my parts worked just fine! My advice to the guys... contemplate if you are getting emotionally abused by your wife and if so, leave. Us guys don't want to give up 1/2 of the assets , but in the end, there is nothing better than a healthy relationship... and that is the best revenge! Oh by the way "NL", I married Doctor after I divorced you! Have a great life in a call center!
For married men whose sack did not come with an OFF switch installed, there are two options: porn or affair. (Because, once you feed a woman her own wedding cake, you have destroyed her sexuality. Gone, baby, gone, just as surely as if you killed her.) Affairs can be more fun, but can also be prohibitively expensive. Meanwhile, the internet age has made porn free. In these times of heightened financial awareness, that makes porn the winner.
I know that one well about wedding cake, we speak of it all the time in my circle at work. Not a guru, but it seems that it's not only the woman who changes after the wedding. Keep your self and your interests and your guy friends and don't make the marriage all about her. You stay attractive to her that way.
If you can't get there with a woman it's because you'd rather be getting there with another man.